my ex doesnt no yet and i love both of them the babys dad knows and he,s confused to he doesnt wont his brother to get hurt any more than i wont i need help!
2006-10-27 05:19:18 · 27 answers · asked by *** Es Smiley Tfc.kw33nz*** 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Trying to Conceive
well you are just going to have to come out with it.. and tell him he is going to be mad and hurt no matter how you say it so its best to just do it quickly.. be patience with him and answer all of his questions while remaining calm... after some time who knows he might be happy he is going to be an uncle.. good luck
2006-10-27 05:21:51 · answer #1 · answered by mum 2 Cameron and Ewan 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off some of the other comments are not needed and don't listen to them. Second of all you and the baby's dad need to sit down with your x and tell him. Its better for everyone if he finds out from you 2 then someone else. He might not be as upset as you guys think. Another thing if you really love both of them then you need to find out how then both feel after then BOTH know about the baby. If you want to keep the baby then you need to figure this out all 3 of you. What you decide effects all of you and the baby. If you don't want the baby then still give birth but put it up for adoption. Either way your x needs to know he is going to find out sooner or later.
2006-10-27 22:21:54 · answer #2 · answered by gail_andress04 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your ex will be pissed and if his brother is not determined to be a dad to this baby regardless of how his brother feels then you could end up fu@#d in the end. No one wants to hurt their family and most guys don't let a woman come between them. This could blow up in your face if you have this baby. Life could be hell. The ex will hate you and may not want to deal with his neice/nephew and the babies dad may not want to have anything to do with you or the kid if it causes friction between him and his brother. You shouldn't have gone their and brought a baby in the picture. I'm sorry but I wouldn't have that child if I were you cause you may be doing it more harm then good considering the circumstances you have created for this innocent baby. This child may end up without a dad or uncle because of how you went about things. Don't ever underestimate siblings love for each other. Sometimes it is stronger then anything else. I'm not dogging you sleeping with the brother but if you were going to do so you should have used protection. They could both turn on you in the end so if you decide to have this baby be prepared for MANY complications and drama. His parents may even dog you because of what you did. So having a child in this family in this type situation could be very bad for the REST of your LIFE cause kids don't go away once you have them. Think about it before you make a selfish decision and have it. Good luck!
2006-10-27 05:48:34 · answer #3 · answered by Lovemykids 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You say that you are in 10th grade. You are a very young girl to be having a child. You need to make a decision about that. You have a lot of options available. You need to worry about you and this pregnancy first, not a relationship with this boy. Ultimately you and the pregnancy are most important. You also need to tell your parents and the father's parents. I think counseling for you would be a good idea as well.
Good Luck! ! I was a teen mom and I have made it far so can you if you so desire!
2006-10-27 06:31:14 · answer #4 · answered by demonicfairlady 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well agreed call Jerry Springer! Otherwise you might as well just come out now and get everything out in the open. Although it sucks your going to have to cross that bridge no matter what. Even if you weren't having the baby...things always seem to come out in the end...secrets like that are impossible to keep from the people they are meant to stay away from. You've already made the decision to do it...so face your actions and let people know what has been happening.
2006-10-27 05:24:17 · answer #5 · answered by jasonstroble 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate to say it this way, but if you had been worried about your ex's feelings earlier, this wouldnt have happened. But since it did, then you and your "guy" need to 'fess up and tell your ex that you slept together and are now expecting a baby. Yes I'm sure he will be quite confused and probably upset, but you made the decision to sleep with his brother so now you have to deal with that and RAISE YOUR CHILD!
2006-10-27 06:24:32 · answer #6 · answered by val 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You better figure out something Because when that baby get here You will have to answer to him or her about why things are so messed up and a TALK SHOW IS GOING TO MAKE YOU LOOK BAD.
2006-10-27 05:23:35 · answer #7 · answered by dncnlksh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should have been concentrating on graduating high school all along, but a little too late for that. You write like a genius, and I imagine the father of your kid does as well. Why does each generation continue to pump out more jacka$$es than the last?? I feel sorry for your kid.
2006-10-27 16:26:48 · answer #8 · answered by Chris B 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Get them together with you and talk about it like adults. Tell the brother what happened and hope for the best.
2006-10-27 05:23:03 · answer #9 · answered by Bo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if you're not having the baby then what else is there to do. Nobody else needs to know about it. For future reference, maybe you should back out of the double brother scenario.
2006-10-27 05:22:42 · answer #10 · answered by KND 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋