My friend and I were best of friends in the 7th grade, but know we hardly get achance to talk. Everytime I want to she's either to busy or don't want to talk at all. We had some arguments throughout the years, but nohting serious. So how should I go about this?
2006-10-27 05:52:13 · 15 answers · asked by Chocolate Chip 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
you have probably just grown apart.
not many people have friends from their childhood.
your both growing and experiencing new things-so let it happen-chances are that in a few years you'll see each other one day-start talking-and BAM-it's like you were never apart!
this is very typical behavior at this age!
2006-10-27 05:56:04 · answer #1 · answered by f4fanactic 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You need to talk not argue.
Make a verbal agreement to remain friends, but accept that you are no longer "best friends".
I totally went through this with a friend of mine since childhood, and once we laid down the 'new ground rules' accepting busy schedules, new friends, new relationships, and even a very large move was easier for both of us.
We write to this day, and every time we do get together we are as silly and giggly as we were when we were ten. Our husbands and kids just roll thier eyes and walk away.
Even if your interests are changing, you can still be friends, to make a big drama about it is just sillly.
2006-10-27 14:27:25 · answer #2 · answered by Oh, I see 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't 'end the friendship', people drift apart and come back together throughout their lives. My wife has a friend Shelley she has known since junior high (20+ years), she and Shelley have drifted between best friend to almost enemies and back over the years. I have similar friendships with people from college and high school. And, I see the same relationships in the works with my teenage daughter.
Remain friendly, talk if she wants to talk, don't if she doesn't. Don't worry about it. If you are destined to remain friends, you will.
2006-10-27 12:58:21 · answer #3 · answered by Wundt 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's possible that you have just grown apart and are going your seperate ways. That's not to say that you still can't or won't be friends, it just may mean that you won't be 'best' friends right now. Don't burn the bridge between you though, in a few years, you may find yourselves back to being best buds!
2006-10-27 12:56:55 · answer #4 · answered by secret_oktober_girl 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do you remember the song that the Girl Scouts used to sing:
"Make new friends, but keep the old. One is silver, and the other; Gold."
2006-10-27 13:00:11 · answer #5 · answered by me 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For one, you have to get your friend to agree on meeting so you can tell her face-to-face how you feel. Tell her how it is and what you are feeling and how you want to repair the relationship. IF she can be honest to you and tell you what she wants, then you can both decide how it continues. At least, you are making the effort and its on her to respond. Remember, you will have to deal with the solution whether the friendship ends or continues - prepare yourself for that!
Regards,
2006-10-27 12:56:45 · answer #6 · answered by etile 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It takes at least two people to have a friendship. Ask her what's going on. She is the only one that knows where she is at.
2006-10-27 12:55:51 · answer #7 · answered by gjm 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Once and for all talk to her...if you keep in trying but nothing happens, come on just be casual w/ her..... like ordinary friends
2006-10-27 13:00:19 · answer #8 · answered by jane u 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think she should try to talk to you, if you wait a while and she makes no contact, then drop it.
2006-10-27 13:11:56 · answer #9 · answered by Setsuna 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just go with the flow if it is meant to be it will be
2006-10-27 12:56:44 · answer #10 · answered by peaches 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋