we all do it or have done it at least once if not a million times - so there must be some GREAT benefit or gain or pay off to self-pity.
But what the heck is it?????
2006-10-27 06:25:07 · 12 answers · asked by zigzagidiot 3 in Arts & Humanities ➔ Other - Arts & Humanities
Well, it shows that you have a capacity for compassion, and that you truly want to be your own best friend, which compliments self help gurus everywhere and sells more books. If we don't show a willingness & interest to care about what happens to us, who the heck will?
2006-10-27 10:00:28 · answer #1 · answered by amuse4you 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm not particular about this yet you sound like someone who's not experienced a severe melancholy. As some one which has been struggling with it considering that age 9 and that i'm fifty 2, do you imagine that 40 years in the past they in basic terms clinically determined toddlers with melancholy in the adventure that they weren't?? remember that is not the guy who makes the diagnosis yet a psychiatric specialist. Are you saying that they don't comprehend what they are doing?? That they don't comprehend the version between melancholy and self pity??? melancholy is genuinely different from self pity. melancholy can damage both psychologically and bodily. melancholy makes it very puzzling to do issues that you want and performance to do daily!! You not in basic terms don't have the emotional capacity to do any component you do not' have the actual capacity both. you do not in basic terms experience unhappy you experience hopeless and also you experience like your existence will not be worth residing. Self pity is my existence isn't going the way that i want it and in a lot of situations you get over it very right away and make strikes to modify your existence. in case you change into paralyzed by technique of the self pity than it change into melancholy. Self pity is uaually led to by technique of existence not likely the way that you want it. With melancholy existence does not go the way that you want through melancholy and becasue melancholy is led to by technique of chemical imbalances.
2016-12-05 07:11:16 · answer #2 · answered by kobayashi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you get in a self pity mood, you need to write down your thoughts. Keep this up for about a month (I do it for life) and go back and review when you are in a good mood. You will begin to see a pattern emerge...what sets you off, why you're upset, what thoughts keep recurring, who upsets you etc etc. This can teach you what situations and who to avoid. You might also find that a confrontation is in order. This journal helps you to understand yourself and what steps you need to take when you find yourself in a bad place. It is essential that you write this, not program it in your mind. The written word has power. You can change your life when you understand your life. Believe me, the patterns will emerge. You will be surprised at how often a certain set of circumstances that upset you, repeat themselves. Then change these circumstances and how you respond. Your life will take an upswing. I call it the "elimination of stressors."
2006-10-27 06:35:54 · answer #3 · answered by juncogirl3 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not saying we should wallow in self-pity but it's good for each of us to occasionally be a little self-centered. Some days, when your inner-child is upset, instead of scolding yourself, giving yourself a little pity can help get past a bigger obstacle. When you get it over with it can help you to see the bigger picture. I think it helps us to be a little more balanced. There is a time and a place for every emotion.
2006-10-27 06:40:02 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Self-pity is the last refuge of the egotist.
Usually people who pity themselves ended up this way by being mean to others.
Stop pitying yourself, get up and do something.
2006-10-27 10:12:40 · answer #5 · answered by Rosina G 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps it's a form of introspection? Most of us don't take the time to sit down with ourselves and think about what we're doing, so maybe a good, long bout of self-pity affords us that time.
2006-10-27 06:29:06 · answer #6 · answered by dingobluefoot 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Self-pity is just self-awareness taken to the nth degree. We know what is wrong in our lives but are either powerless or place barriers in our way to stop us from changing it. I tend to find that people that pity themselves are more self-aware, unfortunately they're also usually stuck in a rut!
2006-10-27 07:35:25 · answer #7 · answered by Jez 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's no real benefit... It's just easier for someone to feel sorry for themselves versus doing something about it.
2006-10-27 06:28:31 · answer #8 · answered by Yay for Summer 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no upside what so ever... just a great excuse to do some retail therapy
2006-10-27 06:29:56 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're the one person who can say to yourself, "I know how you feel" and really mean it.
2006-10-27 06:37:19 · answer #10 · answered by beast 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋