we have finally seperated and now he wants custody of the children, I will not let him see the children because he is currently on probation for possession of methamphetamins, and he was suppose to take drug classes, and he got kicked out of them because he would not go. We lost our children to CPS for drug usage 2 yrs ago, and I have only had them back for a year this month. I have been clean since this started. what should I do??? real scared. please help
2006-10-27 05:30:51 · 21 answers · asked by JANET 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Thank you for your advise earlier, I just wanted to inform everyone that I did contact my attorney, and a judge signed a NO CONTACT ORDER
2006-10-27 11:38:51 · update #1
Who will possibly give those children to your ex. Make sure you have all the details and paperwork on what you just told us to present to the court.
2006-10-27 05:33:25 · answer #1 · answered by Sunflower 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are clean and are doing the best you can to take care of your children you should be o.k. If he is still using their is no way he will get custody though if he's also clean you might have trouble. If I were you I would start thinking of all the bad things he has done as a parent to use against him in court if it goes that far. More than likely he don't have a chance anyway with him being on probation. Good luck. Hope everything works out for you.
2006-10-27 05:42:50 · answer #2 · answered by angie1977c 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nicely, in maximum English-talking international locations, the courts generally take a toddler's needs into attention as quickly as the toddler is approximately 13. The 18-year-previous is an grownup and can stay everywhere he/she likes. The sixteen-year previous technically has to stay the place the custody order specifies. yet I doubt that anybody might rigidity him/her to stay together with his/her dad if that may no longer needed. The 9-year-previous is a various tale. If the dad would not want to renounce the 9-year-previous, it is going to be complicated to make him. Your sister voluntarily became over custody of her toddlers--and to a guy who became an alcoholic. teenagers should not be used to maintain a confirm on the right now and slender. they could be regarded after by the main sturdy confirm. To be frank, she quite isn't a shining occasion of sturdy motherhood! She may be waiting to get the custody order replaced so as that she spends greater time with the toddler. yet while the daddy needs the toddler to stay with him, it can not be elementary to cajole a decide to coach over custody on your sister. The dad has been there for the toddler, your sister gave up her teenagers to an wrong confirm.
2016-10-16 11:25:26 · answer #3 · answered by Erika 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would get into counseling with the kids. Not only are you going threw this so are they. Is he still using? If not then you may have a fight on your hands. If you are also a recovering addict and can have the kids why should he not be able to see them? Then I would also start going to NA meetings. You will be able to show the judge and CPS that you are doing these things for your kids with out being told and that you are the responsible parent. Get a lawyer and go from there. Most of all take care of you and those babies. Find a church and pray, it will all be fine threw God. Good luck to you and your children!
2006-10-27 05:44:46 · answer #4 · answered by Hollli 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As much of a jerk your ex could be (no offense) he still has biological connections to your kids. They are entitled to see him and see how he's doing. However, your kids need to know the negative aspects of their father. And that if they fall into what he's in, they could end up being like him. I say ask for professional help. If you've been clean for a year you have more chance of winning custody. But hey you never know. Just ask for professional help. I'm pretty sure you'll find a solution.
2006-10-27 05:36:40 · answer #5 · answered by meamy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I work in a law office. I doubt they will give custody to him. However, you cannot stop him from seeing the children. He is there Father and has rights. You should have someone supervise his visits, so you don't get in trouble for keeping him from them. Good going on staying clean! Keep up the good work. Make a great new future for you and your kids!!
2006-10-27 05:39:42 · answer #6 · answered by wish I were 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG! Don't let him have those kids and make sure you stay clean or you will loose your children forever. I know this because I was a foster-parent, and sadly but rarely these children got to go back home and it cause mental and physical stress on these kids that scar them for life...........if you give him the kids he will get them taken away and then you can be charged with neglect. Go to Social Services and get help, they will advise you as to what to do,
2006-10-27 05:35:44 · answer #7 · answered by Jen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Although it sounds like you both have problems, if you are clean, the children should be with you. You should have no problems getting full custody of the children. Fight him in court. Unless there is something about you we do not know, you should have no problems beating him.
2006-10-27 05:38:51 · answer #8 · answered by Bill 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm really happy for you that you are clean now. And I strongly encourage you to stay clean. There are many reasons and excuses to start up again.... so be strong and hang in there.
Don't allow your kids to go to Dad. Don't expose them to this drug lifestyle now that you are clean.... I think the kids have been thru enough already. Best of luck!
Just my thoughts.
2006-10-27 05:53:34 · answer #9 · answered by Tony 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stick to your guns girl dont let him have them kids.
if he cant be bothered to come off the drugs get clean and stay out of trouble like you have then he obviously doesnt care a hoot for those kids anyway.
your kids have been through enough already by the sounds of things but well done to you for facing your demons getting clean and doing what it takes to get your kids back alot of people will say you shouldnt have lost them in the first place but we all make mistakes. and you had the sense to realise your mistake and correct it stay strong stay clean and everything will work out for you.
wsh you all the luck in the world
2006-10-27 05:47:28 · answer #10 · answered by rosierotweiller 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are clean and sober and he isn't. The courts will see that he didn't go to his classes and that he isn't trying to better himself for the sake of the kids. He will not get them so stop worrying. I would focus more on staying clean and raising your children properly and in a safe environment. Good Luck
2006-10-27 05:38:37 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋