Loves His Wife, Flirts with a co-worker and its getting hotter..?

Question

been married 13 years - 3 beautiful children - the flirting with an unmarried co-worker is increasing. i can't stop thinking about her and what it would be like to kiss her. i dont want to leave my wife and i dont want a relationship with my co-worker....whats up with me?

Answer 1

there is nothing wrong wit a little flirting but a line must be drawn if one or both have partners. Just because you flirt doesn't mean you love them or are in love with them ..it's more like can I get them to notice me, do they think I'm hot.....it's fun and it creates sparks ..but take the spark home to your partner or you could lose the one you love. You need to back away from the coworker and remember why you are married to your wife ...what first caught your eye...take her on a date, make her laugh!! Bring her home and make love to her, try something a little different then you normally would be flirty....just don't throw away what you have you may not like what you get in the end. Flirting is fun but doesn't mean forever.
~Good Luck~

Answer 2

"Don't pull the devil by the tail" It's an old saying. Loosely translated. Means if you are doing something or putting yourself in a situation that has the potential to cause harm and hurt feelings. Then don't do it.
We are all human beings. We all are prone to temptation and fantasy. Yet it's our actions that make us who we are. Even though we are entitled to our own thoughts.Let me question you this.
How would you feel to learn that your wife that you love has been flirting heavily and entertaining thoughts of kissing another man. Most people that behave this way in a committed relationship. Are lacking something. Men and women both do this. Maybe the spark has dimmed in their relationship. It could be that one feels undesirable and unwanted. So to be wanted by someone else makes them feel alive again.
There is nothing wrong with you, we are all guilty at some point or another. But it's a thin line and a dangerous game to be playing. Your urges could grow as could the co-workers. The next thing you know you have cheated, lost your self respect and if your wife finds out, you've lost everything.
The line has been crossed from harmless flirting when you think about her all the time and fantasize what it would be like to kiss her. Many would consider you have already cheated in your mind and heart.

Answer 3

First of all you it's natural to be attracted to other people. But has there been a change in your marriage that maybe a void is being filled by the "other" woman? If the thoughts/flirts are becoming more constant you are definitely playing with fire. If you cross the line there is no turning back, that's for sure and you can't miss what you never had. Don't let the curiosity cause you to lie in your marriage. Honestly the best thing to do is to walk away as hard as it's going to be and search in YOUR WIFE for the passion that's been fueled by your co-worker. It will only be a matter of time before a "situation" occurs and you can't turn back. Good luck!

Answer 4

Don't ruin your marriage over the office slut. There's one in every office. You're a married man; you should not be flirting with her. Avoid her as much as you can if you really think the flirting will lead to something else. Be rude to her if you have to. I'm sure it's flattering and maybe interesting to think what it would be like to kiss her, but would a kiss and a little fling be worth losing your wife and the respect of your children over? I doubt it.

Answer 5

Your being thrilled by something you shouldn't have!

Your feeling Flattered that a unmarried women would find you fun to flirt with. You keep imagining this other women, because it is your intentions of messing around, but not leaving the wife.

To keep those kids of yours beautiful, I suggest you keep your zipper up, and cool it!!

Sure it's fun to flirt, but your letting your mind and feelings direct you in the wrong direction.

Cool your jets, and start thinking of the wife instead.

Answer 6

Just because your married doesn't mean that you're not human. Looking is not a problem. The problems come if you act on them or if the fantasies interfere with your marriage. I believe you love your wife and want to make sure you never hurt her. Make sure you take whatever measures you need to to make sure you don't act in a way the would compromise you and your marriage.

Answer 7

That is completely natural to be attracted to someone other than your partner. You say you don't want anything to come of it, then don't let it. Sometimes these things are better left as fantasies. If you act on it you could not only lose your wife but end up doing things that you really don't want to. Leave it alone and avoid circumstance where anything could happen.

Answer 8

There is nothing wrong with being attracted to someone its human nature. So really nothing is wrong with you. The thing that gets people into trouble is what you do with that attraction. Its innocent in my point of view you love your wife and you want nothing to do with your co-worker I guess other than kissing her just dont do it!

Answer 9

You need a cold shower, sounds like!!!!
Is there no spark left in your marrige?????.
maybe it is time for a vacation just the 2 of you or a week-end getaway..... You could put those lustful feelings to good use.
Sometimes, people get in a slump and there is nothing exciting.... it is boredom and can get to you.....
Time for a little spice with the wife.....make a date night and discuss the plans.......

Answer 10

Mid life crisis. You need to know that you do not need the opposite sex's attention to be worthy and attractive. You are no longer young and you need to accept that. Do the right thing and be a good husband and father. If you believe in God, you will know that God doesn't want you to do what you are thinking of doing.