Do I confront her or leave it??

Question

There is a polish girl my BF had a two week "relationship" with before we met.

He has told me she has found out my name and is emailing him saying she would meet him behind my back.... I have found out her telephone number ............should I text her saying keep away from my man, or , text saying I think she is a sad loser or just leave it?

Answer 1

leave it. He is being honest and letting you know what is going on and what this chick is doing. If you love him and trust him, trust he isn't going to do anything and that he will just ignore her. Now if he starts responding to her then maybe confront her but for now just leave it be. Don't drag up any unwanted drama.

Answer 2

How long have you been with your BF???
How serious does he feel about your relationship?? You?? Her??

I think that you're problem with how to deal with this lies with your BF, not her. She's just trying to start problems and be difficult. The more you confront her on the issue right now, the more persistant she'll be towards him.
HE has to be the one to let her know she's barking up the wrong tree! If he is encouraging this behavior from her and not putting her in her place, then you need to worry about how far you can trust him.....he may like the idea of you 2 going at it over him and enjoys playing this game. Is it worth being with someone who is willing to play that kind of game with your emotions?

Answer 3

Do nothing! Your BF has told you the truth about her mails so just be grateful you have an honest bloke. If he liked her more than you then he'd still be with her. Dont contact her at all but definitely keep your eye on her. Make sure all your friends know about her so they can keep an eye on her too but dont let your BF get bigheaded about this...just laugh when he tells you and be really confident in your relationship. Would be good if you two could accidentally bump into her so she can see how happy you two are. If it carried on, it may be good for your BF to mail her and say that he is in a good relationship and he'd prefer not to hear from her again...

Answer 4

Your boyfriend sounds immature. Why did he not take the situation in hand and tell the girlfriend that he has no intention of meeting her behind your back - if that is his intent - why tell you that the girl still has feelings.

Sometimes, guys want to see women joust over them. Usually, the guy is not worth having who would want to wound you emotionally in that way.

I would text her saying "You can have him." When she tells him. He will stop the games and come running or stay with her. I believe he will get the picture that you are not the type to play games with. I would let him know just how easy he could lose a good thing. Remember, it "is" his loss.

Answer 5

Get her text number and text something so sweet, it will make her gag! Don't be rude....just let her know you know she's around and that your bf tells you what's up. "Hi, just wanted to tell you "bf" and I were talking about you the other night and what an adventure you both had." "Hi, I'm "gf". BF is a great guy, isn't he? He said you were a good friend. Have a good weekend." ....Get it? Nothing threatening. When she reads all of this gooey crap, she will want to get rid of your BF for good and she'll lose interest. Right now her interest is not in him as much as it is in the sneaking around your back. Play the game...just be smart about it and make her gag every time she hears his name! Godloveya.

Answer 6

The automatic thing I would want to do is call her and tell her to leave him alone but she would enjoy that and could even tell your bf that you are threatening her. Be the adult one, I am assuming your bf will not be meeting her? Tell him directly and in a calm manner that you are concerned about them having their secret meeting. As you are part of his life, why not suggest you go with him, if he is stuck on going? That way the message is loud and clear, he has moved on. Don't rise to her little games, that way you will look like the adult in all of this and keep your dignity and your bloke! x

Answer 7

wow what to do what to do? You've got a good guy on your hands he is telling you everything thats going on thats great. On the other hand I dont think that you should let her get away with her trying to tell him all of these naughty things. If I was in your position I wouldnt be able to keep my cool. I just see that as a huge sign of disrespect. I would email her from my boyfriends email address and tell her off she has nothing to do with him there is no reason why she should be contacting him its not like they have kids or anything. Let her have it, but I would completely and utterly bring her down and play mind games with her acting as if your boyfriend was telling her these things. That would hurt her more. I guess I'm just a little evil and protective.

Answer 8

The sad loser bit definitely. If you leave it, and she finds out that you know all this, she will take it as a sign of weakness and that you don't care. Then she will push and push at your bf. He is keeping you informed, which is a great thing, but some men are weak. Not saying your bf will do anything, but there is always a chance. Good luck.

Answer 9

Have some self respect and just leave it. Remember your boyfriend didn't even have to tell you about all this. Why bother wasting your time finding her telephone number, she's his ex and you're the current girlfriend, I wouldn't even give it a second thought. Enjoy life instead.

Answer 10

Just leave it alone, there is no reason to cause a rift between you and her, she's the dirty one, all that needs to be done, is your boyfriend should never respond to her email, the only time you would ever say anything to her, is if she came up to talk to your BF, and your standing right there, now thats disrespect, but she's the one with low character, don't stoop to her level.