I thought that at least someone would have this experience. That after having a child or two they started realizing they had to set the example for their children. And that example is self control in regards to sex. There must be someone out there who hasn't come forward or who is not aware of this question who can honestly say they had this experience.
I mean, obviously most people go on trying to enjoy sex no matter how many children they have.
Couples! Has giving birth to children convinced you to reduce your sexual activity?
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Couples! Has giving birth to children had you realize that you simply can't have to much sexual enjoyment?
This question is in relation to another two questions regarding "traditional" or "old school" marriages.
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2006-10-27 05:15:36 · 21 answers · asked by devotionalservice 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Obviously, having a child has some people having trouble finding the time and facility to really get into having sex. For some this is an inconvenience, for some it is a challenge, and for some it is an opportunity to find a happiness that transcends sexual enjoyment.
2006-10-27 05:56:28 · update #1
I'm still have gotten no better response to the original question located here.
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What should I do?
2006-10-29 07:39:37 · update #2
Got to this address to repost your response. Thanks!
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2006-10-29 07:42:06 · update #3
It hasnt stopped me from wanting to have sex, it has just made it a little big more difficult to have the time
2006-10-27 05:19:33 · answer #1 · answered by Shell 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes once you do have children you tend to find yourself wanting to have sex but the moment isn't right. Realize that what you are going to need to do is time your sexual activity when your children are either not at home or in bed sleeping. Also to stop wandering children from just walking into your room in the middle of the night and catching the adults doing things their young eyes aren't ready to see your best bet is to get a lock. Realize that the only time you lock your door is during those moments that you and your husband are having sex. Always make sure that when things are done that you unlock them. Either way you can still have the intimacy with your husband and still be a responsible parent with your children. Hope this helps.
2006-10-27 05:25:34 · answer #2 · answered by mshellrosie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is my belief that you are not searching for an answer to your question, but rather someone else who has the same "problem" so that you can justify your sexual activity. If it makes you happy, then go with it. I guess I do not understand the question. Why would you curtail your sexual activity, on purpose, after having children? Many couples have less sex after children, but it sounds like you are cutting back on purpose. Why would anyone do that? If sex is no longer enjoyable, you should go to therapy, or see a doctor.
2006-10-27 05:31:25 · answer #3 · answered by Bill 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally, I'm a little confused by your question. I don't understand how having children could make anyone want to reduce sexual activity. In most cases, children will bring a couple closer together, which would make them have more sex, not less. Why would you have to TRY to enjoy sex? Don't you want to teach your children that sex is a very important part of marriage? Perhaps you believe that sex is only for procreation, in which case I can't help you...
2006-10-27 05:23:22 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not a matter of reducing your sexual activity, you just need to get creative as to when and where. Obviously when the children are young, it shouldn't be an issue. There's nap time, early bed time, etc. It becomes an issue when the children get a little older that it becomes more difficult to fit in your sexual activity. We've had to make some adjustments, but it's still good.
2006-10-27 05:23:33 · answer #5 · answered by breezygirl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no such thing as too much sex between a married couple, it all depends on what both of you decide how much you want to please each other. You may want to 7 times a week she may want to 2 so weeks so you do it 4 times a week.
Having sex has a married couple is just way to express your love for each other. It is a way that God has approved for us to enjoy each other as a married couple.
As far as the children are concern I believe a loving enviroment is healthy for them to see. Kisses and hugs teaches them that love is beautiful and it is a way that mom and dad express it to each other. Now I know in the bible it does not talk about birth control methods but times are different and God understands the bears of having children in this day and age. So it is okay to protect yourself as well as a unborn child from this cruel world by protecting yourself.
But never give up on the one pleasure that God has given us as married couple. It is your right to enjoy each other but that does not mean you have to keep having kids.
Let me know if my answer fits what you are looking for.
2006-10-27 05:39:05 · answer #6 · answered by ronnell1972 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your goal is setting an example, and you're married, then the example you should set is that sex is something that is beutiful and to be shared often between a married couple. Otherwise you create the impression that sex is something that you have to enjoy before getting married and having kids, because it's all just missionary position once every two weeks on taco night after that.
2006-10-27 05:21:50 · answer #7 · answered by Sean J 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Right after I had my child I didn't want to even think about sex. But after a few months that faded away. I think about sex all the time. Before I had my child, we where very spontaneous and didn't care when or where, after my child was born, that all changed, I then needed a baby-sitter just to get laid or would have to settle for a quickie before she woke up in the morning or while she was taking a nap and at night I am too tired from work, rushing to cook dinner and picking up the apartment to even consider having sex. But my partner and I still think about it a lot, we just don’t have the time.
2006-10-27 05:27:03 · answer #8 · answered by cubangoddess73 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If I understand your question.............
No, having children only convinced me that I want to be more careful when I do have sex NOT to get pregnant. As far as sexual drive, I think that just getting older has increased it tremendously. Children are not involved when I am thinking about sex. They are a whole other experience. I don't put the two together other then remembering to take my pill every morning!
2006-10-27 05:21:03 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, why should it , Sex is an expression of love between two people and children are the result, otherwise it would be a chore and painful to procreate. Obviously, HE made it enjoyable so the human race wouldn't die out. You see that male sperm doesn't taste like hostess twinkees, otherwise no one would copulate
2006-10-27 05:23:30 · answer #10 · answered by dominicaquilino 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it has made us find other times and places to enjoy the sex more and more often. Right after I had each of my children, it got slower because we were both so busy with them. We have increased our times together now that our youngest is 5. I think it depends on the couple.
2006-10-27 05:21:10 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋