I have co-workers who come up to me, don't say hi or good morning, and immediately begin to ask, "did you ship out the ups package'? or 'I'm expecting a few guests in 10 minutes, can you run to Dunkin Donuts and grab 4 dozen donuts? Oh, and can you make coffee when you come back?"
Not only do they lack in simple people skills, it seems as if manners were a word they never heard of. The men are the laziest men I have ever met in my entire life! They have me carry the boxes to their desks, and do not assist me when it's obvious I need help. Only 2 guys at this company are cool & friendly.
At my other companies that I have worked for, even the lawyers and structural engineers were nice! Yes, lawyers! At the time, I thought they were a bit rude, but they always said hi, always assisted and always made sure they paid me respect. Here, these people do neither. And they are only industrial designers!
FYI: I used to live in NYC, but now I live in PA. BIG DIFFERENCE!
Help!
2006-10-27 04:12:16 · 9 answers · asked by Just a Girl 2 in Business & Finance ➔ Careers & Employment
And quiting is not an option right now. I have bills and a relative is sick in the hospital. Let's be realistic when answering please. Finding another job right before christmas is not easy. Thanks.
2006-10-27 04:30:50 · update #1
I'm from PA and I'm not sure if this is the problem but some rural men tend to treat women with less respect. It probably stems from their farming fathers or grandfathers, like in my family, who just didn't have time to respect their wives/other women. They worked all day and went to bed when they came home.
2006-10-27 04:16:32 · answer #1 · answered by Ryan S 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would expect his behavior in NYC not PA.
Anyway speak up in a nice way and if being a gofer is not in your job description let them know in a nice way that you do no have the time to run errands because you have your own work to do.
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At my old job I was good for writing memos and posting signs around my desk that talked about certain rude behaviors and if someone ignored it I usually ignored their request or pointed to the sign. It worked and we maintained a good working environment.
A lot of times people are so caught in their work they forget about work etiquette and other people's feelings. They just need reminders, so don't always take it to heart.
Oh, stop lifting those heavy boxes and push them across the floor..that should draw some attention and help;-)
2006-10-27 04:29:55 · answer #2 · answered by cantstandrudeness 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi there! Unfortunatly, all too many of us run into this situation when trying to start a career. Often we have higher authorities that seem to lose themselves when working up to the top of the chain. You can ask yourself 2 questions. 1. How many times in a good week do I find myself in the same situation? And how exactly would I go about finding a better position at a different location? 2. If I change positions, will it affect my career in the long run?
We all have minor set backs in life and especially in our judgements to make a better living, but you will eventually have to look back and see what it has made of you later on. I dont think you should stay in a situation that you cant control, such as coworkers not being courteous and higher authorities not helping you in your situation. But you will have to ask yourself, how much will it affect your future if you dont bite your tongue now? I hope that it all works out for you. Goodluck!!! :)
2006-10-27 04:24:21 · answer #3 · answered by jzbebegyrl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A Flirty Co-worker
2016-05-22 00:44:20 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're not going to change the corporate culture. You might be able to chip away at it slowly, though. Respond to the brusque request in the same manner as you would have if they had started out with a cheerful "Hello!" Some will probably be dismissive of it, while others will stop dead in their tracks and brighten their mood or even apologize. Kill them with kindness and cheer and you may be amazed at the results.
Work on change slowly but understand that you will need to adjust somewhat yourself. If you can't adjust to it, it's time to start polishing your resume and get ready to move on.
2006-10-27 04:35:40 · answer #5 · answered by Bostonian In MO 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe they just don't like you. We have a woman who works here that no one likes. We cannot be mean but we sure can avoid as much contact as possible. Maybe they hope you will get the message and quit. Thank all those women who keep crying about the fact that a woman can do anything a man can do and carry your own stuff. Also, those guys should get their own coffe and donuts.
2006-10-27 04:22:01 · answer #6 · answered by drctrutops 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I find it is best to stop them with some role playing.
"Hi, Bill, and how are you this morning? Feeling fine? Good. And were you able to get those UPS packages out? That's good. I know this is short notice, but we have some guests arriving in about 10 minutes. Would you please go out to the Krispy Kreme and get 4 dozen assorted. Thanks, you're a life saver."
If you "rub their noses" in it, one of two things will happen. They will stop nagging you or they will be courteous.
2006-10-27 04:16:25 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing wrong with looking and finding another job...kick them to the curb!
2006-10-27 04:14:53 · answer #8 · answered by Dillon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
find better job, treat them like they do you.
2006-10-27 04:14:17 · answer #9 · answered by Baby 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋