Nothing hurts more than realising he meant everything to you, but you meant nothing to him.
Anyone feels or felt the way I do??
2006-10-27 05:35:29 · 17 answers · asked by DiL 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
the reason we continue to feel hurt is that we have not forgiven this person who hurt us yet. we haven't gotten past the fact they did something to us, and it showed they didn't care. we expect the person to come clean, be remorseful,be sorry, but we are trying to get something from someone who doesn't want to be sorry.in holding onto this, we forever tie ourselves to this person. we don't forgive for the person's sake who hurt us, but to free ourselves from the hurt, we never deserved in the first place. not caring for you is not a reflection on you, but on him. forgive and don't own the pain, it's not your's but theirs. their selfish behavior caused your hurt, not that you loved them. there is no shame in loving someone.
2006-10-27 12:41:32 · answer #1 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that has happened to everyone at some point.
I was engaged to what I thought was an awesome guy before I met my husband. It hurt terribly when it ended and I thought I would never get over him. Now I look back and think, what a close call! My husband blows him out of the water on every level -- personality, looks, the way he treats me, etc.
Everything happens for a reason. When you find the right person, you'll think to yourself, what did i ever see in that other guy?
2006-10-27 05:42:55 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, that does hurt. And it hurts more when you are married to the guy. I had to come to terms with the idea that this man stood in front of God and all our friends and family, and promised he would love me forever. And it was all a lie. It will stick with you a long time, but all I can say is that it will make you stronger and better. Good things can come out of this. You will be a changed person, and still be on the path you are destined to follow. It all happens for a reason. Keep your chin up.
2006-10-27 05:38:31 · answer #3 · answered by nottashygirl 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Then he was just a LOSER anyways girl! You may only be one person in this world but to one person you are the world. Keep your head up and move on. If it wasnt ment to be then that just means there is someone twice as good out there waiting for you!
2006-10-27 06:01:37 · answer #4 · answered by Pinky 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, been there. It's all part of life... ups and downs, heartaches, hearbreaks, and sometimes real love. Relationships can be hard... and finding "the one" is not easy... you have to weed out the good guys from the "wrong" ones.
2006-10-27 05:56:45 · answer #5 · answered by hypnotic68 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it may be so hurtful but at least you have your family to lean on and you never married him giving years of your life and probally you menat something just not he wasnt in love with you i know how you feel i felt that way for years i was married to my ex for 8 years knowing he didnt love me but for my kdis i just couldnt do it anymore it made me feel so alone inside now i am happy with out him and happy with someone new .
2006-10-27 05:48:12 · answer #6 · answered by vomissie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes i know how you feel. i have been there more times than i want to admit. only time can heal the hurt and pain. good luck, once you get over it you will look back and wonder why you wasted so much time feeling so bad over him or her.
2006-10-27 05:59:16 · answer #7 · answered by MiaDiva28 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't do that to yourself, if you think that way you will hurt like hell. Just think of it that you had/have different goals and you didn't have the same level of love/commitment.
2006-10-27 11:21:41 · answer #8 · answered by DownAndOut 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Been there - had a BF in school who I thought was "the one" who cheated on me. Hurt like crazy!
2006-10-27 05:41:11 · answer #9 · answered by tequila_girl98 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i feel like that now, my bf is still inlove with his ex and he takes it out on me i love him to death but i dont know if i should leave him of stand by and hope i can help him make it thro
2006-10-27 05:42:16 · answer #10 · answered by yourgirl1517 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋