Any thoughts: Big deal or not?
2006-10-27 04:54:48 · 36 answers · asked by bubbly_child 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He must be very immature to want a 16 year old if you was 18 it wouldn't be a big deal however depending upon where you are from and the legal age of consent he could get in trouble.. Around here 15 will get you 20
2006-10-27 05:05:34 · answer #1 · answered by Amy M 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
When I was 15 I was seeing a 21 year old!! Now I mam 26 I think what a pervert he must have been to fancy me a vulnerable 15 year old! He took advantage of that and I will never be able to forget! It really depends on the person! But generally I would perhaps go for someone a bit younger - more your age - just so you don't feel pressured to do anything you don't want to - becuase even if he doesn't pressure you, you will always feel like that cos he is that much older!! Also wonder why he can't get anyone his own age! when I was 21 a 17 year old boy asked me out! I really didn't know his age and was considering it! as soon as I found out I knew we would never be together as I didn't want that situation.
Take care whatever you do, and if you can avoid it then please do!
2006-10-28 21:01:56 · answer #2 · answered by Littlestar 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I did that and he was a jerk who couldn't get a girlfriend his own age! I'm not saying that's the same for everyone though. It really depends on your maturity and upon his. Do you think you will still be interested when you are 20?! There's a whole lot of personality changing which goes on between those two ages and you don't realise that until you look back. No hard and fast rule. If you love him, stay with him, but don't feel pressurized into anything because you're with an older "more mature" guy.
2006-10-27 05:38:55 · answer #3 · answered by Hairy 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
My wife is thirty years younger than me so I suppose that means 'not a big deal' BUTTTTTT!!!!.(Big word but) the younger you are the bigger difference an age gap makes. He is probably a nice guy but don't be taken in. He will seen very wise and sure of himself to you but, at 20, he really hasn't had that much more experience of life than you. Most of all don't let him take you up into his more grown up wold too soon. Go slowly and get ready to run if he is a predator (like me) Don't get pregnant
2006-10-27 05:06:42 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I don't think it's a big deal if you realize that you have a big responsibility to,... well, be responsible about it. As long as he respects you and realizes your legally a minor and he's legally an adult . I'm 17 and dating a 24 year old. He's wonderful and respects me in every way, but that's because we made our boundaries clear to each other early on.
2006-10-27 04:59:51 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont feel pressured into anything ur still young and give urself time to grow, hes an adult legally he may be more mature but u still have alot of changing to do i know that between the ages of 16 and 18 i changed alot and didnt want to commit to anything until i was 18, plus dont let him bully u the fact that u r young does NOT make u stupid or niave u r a person with ur own mind just like him
2006-10-27 05:49:30 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband and I are 5 yrs. apart I'm 20 and he's 25 we began dating when I was about your age but I didn't become sexually active until I was ready in which I was about 17 with him. NO he didn't cheat on me because I made him wait but I wanted him to know that he needed to respect my body in which he did there was never no pressure. Nothing is wrong with you dating someone that old unless your hiding it from your parents and your sexually active with him. That's when it becomes statutory rape if he believes your worth it then he'll wait if not then you'll know where his heart really is.
2006-10-27 05:05:31 · answer #7 · answered by bettyspagettii 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Any 20 year old that is seeing a 16 year old probably has problems that aren't worth your heart...
2006-10-27 04:56:28 · answer #8 · answered by willowz 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
No big deal at all! I did the same at your age and was with my fella for 3 1/2 years. as long as he treats you like the princess I'm sure you are, don't worry about it! Remember CONTRACEPTION AT ALL TIMES PLEASE!!!! you don't want to end up yet another chavvie teenage mum!!!
Good luck with it girl!! x
2006-10-30 14:37:15 · answer #9 · answered by Chey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's no big deal, as long as he treats you well and in it have sex.
Some youngsters today see relationships as just sex, because if you are seen as not having sex theres something wrong you.
Stick with him, if you feel uncomfortable you know what to do.....
2006-10-27 05:09:57 · answer #10 · answered by BigD 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋