Why are women so judgemental about other women's different parenting styles here?

Question

And in real life too. But, I am mainly speaking of here on this site. I perused this Baby question board, and wow. Women in general are very catty and mean!! If one lady is doing CIO, and asking for advice, 16 other women come to call her a child abuser and a terrible mother. It's the same with about the end of every spectrum here, it seems. Everyone's household is unique, and what works for your family may disrupt mine or the single father's down the street. Why are women this way? Somedays, I wish I had a weenie.

Answer 1

HAHAHAHA!! I know what you mean. I am a homeschooling Mom that stays home fulltime and you should see some of the things people say about homeschoolers. It is awful. People like this are just best not to be around or talk with. It is so sad. Everyone has their opinion. After awhile you learn to turn a blind eye or deaf ear to those dumb comments. You are right in we are all unique and what works for one person will not always work for the next. We try the best we can to raise our kids to be healthy and happy. We make our mistakes along the way. This is just life. We should be lifting each other up and not tearing each other down. Yes I have worked with primarily women in the past and I can honestly say I much rather work for a man. You get emotions and feelings in the way with women. It is just normal. The woman around my town are very catty because if you are out of the norm like me and my husband you get called crazy, weird, etc. A lot of women could be jeleous too when they say these things. I hope in the future you can get some better responses. There are some good people that come on here and there are some awfully young and unexperienced Moms that are better listening than giving advice at this time. I go to this site called parentsplace.com/messageboards because most of the Moms on there are nice and you get some good advice. I have been going there off and on for over 7 years. I got lots of good advice while I was pregnant and after having my first child. You do have to take some advice with a grain of salt, but for the most part some of those Moms who have several kids know what they are talking about from experience. Try it out. It is great!!

Answer 2

Everyone was raised differently and saw things that worked well in their own families and what didn't work well, they take their style from that. Children will respond differently. You have to decide (hopefully before you have children) what your style will be. What works well with your oldest child, may not work with your second or third child. Some children will get the message with simply raised voice or tone change, others, will need a swat to get their attention. I had one that was very hard headed and everything was a battle. I had to be alot harder on him than the other one. I think that woman are generally more outspoken and everyone has a view, but you should take it for what it's worth, maybe they will mention something you haven't tried yet, or you'll see another view, some people believe in spanking some don't, personally I think a good mix has worked best in my family.

Answer 3

You are so right. Mom's are asking for help from their sisters in parenting and don't deserve the abuse. This is not a forum to push your beliefs, just question and answer. The best way other moms can really help is by sharing similar experiences and stating what worked for them or sharing professional knowledge. If the ask-er needs advice and is going to sleep train her baby then she's decided that is what works for her family. If you don't believe in it, then you have nothing that will help her, don't even answer, move on, I did, because my babies didn't cry it out. We need some self control ladies, tearing each other down will not make anyone a better mother.

Answer 4

I agree totally!! I have read Q & A on here and sometimes I just want to curse some people out for being so dog on rude. Some people who ask Q's dont have family members to go to and they have legit Q's they want answered by someone who may have experienced the same thing and some foul rude person decides they should act like the person is incompetent and talk to them any kind of way. I feel if you have to be rude, dont answer. It makes U not want to ask questions sometimes yourself. No one gets on here and asks the question what do U think of my parenting skills? so please stop offering rude advice on it, either answer the ques or move on....

Answer 5

It's because they all grew up differently. Some parents are more lenient and other are very strict. So they can never agree to any parenting style. They all just need to be open minded about how they raise there children and stop judging and criticizing each other on how they do it.

One good point........ If you dont want to be criticized or judged by another mother, then I suggest that you should just ask your own mother or another relative that has or had kids so you can avoid all the blah blah blah from who knows what kinda mom your talking to on here.


I agree with you asker.

Answer 6

Some people dont know the meaning of child abuser they don't know the deph of that word dont use that word to all any one that no one dont even know the person or what they go through with that child. some people are just looking to all any one a child abuser.

Answer 7

I think that is so wrong! As long as children are not being abused people should mind their own buisness about parenting styles! I myslef was attacked by a mom who felt I was weaning my daughter for "the wrong reason's". I feel that is you cannot answer a question without attacking someone's personal choice just don't answer!

Answer 8

People dont understand that what works in one household doesnt necessarily mean that it works in another. Every family and situation is special and unique and what worked for them doesnt necessarily mean that it will work for you. There is no guidebook in parenting and there are a lot of ways that you can bring up a child.

Answer 9

No one should be judgemental about other womens or other mens parenting styles. They might call them child abusers, but who is to say? They should go call them child abusers, they havent even seen them taking care of the child! I agree with you all the way.

Answer 10

I agree.... it is every mother's right to raise her child how she sees fit. when you come on here to ask a question it's because you are seeking others' suggestions and looking for answers that you might not have thought of yourself. I can't believe how people think they have the right to personally attack each other's parenting choices.