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In August this man asked me to move in with him because he knew I was having back surgery in September. I quit my job, gave up my apartment, and moved all of my things to his house. He asked me to marry him and gave me a beautiful diamond ring. He suffers from PTSD which is Post Traumatic Stress Disorder. I found out he had been married 4x before. Everything was going well and we were happy until the first bout of PTSD took over. The next day he was remorseful. He called me everything but chocolate. He paid for all of my bills including my health insurance. I had the surgery on September 13th. He took care of me and I was very grateful. I am in rehabilitation for six months. The doctor doesn't want me to do anything but walk for another six weeks. My fiance then had another bout with PTSD,on Oct 9th. He took all of my things and threw them in the kitchen and asked me to leave. He took the ring back. I left on Oct 15th. Do I have any recourse? I have no job and no money

2006-10-27 04:25:19 · 10 answers · asked by Theresa K 1 in Family & Relationships Marriage & Divorce

10 answers

I am really sorry this has happened to you. But I honestly think he is not stable enough to give you a long healthy happy life. It seems you gave up everything for the love of this man, who in turn is not capable of giving it to you fully. I wish there were something I could say to make it better for you, but it seems you are just going to have to move on and learn from this trying experience. Even if he agreed to take you back after kicking you out, I would not do it regardless of how "desperate" you are right now. It will only end the same.
Good Luck to you!!

2006-10-27 04:30:52 · answer #1 · answered by Kail 2 · 0 0

Ok, so all jokes aside, all of the crap and raping aside, how much do you feel for him ? If all these rumours wern't going about, how much would it change ? Be careful that you're feelings for him arn't growing out of pitty for him. Because that would be a big mistake. But, with all the trouble it has all caused, how do you know that if you decide to go with him it would be worth it ? It shall obviousley take you're family an extremly long time to come around, but if he makes you happy, then they need to get used to it. I can understand how confused you are, and alot of you still wants to be seeing him and marry him, but you know you shouldn't ? I think you should leave it for a while, keep his contact numbers and things but take a break. For real though, no calling up saying you miss each other of whatever. After this see how you feel, and think in you're head whether going back to him is what you really want and if you really can see a bit of a future with him. It all depends on how careful you are, and how much you are willing to risk. Depending on how strongley you feel towards him i'd probally just do what i said above, take a break. Or of course you can just break up all together. I won't tell you what to do, but as a human being if you put everything aside and think you shall know what is best for you, and you're family. Remember they are probally hurting, and the only reason they've kicked up so much fuss is because they are worried about you.

2016-05-22 00:46:56 · answer #2 · answered by Jaime 4 · 0 0

The ring is rightfully yours, but considering the fact that he paid for the surgery you might let that go. Be glad you're out of the relationship, and run like hell. Find a job, or file for aid until you're able to work. Go back to school so that you're dependent on yourself, not anyone else. Ask the school's guidance counsellors for grants and loans, then do it. Self empowerment is a marvelous thing.

2006-10-27 04:34:54 · answer #3 · answered by Carol 2 · 0 0

Actually yes. Just depends on the state that you are living in. You can literally sue him for breach of contract. (even though it was only verbal). Some states will take into account verbal contracts like yours which is a promise to marry.
If not well for awhile things are going to be tight. You might want to go to your local unemployment office and see if you can recieve unemployment until you are back on your feet. Good luck to you.

2006-10-27 04:29:26 · answer #4 · answered by mshellrosie 3 · 0 0

you could have saught legal advice and stayed in the house untill you found another place... to late for that.

you do not get to keep the ring. the ring is given as a promise to marry, if the engagment is broken you must give the ring back. sorry, doesn't matter who broke of the engagment.

your only leverage was the fact that you lived in the house with him... you could have legally stopped him from throwing you out but it's to late for that.

2006-10-27 05:07:41 · answer #5 · answered by Crazy dog lady 3 · 0 0

Be glad you didn't marry him....

It was only a ring!! Get you're life together and move on. I know it's hard but what recourse do you have! It's time you looked after yourself instead of looking for excuses not to.

2006-10-27 04:47:09 · answer #6 · answered by brenny_boo 3 · 0 0

You should qualify for temperary dissability through your state. You can apply for it directly throgh the county you live in or you can often times just ask your Dr for the forms. They will in some cases retro pay you from the 2nd week of your temp dissability. As for the legalities go with what one of hte other folks wrote sounds like they know what they are talking about!

2006-10-27 04:35:12 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

The only recourse you have is to learn from your mistake. Sounds like he has done alot for you and now you want more? Move on and next time dont jump so quickly.

2006-10-27 04:44:54 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

Don't marry this guy. Go to a relatives home. The surest predictor of future behavior is past behavior. Thank him for his generosity and move on.

2006-10-27 04:36:13 · answer #9 · answered by Sassy OLD Broad 7 · 1 0

MOVE ON AND FIND YOUR WAY. IT IS IN A NEW DIRECTION.
GOOD LUCK TO YOU!!!

2006-10-27 04:30:02 · answer #10 · answered by nwnativeprincess 6 · 0 0

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