I have 3 girls 12, 9,7, how do I get them to get a long.?

Question

They each have their own room. All they do is fight and make fun of each other.I need help. I wish they were babies again.

Answer 1

I fought viciously with my little sister for YEARS. We were awful together, yet apart we were sweethearts. Now, at 17 and 21, we get along wonderfully and I am grateful to have her as my sister. Just stay away from ANY competetive games (haha i'm sure you know that by now). All in all, give it time. They need to learn how to deal with difficult people, what better place then at home with their mom's help? It will get better.

Answer 2

Well, my sister was two years older than me. We had to share a room for 17 years. We are so close. We like just about the same things with a few exceptions. We are best friends. I'm 21 now and she is 23.

I've never been a parent, but I think your mistake is having them all in separate bedrooms. They are probably always in there own bedrooms doing there own thing. Then when they come together, they don't have anything they can relate to and they fight.

The 7 and 9 year old need to be in the same room. The 7 year old is still a baby. She would probably enjoy having her sister in there as company. It's not too late for them. The 12-year-old is a little different. She is middle-school age or close, so it's alright for her to have her own room.

I know that taking away their bedroom is going to be hard, but help them to compromise. Let them both decorate their room. If they can't agree on the color, paint one wall purple, the other wall pink, the other wall purple, the other wall pink. I'm using those two as an example. Obviously they have their own favorite colors. Also, let them both add furniture they like.

I know you're probably not going to want to throw them into the same bedroom, but you're the parent and this may be the only way to help them.

On a similar note. My sis and I shared a room, but my older brother had his own. We never got along and fought a lot. So there ya go. :)

Answer 3

That's absolutely natural for children at that age.You don't have to mess with them.They will get through it.It's not the best that they have own rooms because that's how children accept own rooms - as a palace.Own palace which they are queens of.You can help them with making some kind of repairs in two of the rooms and get the together in one room for a month.That will help them a lot even though they will disagree,at least at first.They will learn important things - sharing room,conforming with each-other and other important abilities.

Answer 4

With kids that close in age, it's tough because that's what they do, they fight. My boys are 10 and 8. They fight like cats and dogs! My brother is three years younger than I am, we fought terribly as kids. We tried to cause serious harm to each other, it was that bad.

You can try different forms of punishment, like making them all sit down and write letters to each other about why they're angry. You could make them all do some chores when they get out of line. Or you could try counseling. A counselor might think of some other forms of behavior modification and discipline that you haven't. Hope that helps. Good luck!!

Answer 5

I have 3 sons, 12 9 and 3...so I KNOW what you are saying. Try to reinforce to the 12 year old "You are thier hero, and they look up to you" this gives leadership. Tell the 9 year old, "I would hope you try harder to include your younger sister" The baby always learns by example.

Reinforce that one day you'll be dead, and you need them to be there for each other. Tell them how it makes your heart happy to see them get along. Try to facilitate time together helping. Whether it be oldest reading to youngest, or middle helping oldest to study.

Answer 6

typical, I'm the baby, my oldest sis is 31, then its 27, then its me at 23, growing up was a pain, the two eldest got to do everything, and its hard being the baby. They accuse you of being the 'favorite' though i'm not. Just give it time sweetie, they'll realize soon enough that sisters can be great. It took both my sisters moving out to make me fully appreciate how much i love them, and them too. :) Girls will be girls, and its known that girls are the meanest creatures on this earth, especially at their ages. :D We weren't angels at their age, just give it time.

Answer 7

Well sit down with 12 year old and tell her....''Sweetie, you need to start acting your age. That means no fighting with your sister's or calling names because if you do you won't get to get an ( allowance, go to friend's b-day, get your phone early, be on the computer, etc.).'' So just talk to her. If she stops and your little ones start acting up then you tell them that they won't get to go to (friend's b-day, play on computer, etc) and then see if that works if it doesn't then go to a family phsyacrtrist.

Answer 8

You don't! You just have to let them work it out on their own. My sister and I fought all the time. The harder my mom tried to make us get along, the more we would fight in spite of her. As soon as she moved out, my mom stopped puching us to get a long, and we are now the best of friends. I have been doing this with my daughters....I just make them work it out, and it seems to be working! Give it a try....when they come to you saying..."so and so did this...." Just say "I don't want to hear about it...go work it out!"

Answer 9

I feel your pain. My 12 and 8 year old are the same way (both girls). I think we just have to wait until they grow out of it.

Answer 10

me and my sister constantly fought, even more then once a day. and it got violent. i was mad at her alllllllll the time until she joined the army.... now we r best friends cuz now we really know that we cared about each other after all. and i c her like only once a year and i never talk to her anymore cuz she is in iraq.