about your previous
Or maybe lie about it?
At what point does commitment to a relationship necessitate blabbing about things you'd never normally talk about to anybody else?
Do you quiz your mate in that way? If so, why? Isn't it just a way of hurting yourself with things you're better off not knowing?
2006-10-27 05:27:33 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
Here is my credo: Ask no questions you do not want the answers to. Easy. Simple. Once, there was a situation I wanted to know about and the answers seared me like a branding iron, but I wanted it, welcomed the pain, knew there was no way I'd move forward without the truth.
Same goes for him. If he asks the right question, I tell him.
2006-10-27 12:21:43 · answer #1 · answered by turtle girl 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he wants to know, then he takes in consideration that he knows I'll tell him the truth, whether he likes it or not. I guess when the people feel comfortable enough with each other and trust each other enough, then that's the point in a relationship when you can tell all and not worry about it.
I ask him questions, and I get honest answers. I also know not to ask a question if I don't want the truth, because he's the same as me. He tells me the truth whether I like it or not. But I can handle it, just like he can because we know A LOT about each other that other people don't have a clue about! As for quizzing him, or him doing me that way, we don't do that. But if we're curious, then we ask.â¥
2006-10-27 05:45:55 · answer #2 · answered by dyingatwork 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is a time in your relationship that, that topic may come up. Earlier than later, usually. I was curious how many people my man was with before me. It is human nature I think. Once we got more serious, it is kind of one of those things that is said and done and isn't necessary to rehash. I find that it makes for arguments if it is brought up. It is natural to wanna know every detail even if it is painful to hear. We are sick like that. If you truly love that person, it shouldn't matter what happened before you. Obviously you are the one your gf chose right? Run with it.
2006-10-27 05:33:07 · answer #3 · answered by kimmypoo 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It only really matters if you have some sort of disease. But previous liaisons are in the past, and should stay there. Dragon would just dance around the question and not really answer it.
2006-10-27 05:31:24 · answer #4 · answered by VLIGER DRAGÖN 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Oh No! I never quiz a mate about there past relationships...because then they would ask about mine ;-)
All I ask is if they have been tested because that is VERY important. I totally agree that it would only hurt you by asking because then you would constantly compare yourself....oh I wonder if I was as good as #15? hahaha
2006-10-27 05:33:41 · answer #5 · answered by TJ 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I plan on spending the rest of my life with my hubby and as the years go by, I'm sure we'll be asking each other all kinds of questions about our past loves....
I would be honest with him.... no sense in lying about it .... you never know when one of those lovers may suddenly show up or someone else who knows may let things slip about your past lover (or lovers) - people are funny that way --- they promise never to tell but when things go wrong, that person ends up revealing all sorts of things!
2006-10-27 05:56:21 · answer #6 · answered by jaimestar64cross 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh, I feel your pain. My current has had curiosity about my previous lovers, inquiring about intimate details and I've just told him what's past is past, I'm with him now, I'm satisfied with him and that's all that should matter. I find it crude to talk about what I did with whom previously. It's irrelevant. I don't care about his previous stupping either. The only way it's remotely relevant is if you contracted an STD.
2006-10-27 05:32:02 · answer #7 · answered by inquiringmind 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It depends on the reason behind the questioning... for my husband and I it was to find out what the other was willing to do and what we could probably try without worrying about the other thinking we were a freak... now we just talk about what we want to try
Have a GREAT day!
2006-10-27 05:32:19 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Luckily in my case, my husband, nor myself had no previous liaisons to speak of. We were both virgins when we got married. However, had we not have been, I cannot honestly say if I would or wouldn't want to know about his, nor do I know if I would want him to know about mine.
2006-10-27 05:34:47 · answer #9 · answered by AsianPersuasion :) 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It depends on the type of relationship you have with them. Ask her why she needs to know. Is she planning on outdoing your former lover? or is she going to hold it over your head and make you miserable.
If her motives are pure then tell her. If not tell her to leave!
2006-10-27 05:30:55 · answer #10 · answered by keith s 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋