My ex and I share hobbies and cross paths often due to meetings and group activities; a civil breakup for the sake of our shared friends and interests has degraded and is now becoming acrimonious. I'm leaving details out to avoid bias.
I'm looking for suggestions that will try to avoid one of us having to leave our hobbyist community; we're both fairly involved and are local group officers, so continued strife will mean gossip, drama and hassles in a public forum.
2006-10-27 05:05:52 · 9 answers · asked by drumrb0y 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
ALWAYS, ALWAYS be the bigger person. Do NOT ever say anything bad about her to others. If someone asks you about her behavior, say you'll have to ask her. If they ask you what you think, say something empathetic, like I guess she's having a hard time. If you do this and do not allow her to cause you to sink to her level, she will be revealed for what she is and everyone will see that. Go about your life as normal as you can.
2006-10-27 05:12:26 · answer #1 · answered by Gatorgal 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You can't avoid him. You need to pull him aside and talk to him face to face about what's bothering you, and what you think should happen. Did the relationship end on bad terms? If it did, then tell him that you have to be there just as much as he does, so just make sure neither of you talk to each other...if it didn't end on bad terms, then try to be friends with him. You'd be surprised how close friends ex's can be. Just don't avoid him. Not talking to him and figuring stuff out will only make it worse.
2006-10-27 05:10:53 · answer #2 · answered by angelchild688 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're gonna have to have a private meeting of your own. Even though you're not together anymore, dosen't mean you each have to quit your hobbies. You'll have to come to an agreement to not let your personal lives become involved. Meeting in the middle sort-of-speak. If an agreement can not be reached, then more drastic measures will have to be taken.
2006-10-27 05:10:33 · answer #3 · answered by St. Louis Rams Chick 1976 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You both need to resolve this as adults and get on with your interests...No one should be gossiping etc....if you both keep your private lives to yourself......and if it should come to a point where it becomes tooo much then the BETTER PERSON should leave and continue other interests of the same value...all remember not to lower ones self to a level of such irritating and immature actions...miia
2006-10-27 05:15:48 · answer #4 · answered by COOKIE 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you can not talk and get along and avoiding her is not an option then do not communicate with her when you are at meetings sit on opposite sides of the room etc etc.. good luck that's a tough situation
2006-10-27 05:11:52 · answer #5 · answered by Amy M 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try talking to her and maybe you could work out a mutual understanding. It seems that these activities are important to you and you shouldn't have to give that up for 1 person. Give it some time, and if things do not change, then you may need to think about changing something yourself. I don't like encouraging people to give up something but if you are unhappy then only you can change it.
2006-10-27 05:12:52 · answer #6 · answered by pussnboots333 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Then give it up. Be a better man and walk away. People will see the truth down the road, besides there are other hobby places to go see and conquer.
Men love to conquer......go make an adventure.
2006-10-27 05:20:06 · answer #7 · answered by Been There Done That 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
One option would be to talk and divide up days or clubs. She gets Monday, you get Tuesday, etc. Or, she gets rock climbing, you get canoeing. It's not the best idea, I know. I do not envy you.
2006-10-27 05:09:39 · answer #8 · answered by iknownothing 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like one or both of you has a grudge to bare, Work it out in private, and get on with your separate lives
2006-10-27 05:13:16 · answer #9 · answered by rkilburn410 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋