Should I tell her?

Question

One of my friends is pregnant with twins and the father wants to keep her a secret from the mother of his other child..

The other child is a 5-year-old girl. She went home and drew a picture (of her dad, herself, and his friend -who is his girlfriend and has been living together for a year, she is pregnant with his twin boys). Both the women are mad at each other but I want to tell my friend that she should be mad with the guy. He told the other girl that my friend was a “friend”. I want to tell my friend that he is running game on her but not sure how because she is not reading between the lines or will telling her cause problems between us.

Answer 1

This is a tough call....because you could end looking like the bad guy...but you should try to let her know if she doesnt get it ...just leave it alone....she will figure it out sooner or later....But the fact he doesnt want the other baby mama to know...seems like he still messing with her. Your friend should not be so naive, she going to be bringing two children in the world.....but do what you can if she not trying to hear u....leave it...just make sure you are there when she does realize cause she's going to need a shoulder to cry on.....

Answer 2

Well, if this guy is not married to the mother of the 5 year old, and the only tie between them is the child, there is NO reason at all why the new girlfriend can not be mentioned. Sounds to me like, there is something still going on with the first one. No man should be "ashamed" of a woman that is carrying his baby/babies. You need to tell her to stand up for herself. The 2 women will obviously need to get along, to an extent, they both have children by the same man. Their children are bonded by blood and should be bonded by "family". Good Luck!

Answer 3

Friends are there for each other in good or bad. Right now you NEED to tell her as he is playing both sides of the fence. Don't you think the mother of his 5 yr. old will find out eventually when he has to pay the child support for the twins. She should get things straight now before the birth.

Answer 4

In one respective I would say, you should not be all into this. But it seems as if you friend should be saying things to her boyfriend. I do not see why she should be mad at her boyfriends ex, that she should have stayed out of his business. Now He is not a man, because if it was nothing going on between him, and his ex, then it should be no reason for him not to tell her that your friend is pregnant, what does he have to hide, she is going to know soon or later. He is not being honest with her. Tell her she needs to sit him down, and get all of this stuff, out in the open! so she can have peace of mind! Tell her that you are only making her aware of this, because you care about her welfare!

Answer 5

As a friend you should advise her to talk to him. Because she is pregnant, especially with twins, she will be tied to this man for he rest of her life. He needs to be honest with both of the women. And if the mother of his first child thinks they are only "friends " after living together for a year, then she needs a reality check.

Answer 6

frequently YES frequently NO. Pregnancy indicators are the equal as indicators of a interval coming so frequently it is very difficult to inform. tHE VERY BEST option to recognise is to attend until a interval is past due and do a hometest. I used to be 7 weeks earlier than i learned with my daughter I NEVER felt ill pregnant sore boobs ANY SIGNS of being pregnant however, a + scan. With this being pregnant earlier than my interval used to be due i felt sizzling, irriated, crampy, sore boobs, the whole lot smelled horrible. All being pregnant are differnt even though a ladies is having no indicators and a interval is past due it is excellent to scan.

Answer 7

If you are a true friend tell her. Don't let her live in a fantasy world. Sometimes we have to burst their happy bubble but wouldnt you want someone to inform you of something like this?

Answer 8

It's something that you know...but not something that you should go blabbing about if you know that the two people involved do not want the "secret" divulged. Or, are you ticked because it's not you carrying the babies?

Answer 9

Keep out of it. Somehow, egg will end up on your face. It's their mess, let them sort it out.

He should step up, be a real man and tell her himself instead of being a coward. But that's just my opinion.

Answer 10

I would sit here down and lay it all out on the line. He should not e doing that crap. I would be pissed if someone knew about it and did not tell me... Good Luck!!