Have you ever cheated on someone? Ever been cheated on?

Question

How did you handle it or how did they handle it? What compells people to cheat? Do you believe the saying "Once a cheater, always a cheater" ...?

Answer 1

I've never cheated on someone, but I have been cheated on. At the time I couldn't prove it 100%, but there were obvious signs like staying out all night and having female "friends" drop him off at home. Also he was drinking more than usual. Even though I never caught him red handed, I finally got fed up and even though we were engaged I kicked him to the curb. He tried to say he was just nervous about the wedding, but that he wasn't cheating. I told him if he was that nervous it wasn't meant to be. A short time later I found out he was cheating on me with a much younger woman. I think what compelled him was his immaturity. He wasn't ready to be in a long term relationship and I thank my lucky stars I didn't marry him because my life would have been horrible. As far at the "once a cheater...." thing goes I think that depends on the situation. If you have someone who is in their 30's or older and has always cheated on every partner they have ever had, numbers aren't with you and it is probably not worth the risk of being in a relationship with that person. However, I know people who cheated when they were young and immature and are now in successful, monogamous relationships. Good luck to you, with whatever your situation is.

Answer 2

I cheated once on hubby after I caught him 7 times cheating on me over the 10 years we were together. Then divorced and met 2 more guys afterward for 3 years relationships with each. One guy cheated 3 times and the other 2 times. So, I most certainly believe in the saying "once a cheater, always a cheater" cause that was my life.

Thank god I finally found a mature guy who thinks like I do, you cheat, you deserve a bullet between the eyes.

Answer 3

Yes, I have cheated. Spouse never found out about it though. I was compelled to cheat by a spouse that never took the time or the effort to find out what pleased me ... my lover did. i would not say once a cheater always a cheater but cheating once makes it easier the second time.

Answer 4

are you feeling guilty or thinking about it? i dont think once a cheater always a cheater is always true. i have cheated not because i want to be a cheater but because i was not happy with the relationship , i have also been cheated on by ex wives, ex girlfriends, that i never thought of cheating on,their answer is always the same too, not happy. i think two people who are truly in love with each other would not cheat.

Answer 5

My wife has cheated on me several times. My bipolar behavior was one of the reasons plus she had to go through counseling to learn there is a difference in love and sex. When she would get to the point of not being able do deal with our married life, she would go find someone else to go to bed with.

The first time led to some intense counseling for both of us. The last time led to a divorce but we are remarried after seeing a marriage counselor for a year then having individual counseling for two years.

I am on medication for bipolar so that is no longer a problem and we are happily married to each other.

No, I do not believe in once, always. Cheating is a behavior that can be changed but the cheater has to want to change.

Answer 6

I never actually cheated i left the person before i actually cheated ///But i have been cheated on and left for another ///And yes ONCE A CHEATER always A CHEATER they are never satisfied they are too selfish to think the hurt they caused a person when they cheat so to answer your last ? yes

Answer 7

I've Cheated, don't think ive ever been cheated on...but you never know, people cheat when they're not being satisfied in a relationship wether it's sexually, emotionally, physically, what ever it may be. I don't believe once a cheater always..... because I 've only cheated on one of my boyfriends

Answer 8

yep once a cheater always a cheater.. I cheated on my husband, but my reasoning was that i needed someone to talk to and he wouldnt so i turned to a friend.. I never told him unitl a year ago when he cheated on me and we are now divorced.. Its really wierd how it works i guess. I havent really dated anyone serious and want to be, but then again am i gonna not want this cause i find myself attracted to someone else....so i guess it would be considered cheating.. what do i do?>????

Answer 9

My ex-husband cheated on me with someone from his work because he was having issues with a new manager. The girl he cheated with knew the new manager and understood. He told me I would have had no idea where he was coming from. I told him that is why communication works. I may not have known the man, but I have had bosses who were @ss's and I do listen pretty good. Yes I believe the saying. He started cheating on this same girl with me again, and his now wife. He has also cheated on his now wife with me, before they were married.

Answer 10

I am sorry to say I have been in both situations. I was cheated on by my ex husband. I was pregnant at the time and devastated. It ended in divorce before our son was a year old, I re-married a wonderful man who adopted my son and everyone lived happily ever after....or so I thought. Several years later and 2 more children later, I found myself involved with a guy I worked with. I don't know why I did it. Now, I feel AWFUL about it. It is embarrassing and shameful and hurtful to everyone involved. My husband found out and we attempted counseling. We are working it out, but I know the hurt I caused him will never go away. He can never truly forgive me. I know how bad it hurt, because it had happened to me. I don't know why I turned around and did it to him. All I can say is, we both worked and have three kids, the stress level was very high. Our youngest son was only 4 months old at the time of the affair, so naturally my husband questions my fidelity at the time our child was conceived. I have destroyed everyone's trust. If I am gone to the store longer than I should have been, I get questioned. If there are unusual numbers on my cell phone, I get questioned. Not just by my husband, but my mother, too. I can't blame them. Not after all of the lying and cheating. I feel horrible about what I did....I feel horrible about the hurt I caused the other man's wife. My husband and I will make it. I am determined to make this up to him. I am no longer working around this other man. I was for awhile and couldn't afford to quit my job. However, the company laid off a majority of it's employees and I was one of those left unemployed. I guess that's divine intervention to get me away from the guy! I'm really glad that I'm not in that situation anymore. I was no longer in contact with him and had not seen him in months, but it was difficult for my husband to know that we (me and the other guy) even parked on the same parking lot. This nearly destroyed my family. It is still very difficult. I think time is the only thing that will help. It's been less than a year and we've come a long way. Hopefully time will heal. I know that I will never cheat again, so I don't necessarily believe, "Once a cheater always a cheater", but I know it would be very hard to trust someone after they have betrayed your trust. I know how hard it has been for my husband and our family. I don't know what compelled me to cheat. I honestly can't believe I did it. It was like what I was doing was not reality, but some kind of an escape from reality. My husband and I had just had our third child, both working and never any time to relax. The guy I got involved with was younger than me. I wasn't feeling particularly good about myself, so I guess I got some kind of a boost from involvement with someone younger. It honestly all seems like a horrible nightmare now. I was afraid my husband was going to kill himself, or the other guy, or both. It got to the point that I actually had to call the cops to our house to keep my husband from leaving the house with his rifle. I was thinking things would be better if I were dead, just end it all, but then there are our kids. I don't know if any of this will help, but I think it helped me to type it. Whatever the situation, cheating is never the answer. It leads to destruction of everything you have and will ever have.