My exhusband recently got involved with a woman with 2 kids the same age as his own. He no longer has alot to do with his own girls to busy with his new ones I guess. I caught wind they have married recently with her girls there, his girls don't know anything about it. He is coming into town this weekend with new family to tell the girls. Am I being crazy because to me this seems like a bad father not even including his own kids. Am I wrong? Don't know how to make our girls not be so sad. Any Suggestions?
2006-10-27 04:55:16 · 6 answers · asked by tmc4 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
relax kids adpat fine and if this is marriage # 4 then they should be pretty use to his behavior. I know your trying to be a good mom and worry about them but the fact is there is nothing you can do about it. Don't mention that you think he is spending time with her kids instead of his in front of them. My kids were at my wesdding and a part of it however my husbands kids mother would not allow her children to be there..Its a choice people make including or not children in a wedding
2006-10-27 04:59:55 · answer #1 · answered by Amy M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow thats rough. Its seems from what you are saying is he is not considering his own childrens feelings at all. You can let him speak to your girls and you be the wall for them to lean on. As they mature they will unfortunately see their father as he really is. Do your best to not talk bad about him in front of your girls but u need to figure out some ground rules so that u can protect their hearts from being broken. You should be able to tell him that you don't want him involved in their lives due to the fact that he is continuously bringing women into and out of their lives they get hurt when they get attached or something like that I honestly don't know but u have lots to say he is playing with their hearts too.
2006-10-27 05:14:53 · answer #2 · answered by HereweGO 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes he was wrong not to include his own kids in the wedding.
But, I don't know how many of dad's weddings the average kid can take...it doesn't sound like commitment is his strong suit, does it?
Like they say don't introduce your kids to your new partner until you're committed as a couple, so I guess he's following that rule.
I'm sorry, not much help am I? I hope they have a good visit.
2006-10-27 05:17:29 · answer #3 · answered by Goddess of Grammar 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him make all the mistakes. Be there for your girls after he leaves. Never say anything bad about him to or in front of the girls. If he doesn't change they will know that you were there for them and that he choose not to be part of their lives. When they will have pain for most of their lives, but in the end you were Mom and he was the #@%*+$.
2006-10-27 05:10:34 · answer #4 · answered by ladytc 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just stay out of it! Wish him well, ( she sure needs it, if she knows what you know.) smile! Do not express how you feel to your kids. This is why he is coming, so he can introduce his wife to his kids! your girls should not be sad, if their dad is happy, then they should be happy for him! And that is what you need to tell then!
2006-10-27 05:02:18 · answer #5 · answered by roseannetb@verizon.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is not a good father, husband or man...
Sounds like someone to avoid...
2006-10-27 05:08:52 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋