Are there any good reasons to get married BESIDES love? If I meet a girl and we are very compatiable but not in love and I KNOW we could last forever but not love each other... Does love really mean anything in the big scheme of things?
2006-10-27 03:53:34 · 21 answers · asked by beau0021 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If the two of your personalities is the type to be satisfied and happy with liking each other and being compatible and if you have fun being with each other, then it "could possibly" work.
But, the very best way to answer that question is to pose a question to both of you!!!!
My question to you both is:
"If you do end up getting married and are still compatible and having fun together," how will each of you react if and when another person comes along (possibly a coworker, neighbor, etc.),,,, who actually excites you and you have a burning desire to be with that person, and you can't help yourself but to put yourself in a position to be with that person whenever you can?????"
Would "both" of you still be happy and complacent to stay in your relationship??? Or would you want to take the risk of being with that person more and seeing what develops?
By each of you answering that question, you will have your answer.
2006-10-27 04:02:34 · answer #1 · answered by peekie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Traditionally people got married for love. But that seems to be slowly fading from the whole marriage thing. I know people that marry because of Child Support, Tax breaks, Citizenship, Feel they are running out of time to be married, Family pressure, etc.
I have married someone I didn't love. It was a way to escape the lifestyle I was living and keep my family together.
Even though this is a contradiction. I still believe in marrying for love. Although I have met couples that originally married for love and yet the last 25+ years have just been together. Fallen out of love.
I guess I am saying if both parties are aware and comfortable with the situation, then who's to say what is right or wrong. The catch is that love is powerful and uncontrollable. One or the other may find love with someone else done the line. And without that bond of love between the two of you. One might walk away.
2006-10-27 04:17:53 · answer #2 · answered by Balou 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, comfort. If you love and are comfortable with the person you are with, it will go a helluva lot farther in trying to make it work.
The scheme of things? Love is a lesson like anything else in life....you live, you learn and you grow. The ones who don't learn from what comes in life or rather choose to ignore it, are the ones who don't have lasting relationships.
The best things in life are not what you are taught, but what you learn on your own. And when you have someone to share that with...you learn together, it makes for a much brighter future!
2006-10-27 03:58:44 · answer #3 · answered by rdhedhottie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have heard of people staying married for other reason than love, but not getting married for other reasons. Trust me a relationship that has love can very fulfilling and to venture into a marriage without it could be a bit disrespectful to the concept of marriage.
2006-10-27 04:02:54 · answer #4 · answered by Gonzo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage without love is doomed to fall apart eventually. Love means everything in the scheme of things. When everything else comes apart, that's what keeps you going.
2006-10-27 03:57:56 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
oobviously love plays such a huge role in that..how can u wake up next to sumone u're not in love with though u mite be tied down w marriage or sth..still,i wud say love plays a huge part and still there are other reasons as to why we should marry someone..it's that someone u're gonna grow old with and should help u throughout ur life..and i should think u'd act bother to clean up after sumone when u love tht sumone..plus u may not be in love when u first get married but i believe love will arise not long after that..as long u dun block ur heart to love anything is possible!
2006-10-27 06:06:30 · answer #6 · answered by whoa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. The children you have will be ligitimate. There is also the fact that she will have some say if anything tragic (hopefully not) happens to you and someone has to speak for you. Just being your girlfriend is not good enough to do this. Marriage also usually gives you a feeling of security.
2006-10-27 03:59:07 · answer #7 · answered by notfreeinnh 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why can't you just be friends? Love is the reason for marriage. Divorce isn't an option later and itsn't the solution to things. But if you think it could work and so does she than why not?? Do what makes you both happy.!
2006-10-27 04:30:42 · answer #8 · answered by Happy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not in love means no true bond.
Staying married when things gets tough without that true bond? Not likely....
Because compatibility is hard to come by, and usually when folks are compatible, they fall in love AND single. So, don't you want all the joys that bond brings? My question for you is, why are you not in love and what is holding you back?
2006-10-27 04:13:20 · answer #9 · answered by HeartSpeaker 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course ... You have to have love for the person to go to the ends of he earth for them, to sacrifice anything you have if need be for them. to love unconditionally through all types of illnesses and unfortunate happenings. Your commitment has to be so Strong with love to endure all the things that a relationship entails. You are committing to be their other half and in certain cases, you are their cook, cleaning person, wait staff, nurse when required.
Love is the base and the strength that can take you through anything together.
2006-10-27 04:04:29 · answer #10 · answered by doclakewrite 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋