I love playing video games but unfortunately most of my friends don't share that hobby (the girls say it's a guy thing and the guys say they too old for that).
Three months ago I saw a video games club on my neighbourhood, and I immediately wanted to join, but my mind is keeping me from going for these three reasons:
- I haven't seen many girls there (and although there are guys my age there, I haven't seen any girls)
- I'm afraid I get there and they start looking at me like I'm a freak or something (the only girl who was there once was with her boyfriend)
- I don't know if I can just appear there by myself and say can I join (I always go with some of my friends to things like that).
What do you think I should do, forget about it or go over there to join? And if I do go there, how would you go about doing that? I don't want to look like a freak or get rejected.
Thanks for helping me with these insecurities.
2006-10-27 05:37:51 · 13 answers · asked by Mary7 3 in Social Science ➔ Sociology
You sound like you have to do one or the other.....can't you pick "c", all of the above?
You should be able to keep your friends as well as be apart of a club that interest you.
I say, join the club...limit at how much time it takes up and keep your friends.
2006-10-27 05:48:11 · answer #1 · answered by voandginger 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Very often if there's a place that is just guys the atmosphere really isn't one that would be right for a girl. I know that sounds stuffy and old fashioned, but it isn't about being equal with guys as much as its about whether the environment may lead to your being seen or treated in a way that wouldn't be great for you in the long run.
Its almost one thing if the activity is something like playing baseball and another if the activity is an indoor thing with a bunch of guys and a bunch of machines and a bunch of language, etc. There's just a difference. Its not so much being the only girl as it would be being the only girl in the possibly sleezish environment of videogames. I may not be describing what I mean right, but you probably get some idea...
I think you should find something else to do. Maybe its time anyway. There's only so much videogame playing anyone ought to do anyway. If you ever hear there's a club where there's a mix of people then maybe the atmosphere would be more right.
(I guess what I'm saying is, if you were my daughter I'd hope you'd find somewhere nicer to hang out than in a videogame place.)
2006-10-28 04:32:06 · answer #2 · answered by WhiteLilac1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would totally go for it. i too love to play video games and i have been told that it is a guy thing. i really dont care, it is something i love to do and will continue to do it even though no other girls do. you shouldnt let these stereotypes decide what you will and wont do. im sure there are a lot of other girls just like you that feel the same way and wont join the club. i really think you would be better off going to the club and enjoying yourself.
2006-10-27 12:57:06 · answer #3 · answered by froggiegurl36 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go and do it and have a great time. The joy you bring to doing something you love will make the people around you realize that you are there for the same reasons they are.
I think it will go really well. You are not a freak and you will not be perceived as one.
Have a good time!
I love video games and play them with my daughter. No big deal. Video games our just my generations version of Bingo and Canasta.
2006-10-27 13:29:40 · answer #4 · answered by Bran McMuffin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go and have fun. I started playing Dungeons and Dragons with a group of guys because I was dating one of them. I was the only girl. Stayed after we broke up. To this day those guys are some of my very best friends. (This was in highschool)
Note: My husband and I play video games together. Find people who share your interests. (almost 30 yrs old)
2006-10-27 12:45:35 · answer #5 · answered by Shanna J 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Join. Its what you like. No one will think your a freak, they enjoy it too so go and dont worry, If your friends cant accept you the way you are then it's not worth having them as friends,
You should'nt worry about those things. Just do what YOU want to do.
Good Luck and play safe.
2006-10-27 14:58:59 · answer #6 · answered by chinaz777 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have enough confidence in yourself, let them observe it..
You dont need to fear of someone thinking wrong'bout you.
and i dont think it never makes much of difference in their mindsets as well.
Many girls are enough comfortable smoking and flirting with guys..You have no such intensions...you have interest, just focus on it.
And if you think you have real passion for videogames in you and also that trend setting factor in you, you'll go alone without any friends and say you wanna join the club...
Go a head and rock....!!
Cheers.........!!
2006-10-27 12:52:26 · answer #7 · answered by venkat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you stop making decisions based on what someone else thinks of you, you'll be able to enjoy who you are and what you like. Play your games and meet some new friends!
2006-10-27 12:42:24 · answer #8 · answered by JustAskin 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have a bit of self confidence - if you like it, have a go.
If your not too hot on going by yourself then either let someone know or take someone with you.
Good luck, and kick there a55es
2006-10-27 12:40:35 · answer #9 · answered by speedball182 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm...I can give you "advice", but how should I "advise" you?
Get over there and get in (well, try anyways...). You always have to remember that you have nothing to lose in a situation as this, or any, because nothing's yet been gained.
2006-10-27 13:27:29 · answer #10 · answered by incognitas8 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋