Was in a relationship with a man for nearly two years. Agreed the friendship meant a lot to us and would stay in touch. Discovered about three weeks ago he lied to me about an arrangement he had for the end of the month.....when we were still together. In fact told the lie as he held me in his arms. Since then have given him several oppertunities to be open about the arrangement and share....as we used to. He has pretended he has no idea what I am talking about. Today the day he goes on this trip he did so again. He made the contact with me, I answered his questions honestly he changed the subject. I know this is not a romantic meeting butdo know once he had a brief fling with the woman of the couple. He has turned nasty cos I asked what was he doing over the weekend and wants me to cease contact. Rich....cos he initiated all recent contact, I feel very hurt and confused as to what I have done to deserve such disrespect. This is someone who preaches in a church.
2006-10-27 05:35:45 · 15 answers · asked by pink 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I am so sorry, you must be hurting. A relationship without honesty even in the smallest of ways is flawed. He obviously wants to keep this arrangement secret from you for some reason. This is suspicious .....and yet he still expects honest answers from you. Double standards. He is a rat......and a prize one at that. You know the church is not the people but sadly it is the people who influence how we ....the rest of us......come to view the church and so often they turn out to be hypocrits.
Leave him behind you, erase him from your life once and for all. You are the better person in all of this so just keep remembering that, don't torture yourself, he is certainly not worth a moments thought.
2006-10-27 09:13:33 · answer #1 · answered by eagledreams 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you are not over reacting. Be brave!
I support Violet Pearl : "Churches are full of sinners"
If you discovered someone lied to you, you shouldn't be too surprised when he continues to lie to you, avoids answering your questions, and becomes defensively rude when backed into a corner. The only thing you did to deserve disrespect was to assume you'd be treated with respect after you found him to be a liar--- and continued giving him several opportunities.
I support O.E.S. Lady : if this is someone who preaches in a church then maybe he is preaching the wrong thing or he is not taking in what he is preaching. first of all you don't need to worry yourself about something you need to let GOD work out in the first place. KNEEL in PRAYER and ask that GOD come between you both and work it out. whatever it is between you both that is broken GOD will fix it. The battle is not yours its the LORD. God will deliver every answer that you need in this situation.
I had been cheated too by a pastor in Singapore. It's pastor ronald l.k.chia. He is a professional liar and con man. Why does the creator create such a beast and make him pastor?
2006-10-27 21:16:54 · answer #2 · answered by Tashi Khoo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Run!!! Run for your life!!!!! This is not the man for you. See, it starts with the lying, then it will get even worse. Especially if he's a preacher. I mean this is so sad. I was raised in a christian family, and I can tell you its really ugly when someone does something like this. My dad is a preacher as well. So the temptations are pretty high. However that doesn't mean that you have to fall into them. Apparently, this man doesn't care about you at all. If you leave him, he's not going to beg or ask why, he's going to go about his business. That's pretty much how jerks react.
2006-10-27 05:42:28 · answer #3 · answered by meamy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Churches are full of sinners.
If you discovered someone lied to you, you shouldn't be too surprised when he continues to lie to you, avoids answering your questions, and becomes defensively rude when backed into a corner. The only thing you did to deserve disrespect was to assume you'd be treated with respect after you found him to be a liar--- and continued giving him several opportunities.
2006-10-27 05:40:12 · answer #4 · answered by Violet Pearl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like Jeff S.A. Vassett.
Give up honey, he does this to everyone.
If it's not him, it must be his clone.
He's probably using you as a booty call and is likely married to someone who thinks he's always 'away on business'.
Like I said, give up, move on, go dancing, get drunk, whatever you gotta' do, but forget about him!!!! When he calls, let your voicemail take it and delete it before you've heard it all. Don't return his calls.
If you don't, you're in for serious drama and possible tragedy in the future. This kind of man is not worth a woman's time.
2006-10-27 05:41:43 · answer #5 · answered by jam_please 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You do not need me to tell you the guy is a complete tosser. Why stand about having that sort of treatment from a supposed friend...move on. Bite your lip and distract yourself with the company of real friends and you will get over the hurt...good luck!
2006-10-27 05:54:25 · answer #6 · answered by Susie Drew 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is going to keep on hurting you like this, then why do you still want him in your life? NO ONE deserves to be lied too, there are so many other people out there for you. Just move on. It's for the best!!
2006-10-27 05:50:14 · answer #7 · answered by Anthony 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if this is someone who preaches in a church then maybe he is preaching the wrong thing or he is not taking in what he is preaching. first of all you don't need to worry yourself about something you need to let GOD work out in the first place. KNEEL in PRAYER and ask that GOD come between you both and work it out. whatever it is between you both that is broken GOD will fix it. The battle is not yours its the LORD. God will deliver every answer that you need in this situation.
2006-10-27 05:46:50 · answer #8 · answered by O.E.S. Lady 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no you are not over reacting. he knows he is in the wrong that's why he is behaving like this. forget about him ring your mates and go out and have a good time. good luck x
2006-10-27 06:20:38 · answer #9 · answered by debbie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you are not over reacting. Get out now before things get worse.
2006-10-27 06:46:05 · answer #10 · answered by Fizzypop 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋