JUST FOUND OUT HE CHEATED ON ME!How can I forgive my boyfriend!?

Question

How can I forgive my boyfriend! He got a job in a film for two moths to be able to find a place to move in.I'm due in three weeks from now,What is ironic is that the first day of his job was also the first time we so our baby in a sonogram. How can someone be son insensitive about it and go and have sexual relationships with the director of the movie? I even spoke to her last week.I don't know what to do.We still live in the same place, I'm in a really tide situation here.My family is in a different state plus my doctors are here i can not leave. I'm so hurt that I don't even want to allowed him to be part of labor, but at the same time I don't want to be alone...I would like to give him an opportunity, go to therapy or something, well I discover that he cheated with other people as well...but we may don't have time to heal before labor...I already have contractions..anybody out there with good advise? Im hurt

Answer 1

Why would you forgive him? I'd rather be single than to stay with a lying, cheating loser...I guess that's just me

Answer 2

I can't say that I have the best advice , but I can say that I have been cheated on more than once , the thing is it sounds like this has been an on going thing for him and it sounds like the two of you need to talk because there has to be a reason for this to be happening , if you want to give him a chance , then you have to know the cause , and decide if anything can be done to prevent this from happening , then you have to know that within yourself you can from your heart forgive him , if not it is a lost cause, because no forgivness means no trust , once you have been betrayed in that way especially it is very hard to trust again no matter how much you would like to , trust is something earned it does not just happen, it sounds like he has alot of work to do , but it can work depending on how much you both want it to, therapy is a good idea , although my therapy is prayer, each to their own, i will also say the baby is not an excuse to stay in a bad relationship , usually its the child who will end up hurt emotionally in the long run, and your boyfriend knows that as well , you need to just find out once and for all what his reasoning is in this , and yes it is very insensitive, but just remember were all human that is not an excuse its a fact , what i would be concerned with is , is it going to continue , anyway i will sure remember you all in my prayers it sounds like you all have alot on your plate especially you ,,,,,, God Bless

Answer 3

it hurts i know. and nothing is going to take away that pain immediately. if he's been cheating with other people, too, there may be a deeper problem that he has and it won't go away just like that. if he's willing, you should probably go to therapy together to find out why he does this. but right now, focus on the baby you are going to have since you said you are already having contractions. if you go into labor and feel like having him there, then let him be there. if you feel that you don't want him there, tell him. he should be the one going out of his head thinking of what he can do so that he won't lose you because he's the one who did you wrong. wait until you know all the details before you make any decisions. but for now, the baby comes first. goodluck.

Answer 4

Im really sorry for your hurt sweetie, and if i could I would give you a hug. Your boyfriend abused your trust and you are not obligated to forgive him. Now about you staying with him. You fear being alone but consider this. What kind of home will your son grow up in. You shouldnt subject a child to that. When parents dont love each other or only stay together because of a child it takes a psycological effect.

Answer 5

Ok you are pregnant and about to be have this baby/// To answer your question go ahead with the anger leave him he cheated on you when you needed him the most when you are carrying his child///NO NO girl you go ahead and let him be part of the labor but kick his *** out as soon as you get home...Tell him the director should pick his *** up and for the director on the real you need to whoop that *** for her being so damn disrespectful how would she like if its done to her////Your best bet right now is your ANGER and your HURT go with it run with it AND REMEMBER there is an old saying ONCE A CHEATER ALWAYS A CHEATER!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!good luck

Answer 6

even if u love him, u'll never be able to forgive him. i was with my man for 4 years and we have a son together, and everytime he walked out the door it was always in mind if he was goona do it agian, and sure enough he said he woudnt but he did. so now i say once a cheater always a cheater. but bc i still love him to this day, i give it to him when he wants it, that way he doesnt have to worry bout gettin it from someone else. so if u really want to forgive him, then u got to talk to him, and ask ur self if u really do love him, and its up to ur heart to forgive him. if u cant trust him everytime he walks out the door then u'll never forgive him.
u guyz r gonna have a baby. start over new, and let go of the past so u can start a brand new future in a new place w/ ur baby.
GOOD LUCK.

Answer 7

No doubt about the guy being a dog (to say the least) For a guy to be that insensitive and hurt you while your preg with his child just shows how cruel he is so I too believe that he will probably do it again. You don't need him in your life if he's hurting you life is too short to live that way. I say if you feel he would do it again than leave, but don't kick him out of your baby's life.

Answer 8

It's sad to say..But satistically around 85% of men cheat on there pregnant wife or girlfriend...It has happened to me...If it is the first time he done it I'd try to give him the benefit of the doubt and give him one more chance, But if he does it again..It will not stop until you end it..He will do it as long as you let him too you...

I know how you feel..It's so sad that these men risk loosing and throwing away everything that is important in there life over a few minutes of satisfaction...All they think about is theirself...It's sickening..But true...I wish you the best...

Answer 9

my boyfriend of 7 years cheated on me too while i was pregnant i found out 1 month after i had the baby and the crazy part about it is that the hore who he cheated gave us an STD and i found out when i went to go get my postpartum check up this happend 3 months ago and even tought he knew she gave us something he still will talk to her i put a stop on her but i cant trust him cuz that was not the 1st time so i think your boyfriend will do it again sit down and speak to him but the most important thing rigth now is to worry about you and that precious baby inside hes not worth you going trough all the stress. Relax for now after you have the baby sit with him and review all your options and find out for yourself if u think you and that baby deserve that life he will give you.Good luck with the delivery and rigth now take it easy!!!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 10

What he did was wrong, but that doesn't make him less of a father. He should be there when you're having the child. You do not have to have a relationship with him, and I think you shouldn't when he's commited such a heinouse crime against you, but do not take away his rights as a father. Let him be there at the birth, let him visit and take care of his child, even though you two are not together.

Answer 11

Right now you need to focus on having your baby and not stressing yourself over your man, right now you need to put that aside and have your child when it is ready to be born. I know it is hard to do when someone you truly love has cheated on u but you have to do this for you and the baby. You have a beautiful child that is about to be born soon and do what is right for you'll baby sake. Sit down and talk this over with him and you can always forgive and forget. Right now let it be all about the baby that will soon be here. Also congratulations!!!!