If you are a married man, decide to have sex with as single woman, but then accidently get her pregant. Would you divorce your current wife and the get married to the other woman? Would you stay married to your current wife, but do your part with child support, or would you not want anything to do with the child?
2006-10-27 05:44:48 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think you should tell your wife and if there is true love between you( which it doesn't sound like you do) then you need to talk it out or go to counseling for help. You will still need to pay for support for the child as you produced them.
2006-10-27 05:48:34 · answer #1 · answered by lpdecca 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, so many choices. If I had the fling, then there was probably a problem with my marriage anyway. I don't think that I would use this situation to get a divorce though, although when my wife found out, it would be over anyway. The second choice of staying married, but supporting my child might be a good option, but I would still wonder why I wandered in the first place. The third choice is not even an option for me. If I got myself into this situation, I could never neglect my child. Again, why am I in this situation ? Is my marriage over or am I just a pig ? I doubt that you could claim that she forced herself on you.
2006-10-27 05:54:29 · answer #2 · answered by rock d 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
While you may not want to leave your wife you do have a major responsibility to that child. If you have to ask the question....would you leave your wife.....it tells me there is no love lost there. You must decide what is more important to you.
If you have a bad marriage and you love the other woman maybe you should divorce and marry her. If you have children with your current wife you have a responsibility there also.
You have gotten yourself in a major predicament that a lot of men do. Some women too.
How you handle this will be a direct reflection on your character.
The last option you gave would reflect on how much of a jerk you really are.
2006-10-27 06:00:49 · answer #3 · answered by John B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stats say that about 80% of men have had affairs and maybe around 50% of women. Men cheating have nothing to do with a happy or unhappy home. It has to do with biology. Men are biologically polygamous. They need variety. There is a real reason why there are 12,000 topless clubs and prostitution is the worlds oldest profession. Hookers will tell you that married men make up 80% or more of their business. And they wil also tell you that they have saved or extended moremarriages than any marriage counsellor. Another bit for your curiosity, divorce is in the 50% to 60% range except amoung swingers whre it is around 10% or less.
2016-05-22 00:56:51 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no such thing as any mature and intelligent woman "accidently' becoming pregnant. "Irresponsibly" becoming pregnant is more like it.
If you...as a female...have any man approach you and is ready to stick that thing in you without a condom....you have a responsibility to terminate the entire deal immediately unless you take measures to protect yourself.
"Do your part with child support". What crap! It takes two to tango and apparently it comes down to the rutting and breeding of two morons who take nothing else into account other than their own carnal lust and nothing more.
The two people you are talking about should be spayed/neutered.
Oh..and no....were it me (and as I just explained I can assure you it would not) there would be no way I'd divorce my wife. Why would I want to leave my loving and devotional wife for a woman who displays such sluttish behavior with a married man. I would have gotten what i wanted....laid. Anything after that is her problem.
2006-10-27 05:58:38 · answer #5 · answered by Quasimodo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You made your bed and now you have to lie in it! The child should not be punished at all, the fact that you stated should you have anything to do with the child makes me believe that you really don't care for the mother nor the child. Why would you want to marry her then? You are very confused and need counseling! Tell your wife the truth, she deserves that.
2006-10-27 05:49:00 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well first of all it is not the child fault !!!!!!!!!!! I think you should be apart of the child's life .. he/she needs their daddy .. no matter how it happen . as far as what to do with your wife and other woman .. who do you love ? does your wife know ?? you need to try and make it work with your wife .. stay away from the other woman , the only relationship you should have with her is the child .. thats it .. if your wife want to divorce you then be with the other woman .. but if you really loved your wife you would of not messed around , boy are you in deep ..
2006-10-27 06:19:33 · answer #7 · answered by blueflowerscs 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a married man, one woman is more than enough for me and would never cheat on my wife.
Now, if I suspend reality and do have an affair, I would probably stay with my wife, tell her about the child and help support the child.
The child did not make a mistake, I did.
2006-10-27 05:48:51 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you weren't going to be faithful, what did you get married for in the first place? Marriage is about commitment, if your not going to be committed to your marriage then you might as well be single & pay child support. You must not have much love or respect for your wife, cuz you didn't use protection obviously!
2006-10-27 05:53:51 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if you wife finds out and she is still will to stay with you and work things out consider yourself luck. You need to be with the one you love. If you want to be apart of the child life then make it happen. Maybe being faithful would be a good thing and you won't end up in this kind of situation.
2006-10-27 05:49:24 · answer #10 · answered by Sexy-n-Hot 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋