Why is it much harder to get a boyfriend/ girlfriend as you get older?

Question

I have a girlfriend , but my friends seem to have bad luck finding love. So im wondering why its much harder to find a partner as you get older? All the good girls are either gay or married, same thing for guys. Or maybe they are looking in the wrong places.Im in my mid 20s just so you have an idea of whats the age range .

Answer 1

The eligiblity pool decreases as the age group increases, people get married and are taken out of the pool, the statistical likely hood of death obviously increases with age, it is simply a supply and demand issue.

Answer 2

In most cases it is easier to date when you are younger because the opportunity is there. You go to Jr. High and High School, basically a large dating pool (My High School had over 3000 students). As you get older you move away from that many people. Go to work, where most people are in relationships or married. Then you have the bars, night clubs, grocerie stores, etc... Or the ever popular "hey, my female / Male friend would be perfect for you". It just gets harder once you reach that 25 year point, out of school (college) and in the real world. Plus at this point most (not all) but most people are no longer looking to date, but rather to find that one operson so they become moch more selective, untill 40 or so and then just settle. But that is just my opinion. And by the way, I am 26 and in a very serious relationship.

Answer 3

Life and lives move on. People find people they match with, they get married and thus are out of the market.
The people that don't get married younger are left with "the leftovers". That dwindling pool of people gets smaller and thus more difficult to find "THE ONE". As single people get older, they have more time to date and possibly more opportunities to meet the wrong person. They get burnt, discouraged and somewhat cold hearted. It takes a lot of additional patience to meet the right one and then when finding MAYBE the right one, a lot more patience to get past the cold heart and to trust or be trusted. I'm 34. Most of the girls in my age range has already been married and/or has children. It's also difficult to find single women in my age range that have not been married, have not had kids and have gone to college (as I have) and then I don't smoke or use drugs, so the number gets smaller even more. A lot of people my age or older that are still single have become so independent and intolerant of having to change their routine that it just seems like too much work. It would be hard to give advice to a person in their early 20s of what to do and not do EXCEPT do not waste time with anyONE person if it's not going to happen with one year. Also, don't leave one person only when you have another person to jump to. Be considerate and conscience of your time and their feelings.

Answer 4

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Answer 5

there are a few reasons
1. the older people get, the more experience we are in our likes and dislikes. The world we have to choose from gets SMALLER AND SMALLER. We decide we want mates that are skinny tall thick short dark blonde, etc. We modify our standards. As we grow older our peers lifestyles (children, homosexuality, jobs, etc) may take them off our eligibility list.

In second grade all you had to do was pick someone of the opposite sex. 'do you wanna be my girlfriend' + 'okay' = relationship. Now we have to find people that fit our standards, have similar morals, principles, politics, etc., etc., etc.

2.The older we get the more likely those eligible candidates have already found other eligible candidates, so our pool get even smaller. There are fewer unmarried 20 somethings than 40 somethings. Its just statistics.

Answer 6

the older you get the more you know what you want out of a relationship, people tend to get a little picky as the settle into there ways. The older you get the smaller the playing field gets. Then if your shallow the whole looks thing changes. If your in your 20's and want lots of sex then the 30ish women are the ones to seek out. When I was in my late teens I was dating late 20's early 30's when i was in my 30's I was dating women in there early 20's, now I'm 50 I'm dating women in there late 30's early 40's....it's a game you gotta play with yourself depending on your needs, wants, and desires

Answer 7

This question is a little difficult to answers because it depends on a number of things. Like what kind of person you're attracted to, how frequently you date, how high your standards are, and even where you pick up women. Needless to say if you meet a woman at a club she may be looking to have a little fun, but a woman at a home improvement store is building a foundation. lol.

But I don't think age should matter. If you're generally attracted to a woman but not floored by her, still give her a chance. My hubs is definitely not the man I thought I'd end up with, but I can honestly say I'm happy.

Answer 8

I don't think is harder, I think people think it's harder to find someone because of all the messages they get from the advertisers and media. So they BELIEVE it's harder. And if you believe it, It becomes real for you and you act and react to life with that assumption.
Also, if you are comfortable with who you are as you get older you won't take second best, You don't want anything less. You done it, seen it and you already know not to rush into something without thinking it trough. It's better to be alone than with someone who isn't right for you.

Answer 9

Dude: I think people are looking in the wrong places or they don't know how to go about finding a girl/guy. Age is not the issue. Its what you want to find. If you are old, say 50, (age is relative) and your looking for a 25-30yr old, they the odds are against you. But if you are looking with 10yrs plus or minus your age, then your odds are better. See what a mean vern.

Answer 10

Well i think when we are younger (teens) we have everything in common with everyone our own age. If that makes any sense, as we have not found out who we are and what we are looking for in a partner. When you are a teenager he/she must just be hot.

When you are mid twenties, you narrow down your likes and dislikes and in doing so you narrow down your field of choice. Added to this that many people this age are married or in serious relationships.