So my bf and I broke up, and are trying to come back. My best friend who in the past used to mention how she used to have a crush on my bf (in front of me!) has been trying to convince me not to talk to him. Like he isn’t worth it…leave he…forget about him…don’t pick up his calls bla bla….At one point she even said to me and my ex ‘if I really want something really bad I would do anything for it even steel it’. My ex and I did not like what she said and he was mad!
First of I caught her in many lies before…
But then she was getting upset that we still talked and said well what if I told you that he grabbed my *** while I was with you and you were sitting next to him and he was hugging you…I was shocked! So she said he did that…He was pretty drunk right there I know that…and I don’t know if I should believe her or not…
So I couldn’t hold it in me and called him up she was there. He is in denial and is telling her that she is lying that he did NOT touch her ***…
What do I do? Who do I believe?
He texted me saying if you want to believe her then believe her, but that he never touched her ***. That she’s always been jealous of me and the way he treats and loves me. And that she just wants to pull me away from him (forgot to mention that she is also bisexual). He said he would even tell her to her face.
If you were in my shoes, what would you do?
Please honest answers/suggestions only.
2006-10-27 06:48:28 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I've known him for 5 years and have been friends with her for 3 years. BTW, he never cheated on me before. We broke up because his parents and i didnt get along and he had to choose at one point and i got really upset that he was having doubts about choosing me and told him to leave to his folks...
2006-10-27 07:06:49 · update #1
Yes, she is a pathological liar I think!
My ex is sort of upset that I believed her for a moment...He says she always wanted me and never could, she was always jelous of you, she lied this to pull you away from me...I trully feel that yes he is saying the truth!
2006-10-27 07:29:10 · update #2
I'd stay away from both of them. Who wants that kind of drama? If you go back with him, you'll always have that question in the back of your head.
And about your friend...that's not a friend at all.
2006-10-27 06:52:03 · answer #1 · answered by Royalhinney 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What's hard is you will never know the truth. In your life you will probably go through this same circumstance many times and each time you will be looking at the situation with a stronger understanding. It's hard for anyone to tell you exactly who to believe becasue nobody knows what's really going on aside from the 2 people involved. What I would recommend is taking some serious time alone (outside of their drama) to determine what it is you want in life. Do you want to be with a man who you don't trust? Do you want to have a best friend who causes drama and you also don't trust? Or is it better to forgive both of them and step out of the situation a little? I hope you figure it all out. Good luck.
2006-10-27 14:08:47 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
After five years, you should know both of them pretty well and, you have basically answered your own question. You have not mentioned that she is in a relationship because if she was, she would not have time for yours. Think about it!!!!
2006-10-27 13:59:51 · answer #3 · answered by desstan 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off...Women can be decieving ..you can not trust her...I have had incidents where my SO CALLED best friend was trying to give me some advice over my ex..Found out later that the whole time she was trying to sleep with him...Don't trust her or belive her...I know alot of people say we women need to stick together...Yeah i hear all that, but women can be DIRTY!!!! Ya gotta know who you can and cannot trust.
2006-10-27 13:53:26 · answer #4 · answered by mmarie1221 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a "TUFF" one:You really need to keep your friend to the curb! She's trouble!!! Now it's up to you to decide if you believe your boyfriend or not! Weigh your options and listen to your heart!!! Good Luck
2006-10-27 13:53:51 · answer #5 · answered by TruDiva 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
looks like you got a sorry *** "best friend" did you ask her, if he did touch her, why she didn't tell you before? I don't know your man, so I can only assume if he did or didn't, but your best friend seems to be kinda shady
2006-10-27 13:55:07 · answer #6 · answered by Lovebug123 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's a liar. She wants to hook up with him and is trying to make you guys hate each other so she can have him. I don't think she's a very good friend.
2006-10-27 14:19:42 · answer #7 · answered by Lotus 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay away from both of them. Your friend isn't acting like a true friend and if you're suspecting your man, then maybe you should leave him too.
2006-10-27 13:56:43 · answer #8 · answered by catch22 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
usually I would say, believe your friend... but.... from what it sounds like... Your man is telling the truth. she wants him she's told you this. so she probably just doesn't want you with him. it's drama from both ends.... there will always be that.. WHAT IF?
2006-10-27 13:52:03 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well this is tough, why did you and your boyfriend break up? Who have you known the longest? I don't know either one of them but answering these questions might help you.
2006-10-27 14:01:05 · answer #10 · answered by Tab 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋