This sucks!!!! please read this???
my boyfriend told me yesterday that he liked me more as a friend..... i took it as he was braking up with me ..... and now he really wants to work things out!! i am mad!!! why are some people even like that ... i accepted the offer >>>> am i stupid or what?? not only that but he just kept on i don't want to lose you .......ect.... i **** up ect...... can we please work things out.... then he said he felt better because he took alot off his chest??? ok guys should i just like fo bck on the offer or what??? or should i try to talk things out???? i mean if it was like that he shouldn't have ever ask me out brake up with me and then thirty minutes later texting and called me to concvince me??? i mean y does he want me as his girl to hurt me or what????
2006-10-27 04:56:28 · 26 answers · asked by gina g 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Gina
Forget him. Remember the old saying "There are plenty of other fish in the sea". You deserve someone who respects you. Drop him forever and move on.
2006-10-27 04:59:19 · answer #1 · answered by SeanB 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
confusion is a funny thing. indicision makes for a worthwhile theatric performance. have fun with it, see it in a less serious point of view and more like a game.
If in doubt, ignore your mind. all it knows how to do is think. Think, think, think, thats all it does. And a great deal of those thoughts are "what if?" thoughts, in a vain attempt at predicting the future. It is attempting to calculate probabilities to determine the most likely outcome, to allow you to make an accurate choice.
However when you don't know what you want the mind chooses both, or neither, or switching, and this makes your mind work harder to keep up which it wants because that is it's purpose, it's meaning for being, existing. It is fighting to make a difference to the point it is distracting the person from trying to get what is wanted, or not wanted, if it even knows ...
Forget your mind! it is deceiving you. Follow your heart. "Don't think, Feel!" Said Obi Wan Kenobi. Trust yourself, not the insane ramblings of a runaway psycho. Ah the many faces of the human being, being. Aint it grand?
You are a beautiful, magnificent being, with all the power of the universe at your disposal, and you choose to send yourself mad over ... what? Love? I reckon that's as good a reason to do anything (no sarcasm intended).
So chase that dream, choose what you want and target it with gusto and joy. And in the process, perhaps you can coach the one you love to be a little less confused aswell, for the sanity and stability of all involved. Then again ... who ever said sanity and stability were good things? Long live chaos!! Remember, variety is the spice of life!!!!
Confused yet?
2006-10-27 05:20:25 · answer #2 · answered by Bawn Nyntyn Aytetu 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hi there!
Ok to be honest with you... this kind of thing is a sign that your beau is thinking of having a relationship with someone other than you. Its "The Grass is Greener on the Other Side of the Fence" theory.
In theory this is what may have happened: Your beau decided to tell you that the two of you were better off friends, so he would not feel guilty or have any strings attached when pursuing a different girl. He may have even gotten up the nerve to talk to this other girl and was REJECTED. He would have then realized that he was better off with you than being single and having to go through rejection again and decided to reconcile with you.
Another theory: He may be struggling with his sexuality and sexual preference.
In any case, you don't have a foot up on him. You should have made him wait another day or two before accepting his apology. Making a man beg can show us how far they are willing to fight for us, especially when we are taken for granted, as you were yesterday. It's not to late. You can call him up and let him know that you have been thinking and you may need time to reconsider the relationship between the two of you. Let him know that it hurt you deeply when he took your relationship for granted and maybe something is missing... Try this, and watch him beg! If you do this and he doesn't beg, then the relationship was never going to last in the first place and you can mourn and get on with you life sooner.
Good Luck... And Have Fun!
2006-10-27 04:58:07 · answer #3 · answered by ♥♥ Liz ♥♥ 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
first of all, you sound a little dramatic about it. if you're expecting your relationship to never hit any rough spots, its gonna be a long painful experience for you.
i think you should tell him that you guys should go ahead and take a little break from each other. he obviously had some reason for breaking it off in the first place, whether it was insecurity or greener grass or sexual preference? (although i'm not real sure why a guy acting strange means he's confused about his sexual orientation??)
tell him he needs to take some time to figure out what he really wants, and if he decides after a month or so that he wants you, he can let you know. and with that time away from him, you can figure out what you want too. so you both can decide what you each want.
2006-10-27 05:32:46 · answer #4 · answered by jess 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
lose that zero.
from the sound of it he doesnt know what he wants and do you really want to stick around wasting more of you precious time while he makes up his mind. hopefully not.
Ask your self do yo love him. if your not sure yet then its not worth the pain and suffering. if you do truly truly love him then I would say do what your heart tells you but keep in mind what he has already put you through.
you have to be a strong women when men do this to you. It really sounds as if he wanted to see what you would do to see if you would beg him to stay.
if it were me I would leave you can always do better than your last is the way I look at it
good luck.
2006-10-27 05:05:10 · answer #5 · answered by smbrennan24 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
BAD NEWS!!! You should let go a person like that... they're nothing but trouble. He may not like you completely and take you for granted. That's why he's breaking up with you... But then he realized that he fell out of love... so he went back to get you back... just to feel secure because someone still care about him...
The bad news is this... if he finds somebody else that he likes more than you... he will not hesitate to dump you again...
If you have sex already... he probably realized that he would loose a booty call.
I know a lot of guys like that... so... trust my words on that...
2006-10-27 05:01:26 · answer #6 · answered by Jimmy the Cricket 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You might have tore a ligament in that case a X-ray will not show looks like you should seek a MRI.This will show allot more on different conditions that a X-ray doesn't.
2016-03-28 09:16:34 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've notice two phrases referring to a possible deficiency in your behavior. Do you tell him a lot that you are afraid to loss him and....
(OK, it isn't necessary to write down something you already know)
If so, than this could be one of the reasons he want the two of you to be just friends. You got to be less depended of him
( he must feel that he could count on you, not.... I am referring again to some particularly reactions of you...)
See what you manage to do and if he will accept you after you change your behavior. If not, it means he wasn't know you enough.....
2006-10-27 05:11:42 · answer #8 · answered by sergiu m 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He probably just want you their as back-up, in case the person he really want to be with doesn't want to be with him. Why would you allow anyone to string you around for their own convenience. Either you want me or you don't.There's nothing complicated about it. Don't ever give that much power to someone else. Make the choice easy for him; you dump him.
2006-10-27 05:02:51 · answer #9 · answered by sleepingbeauty123 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on how you really feel about him. If you think you want a life long relationship with him, then don't bail out, but be careful and keep your eyes and ears open. If you don't see yourself in a life long relationship, I'd quit now and look for someone else. Really good relationships are based on being best friends. When my husband tells me I'm his best friend, it really makes me feel good, but I also know he loves me.
2006-10-27 05:00:59 · answer #10 · answered by cowboys21angel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋