i love him but im tired of him cheating.I dont think Im ugly i just want him to be faithful,he says he loves me but doesnt know why he does it.
2006-10-27 06:03:54 · 30 answers · asked by back to boosy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
he's cheated on you often? well he'll probably most likely do it again, but you have to know that. the real question isnt what you should do, but why do you stay? and he's been living with you for 7 years? after that long you'd think he'd have committed to the relationship and married you. if youre paying the majority of the bills maybe its out of convenience, but other than that he wouldn't care if you left him or he wouldn't cheat. when the situation arises time after time you know it crosses his mind gee my girlfriend might find out and leave me, but he still does it, as for why he does it, he sure does know why...he wanted to have sex with the other girl, was attracted to her...and so on and so on...leave him let him play house with someone else, and if your gonna settle for playing house with someone, atleast have a line you won't let someone cross...he could end up getting someone else pregnant, or catching some std, better to leave and get the hurt of losing him over now than have possible more hurt...face it, he's already left you emotionally...all thats left is the physical part...he's not your boyfriend or he wouldn't cheat...sounds like he's more a room mate with benefits that thinks he can do what he wants with whoever he wants...find someone else, you deserve better
2006-10-27 06:45:26 · answer #1 · answered by beckie 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some men have a real problem with being faithful,I believe that because men since the begining of time has been allowed more than one wife it's just in there DNA some men have learned to modify this behavior and some are just working off of impulse.What ever the reason if you don't want to be in a relationship were you have to put your health and self-esteem at risk then you may want to consider looking for a new love.Love doesn't hurt ,and someone who really loves you wouldn't continue to hurt you,especially not repeatedly.he may have a sexual disorder,or he may be just a cheat,who wants his cake and ice cream too.Aids is a very serious,but real disease,and at the rate he's going you are more and more at risk,I,ve always believed there's no penis or vagina worth dying over.Do you?
2006-10-27 06:31:17 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
For starters, he is a boyfriend, not husband so technically....he is not cheating. Lying...betraying you...hurting you yes. That what you need to focus on. If you love him, you can work on him to grow. Or, better yet, he is obviously not ready to get married if you all have been together for 7yrs. Sit down with him and have a heart to heart. Tell him EXACTLY what you want....not what he wants to hear, but what you want. Set yourself a time frame (December 31, 2006) if nothing changes by then. Sista you gotta keep it moving. It's more men out here that will give you what you deserve.
Good luck!!
2006-10-27 06:21:46 · answer #3 · answered by sassy lady 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Put him out! Constant cheating... cheating period is not love. "I don't know" is an answer you expect from a child. In an adult relationship, it's a cop out. He obviously doesn't value you or your relationship so I suggest you start valuing yourself and let him go. It may be hard at first but it will get better and you'll feel better about it later. You should ask yourself if you're worth more that what you've been getting out of the relationship; do you deserve happiness... but i'm sure you already know the answer to that.
2006-10-27 06:21:43 · answer #4 · answered by QueenE 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How many strikes are you willing to give, before you consider him out. You must know now if you don't have trust in a relationship you have nothing. That the lack of trust and doubt will bring you unhappiness. Say tomorrow he promises to never do it again. Would you believe him and stay with him. Then spend the rest of your relationship worrying, watching for the signs and doubting whether he's being honest or not.
I can't see where you can have any long term happiness waiting for the next mistake he makes. You deserve better and whether you believe it or not their are men out their that are capable of being fateful and honest. You know what you have in your relationship with him. Why not close that door and open another to find real happiness.
2006-10-27 06:14:43 · answer #5 · answered by Balou 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Kick him to the curb! One of the most disrespectful things someone can do in a relationship is cheat. It shows that they have absolutely no respect for the other person as a human being. The least they could do is let them know that they aren't interested and BREAK UP instead of going behind their back and doing something.
2006-10-27 06:36:13 · answer #6 · answered by Tgrman80 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I relatively consider indignant after studying your tale.....WHY THE F*CK might you cheat for your boyfriend in the event you relatively likes him.... I am a man and that i relatively HATES A GIRL LIKE YOU and having a female friend such as you is what i might on no account wish to have in my long run and i'm best 15...... Your boyfriend is a well or probably a satisfactory and first rate man or woman as he give up his schoold FOR YOU and he's nonetheless sufferer that he desired to forgive you and provide you a moment danger that A GIRL LIKE YOU WOULD NOT DESERVE..... I am sorry for being very impolite closer to you however i'm a man and that i fully grasp it....... He does no longer deserve you to be his spouse and that i believe you must simply advised him to get a divorce or probably make him hates you purposely in order that he might hate you and on no account believe of you once more..... You say " I simply do not fully grasp why he nonetheless wishes to be with me and positioned this all at the back of us and transfer ahead ".......Of path you would not fully grasp....A woman such as you who CHEATS might on no account fully grasp how your boyfriend feels...... Say sorry to him and simply admit that you're having intercourse with that JERK who's your boyfriend's bestfriend..... I simply could not fully grasp why many ladies continuously CHEATS and on no account appreciate and love his Boyfriend,
2016-09-01 03:30:37 · answer #7 · answered by alienello 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know 7 years is a long time but I would not stay there and keep getting your heart hurt. If he keeps doing it then that would flash a red flag to me that he wants other women. I would leave if I were you. If a man/women cheats once he/she will do it again (and again and again). Sweetie I would just split and start fresh with a new life. Give your heart time to heal before starting a new relationship and keep it simple. I with you the best
2006-10-27 06:21:23 · answer #8 · answered by T K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kick his @ss to the curb! If he cared about you and was going to stop, he would have. Obviosly he has no respect for you, and will continue to do it as he know he can get away with it. You deserve more than this. As much as it hurts now, get rid of him, and you will feel soooo much better in a few months, and you will be single and available to meet guys who are going to treat you with respect and be loyal to only you. Thats what you derserve, don't settle for less, especially a loser who can't keep it in his pants.
2006-10-27 06:20:23 · answer #9 · answered by shrimpseys 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
men and women cheat for lots of reasons,your looks have nothing to do with it.most people cheat because it's existing,the thrill of the chase.then they feel bad and go bake to what they know. He wont stop once a cheat always a cheat so kick he to the curb you can do better
2006-10-27 07:44:43 · answer #10 · answered by laurarocha@rogers.com 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋