Please help me. My ex husband is not paying a child support for my 9 years old daughter. CSA are not helping, solisitors are too expensive. What do people do in this situation?
Thanks.
2006-10-27 05:49:22 · 28 answers · asked by elnett 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Keep calling CSA...everyday! If you know where he lives and where he works, give that information to CSA. Keep pushing the issue.
2006-10-27 05:51:58 · answer #1 · answered by Royalhinney 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My Ex would not pay maintenance either but I persevered with the CSA, it took a long time but they and I would not give in and 13 yrs (yes I said 13 yrs) on he was made to pay £33,000 via the courts. I didn't get it all, some had to go to the secretary of state because for a time I was on income support, however he was made to pay and that is the important thing.
As for a solicitor, you can always try that route, if you are on a low income you should be entitled to Legal Aid, I work part-time and was still entitled to it. Try everything you can and dont give up, those kids are his responsibility as well as yours.
2006-10-27 05:57:48 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forget it kid!!!!! My slimey ex only had to pay £1.25 a week for my son.... and he refused. He even quit his job so that he didn't have to give it to me. He has since our divorce had three more children two different women. And from what I've heard they've had about as much luck as me getting financial support (if you can call it that) from him... the CSA was a total waste of space. If a bloke wants to avoid paying maintenance, there are ways to avoid it. I came to the conclusion, that, if his child meant so little to him that he couldn't pay £1.25 a week, when he smokes and drinks plenty, he certainly doesn't have any right to play any part in my child's life.
I work hard, and give my son a good home and upbringing. I wouldn't accept a measly £1.25 from him now if he brought it hanging from his over zealous phallus, printed on gold leaf, with sorry branded into his a#@e with a red hot-iron!!!!!
2006-11-03 06:02:56 · answer #3 · answered by mommakayos 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I totally sympathise with you on this one. I never got any. You could put pressure on CSA that's one answer. You could apply to the court yourself without going through a solicitor and ask for an Attachment of Earnings. This is where they take the money straight out of your ex-husbands payroll. I was offered this and in my stupidity I trusted my ex when he said he would pay. He never did. It was a hard lesson.
2006-10-31 11:30:14 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just have to get on with it, there are thousands of woman left with no maintenance from there ex's, it isn't easy but you have to learn to cope and hope that the CSA will eventually catch up with him. There are too many men out there not willing to take responsibility for there children.
2006-10-27 06:05:12 · answer #5 · answered by XhappytalkX 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sorry honey but I usually do without. My ex-husband is same way. Child support recovery has suspended his license so he started back paying until he got his license back. If I were you I would call CSA everyday and let them know your not getting anything. In the meantime you pretty much just have to deal with it. (Unless you kill him then kids would receive social security) (JUST KIDDING) They are usually agencies in your hometown that can help you with things like food, clothes, etc. It's not much but every little bit helps.
2006-10-27 05:55:07 · answer #6 · answered by angie1977c 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forget the CSA, look for a free advice surgery at a law firm in your town, they should be able to give you an hours worth of free advice on the issue. ring the firms themselves and ask. Also target legal aid firms. You may not have to pay for your case if you qualify for help after you've spoken to the them.
Good luck!
2006-10-30 14:41:32 · answer #7 · answered by Chey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In all honesty, I would just get on with it as it shows the type of father/ person he his. It's not worth the bother. If you are a lone parent, there are various benenits you can apply for, such as Working and Chlid Tax Credits, if you are the only adult in your household, you can claim a 25% discount off your Council Tax and although it is not much there is always Child Benefit.
2006-11-03 09:52:44 · answer #8 · answered by fire 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When gets behind by a certain amount you can have him arrested for going against a court order! Why is child support enforcement not helping you? If you know where he works, you can have his income garnished! You can take your divorce papers in and have the garnishment put on yourself. Go to the court house and ask about it, they will help you there! I'm so sick of these dead beat Dads!!
2006-10-27 05:53:53 · answer #9 · answered by wish I were 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that is awful,i personally go & see the C.A.B,they are very good,& its free,they will advise you best,CSA are cr*p,my ex hubby would not pay any money to me,for years,my kids are 12 & 9 now,then about 3yrs ago out of the blue he started paying me money each week,not a lot but its something,the CSA,then were a waist of time,they could not get any money of him,once he started paying me the CSA,keep sending letters to me or phoning me,i tell them now where to go,they never once helped me.useless
2006-10-27 10:02:48 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep pushing the CSA to do something, don't let him get away with it. There's too many absent fathers out there demanding to see their children, but who don't pay a penny. Men are complete a-holes when it comes to facing their legal and moral responsibilty. He'll have to pay up in the end, please just don't give up.
2006-11-02 10:34:09 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋