My wife says she is okay with whatever happens, her freind told her she is going to F me, ... Is this going to cause problems with my wife?
2006-10-27 04:24:44 · 36 answers · asked by dan d 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Your one lucky dude.
2006-10-27 04:25:54 · answer #1 · answered by Zig Zag 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Have you talked at all about this? I mean an in-depth discussion about what is and isn't OK. Go through every detail in your mind about what you and your wife do when you're together . . . then ask her what she thinks about you doing those things with this other person. Ask her what she intends to do. Is there ever going to be a time where two people are busy and one is not involved, or should all three be involved at all times? If she's OK with seeing you and this friend together, ask her what makes it OK. Does she just plain enjoy seeing you turned on? Is she curious about the female body? If you haven't/can't talk about these things, you're not ready. Finally . . . and this is HUGE . . . assuming the three of you have been together, after the friend has left, tell your wife you really want to make love with her right then! Explain to her that what the three of you did was fun but only recreational . . . what the two of you share as a married couple is irreplacable and you just want the opportunity to have that dedicated time with her alone because it means so much to you. If you are sincere (and you should be) in saying something like this, she should get the very clear message that she holds the #1 position in your life and this one-night-event shouldn't confuse her about that.
2006-10-27 05:37:30 · answer #2 · answered by d-j-hawkins@sbcglobal.net 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to have a talk with your wife before you two go along with this. Is your wife a jealous person? If she is then yes this will cause serious problems. Was this your wife's idea on her own or have you told her that this is what you would like. Tell her not to do it for you but rather to do it for the both of you. If your relationship is in good health like you two communicate very well, you are secure in your relationship then I would go ahead and enjoy what it will bring into your relationship. Just remember to give your wife the same amount of attention as you give this other lady. Also talk to your wife and find out the rules before you start. Like is kissing allowed and many other things that may upset her. When you find out what the rules are then have your wife tell her friend and then all is good. Good luck and enjoy.
2006-10-27 04:35:28 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your wife is ok with the idea now, but as soon as your hands touch another woman sexually she is going to lose it. I am not sure your relationship will be the same after this. Just make sure that your wife is truly ok with this. This should be a fun night but you do not want to pay for this forever.
Example: You touched the other woman more, you kissed her better and longer...you see where I am going with this??
Sometimes, we as woman say we are ok with something then instantly change our minds...Not that you did not know that already...So before you ruin a good thing just be sure it is 100% ok.
Good Luck!!! Have Fun!!
2006-10-27 04:39:25 · answer #4 · answered by Kail 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, I am amazed at some of the responses I read. I am 43 and my wife just turned 26. My wife is very bi, we have had a another women involved a few times, it was great. We are both very comfortable in our relationship. We agree that it is her rules during these expierences, she goes out with her "girl friends" they have fun she comes home early, we have fun. I only ask that she doesn't mess around with other guys.
Enjoy
2006-10-27 06:52:17 · answer #5 · answered by Todd V 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lucky you! If your wife has discussed this with both you and the friend and she's OK with whatever happens, then go for it. Just have a nice hot 3some with plenty of attention for BOTH ladies so no-one feels left out.
Remember to video it and put it on the internet afterwards though! lol
2006-10-27 04:33:46 · answer #6 · answered by Marinersfan 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that it is a bad decision, I am not against a 3-some, but i feel if you are in a committed relationship it will be difficult for both your wife and you to follow through with.
2006-10-27 04:28:29 · answer #7 · answered by Katie R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as you and your wife have discussed this, and are both knowledgeable about each others boundaries, everything should be fine. Make sure you have a signal, between you and your wife, that she can give you whenever she doesn't feel comfortable about what's about to happen. Good luck!
2006-10-27 04:27:25 · answer #8 · answered by BeezKneez 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is the right way to ruin a relationship. It's absolutely degrading for the 3 of you. Even if a person is not jealous by nature if anyone sees his partner having sex with someone else in front of them after or before having sex with them it will make them fel uncomfortable and hurt to say the least.
2006-10-27 04:48:48 · answer #9 · answered by Micia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES. Been there, done that. Was great for awhile but eventually the jealousy sets in, the doubts start, and people start wondering how much can they really "love" the other if they are willing to share them. You will have a night of fun but years of regret.
2006-10-27 04:29:02 · answer #10 · answered by spedtrap 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You better not have too much fun w/this as you may pay the price later.
I personally think it is a terrible idea but that's just me.
No matter what happens I believe it will hurt the relationship between you two.
2006-10-27 04:28:22 · answer #11 · answered by sideways 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋