2006-10-27 04:52:55 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
If you want to get him back you need to have patience and remain calm. As a man, take my word for it when I say they do not want to be pressured into coming back. Men love power and for a woman to tell them or try to make them feel guilty, it doesnt work. The only way to get him back is to make him want you back. You can do this by talking to him, telling him how things are going, and making him want to be apart of your life again. The main thing to not do is try to make him feel guilty. Do not seem desperate, but so seem like you are looking to get someone back in your life.
2006-10-27 04:57:08 · answer #1 · answered by Jason K 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know why it is that when a female turns up pregnant, that it is automatically assumed that the "jerk" guy is somehow to blame or in the wrong. There are two parties that brought this on themselves.
First thing you REALLY have to do is take responsibilty for your own actions that got you into this situation in the first place. He shouldn't even figure into you sorting out what you are going to do to fix this problem. He didn't do anything to you; you did it to yourself and with or without him around, you are going to be doing this on your own. Think about that long and hard before you decide how you are going to go about getting him back.
He is not interested in being your mate and the father of your child or he wouldn't have cut and run in the first place. Having him there against his will IS NOT going to make you any more secure or happy and it will eventually be an awful situation for a child.
2006-10-27 05:29:24 · answer #2 · answered by snippers72 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just think how much better things would be for you if you hadn't allowed your self to get pregnant.I just don't know what you were thinking.There isn't a thing you can do to make him want to be with you or the baby.He may come in and out of your bed if you allow it,but you can't make him want you.I wish you could learn from this and realize when some one loves you they show you not just tell you the words, they show you, they stick with you through hard times and easy times.where is this man? off with someone else?get your life together and don't make the same decisions that you've been making, you have a child that will be depending on you for guidance and that child needs a chance to grow strong mentally as well as physically.
2006-10-27 05:02:08 · answer #3 · answered by punkin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well no matter how old you are, you know have a responsibility to take care of. You can't force a person to come back if he or she doesn't want to as sad as it is. I know that it is hard but focus on you and the baby and if he really wants to be in the baby'
s life he will come around. I wish you luck, and keep the faith, it may sound stupid but think about it.
Pete
2006-10-27 04:56:29 · answer #4 · answered by Pete J 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's tough being pregnant, and tougher if you are going at it alone. Right now you don't need additional stress worrying about your boyfriend, so you should focus on your health.
He probably broke it off with you cause he's worried about all the responsibilities AND that he's no longer going to be "single" anymore. So for now, don't force him to be with you, it will drive him further away. In my experience, you'll see that he'll return to you on his own if he loves you. If he doesn't, you'll know what kind of person he is. Why would you want someone that doesn't want to be with you anyway? You can do better!
2006-10-27 05:21:04 · answer #5 · answered by hypnotic68 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't think quick you'll lose for a very long time. You have to explain what will happen to you and the child. If, this is your first, it will be very hard on you, your family, and your son/daughter. I was 16 and 3months preg when my son's father left me. and Now my son's 7 and I'ma single mom working my as* off to get a better life. Yes, the guys on child support watch and everything, but its sad that he doesn't even want to know his own son. So, if I where you, you have to act quick and think of your future for you and your child. Its hard, but you'll work though it. My advice as a young mom, if you are young and this is your 1st kid it will tough, very tough! You'll cry, you want to kill, and you'll want to wish you never had a reminder! If he doesn't really love you then think twice in having a child! Its going to be a tear jerker! Trust me.
2006-10-27 05:04:54 · answer #6 · answered by deadgrl6 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why do you want to force him to come back to you if he obviously doesn't want to be there? Can't you live without him? Showing him that you can live life without him and that he isn't the most important person in the world ought to help. Now I don't mean that you should run out and get the first man that comes around....I mean, to show HIM, the one that's trying to slip away, just how good you really are and what he's missing....
2006-10-27 04:58:10 · answer #7 · answered by sred 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm not sure of the circumstances on which you broke up...but any man who runs from a pregnancy really,,,sorry to say,,,isn't ready or interested to be around....i think if you feel that you can work this out with him,,,than try it...but dont force him, and dont be mean...how long were you guys together?....was your pregnancy planned?.....it is so easy for a man to walk away,,but not so easy for a women to handle that especially when there is true love involved and on top of that your raging hormaones when your pregnant..i hat to hear stories like this happen to women....b/c we cant just walk away!...i wish you all the best! just talk to him...communication is the key....keep your head up.
2006-10-27 04:58:35 · answer #8 · answered by Life....it blows! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you want to get back with a jerk who would dump you when you are pregnant with his baby? Go see Friend Of The Court for child support, and find another man who will love you and your baby.
2006-10-27 04:56:40 · answer #9 · answered by Daddy Big Dawg 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you try to pressure him, it wll just drive him farther away. Give him some space. I know you are worried, and I do not blame you but if he really doesn't love you, it would be a bad environment for you and the baby. Good luck.
2006-10-27 04:55:39 · answer #10 · answered by Army Wife 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋