please learn to distinguish between the joys of career, hobbies, friendship & romance.
for me, nothing compares to the last one.
i'd like to hear original replies from people who feel the same or who can understand someone else's perspective.
thank you
2006-10-27 03:37:13 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Arts & Humanities ➔ Philosophy
Change the world in some great way! You will have eternal life and be loved by generations to come...and the odds are you'll be noticed by someone who share's your dreams and you'll fall in love.
2006-10-27 03:51:49 · answer #1 · answered by ideogenetic 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Romance is still a relationship, any type of relationship tends to take a lot of work. Not to mention that everyone, yes everyone comes with emotional baggage. For those that have been hurt, being able to trust others can be very difficult, also there are those who honestly do prefer to be alone, they are not lonely, but do prefer to be alone. There is a big difference between being alone and lonely. everyone has a certain comfort level when it comes to how much time they are alone, whether it's 20 minutes in the shower while hubby watches the kids, or hubby who disappears into the mountains for 4 days alone or the hermit who shuns all human contact. romance is a wonderful thing, just be glad you are not a person who has to try and swim through the morass of the dating cesspool at this time.
2006-10-30 20:36:04 · answer #2 · answered by Bunny 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is the question that I asked myself lots of times. It's hard to accept that you might not ever get married. It's scary too. We are social animals and cannot live alone. If we have to live alone we learn how to do it or find others that are in need and serve them. It's in our nature to be that way. For me love is the most important thing of the ones that you listed even though I haven't received that much in my life. However, when I decided that I wasn't going to stress over it and pretty much I didn't care about guys anymore I found my actual boyfriend. He is sweet and kind, good looking and loves me a lot. I didn't think that this was ever going to happen to me but it's happening right now and it makes me the happiest woman on Earth.
So, just work on improving yourself, serve others, pray, have fun with your friends, take classes, read, dance, paint, learn how to cook, volunteer at a school or any other place that needs volunteers, go on dates and be yourself and the right one will show up. And if they don't you'll still be happy because you're doing the right things. He/she hasn't found you yet because he/she still needs to prepare to meet the wonderful person that you are.
Just be yourself and show love and appreciation for others and they will feel that and answer right back. That way the one that is right for you will notice you and you'll both have the desire to make each other happy.
2006-10-27 04:04:28 · answer #3 · answered by Dally J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is hard because everyday you are reminded that you are single what is that song from the 70's or early 80's "one is the loneliest number that you will ever do".
Everyday as you walk among your community you see couples and your minds strays to that place that says "I am not good enough or why can't that be me". Over coming that is the most difficult of things.
I don't honestly know how you accept it but accept it you must. If indeed you are to remain single forever.
Some how you might eventually move on until again you see the smiling faces of a happy couple and you realize that you are not apart of such a couple.
Being single if hard because everything around us says we are not suppose to be a single person.
I don't know what to tell you but good luck
2006-10-27 03:47:03 · answer #4 · answered by Cherry Berry 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
After my boyfriend and I broke up, I had a real hard time dealing with it. Because I missed him so much, I never looked to date anyone else. After some time, I did get over him and in the process, I found that I enjoyed my company and enjoyed being single. I took joy in my kids and realized I didnt need a relationship to be happy. I dont think I am doomed to single life forever, but I am happy were I am. The right one will come along in time
2006-10-27 03:47:38 · answer #5 · answered by parrothead2371 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can certainly be single and still have romance. The question is do you want an everyday person in your life or is it ok to have the "date" once in a while. I didn't get married until I was 34 and now I am miserable. I thought I wanted the everyday thing, but I think it is terrible. Make sure you know what you want before committing yourself and don't waste your wishes.
2006-10-27 03:51:49 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't forget about not having love in my life and I do not accept remaining single. I experience love in my life, even though single at the moment, recognizing that it's only a temporary state. I first love God with all my heart, then I love myself, loving myself enough to accept that I deserve to love and be loved. And I know that I have so much to give a lover and friend that it would be such a darn shame to waste that love by remaining single. So, I will fight until my last dying breath, and beyond to have and maintain love in my life. I am love, so I simply be myself. How can I be different?
2006-10-27 04:35:35 · answer #7 · answered by shine_radiantstar 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask yourself what's more important to you: happiness or romance? I'm not saying that you can't have happiness and romance love, but if you haven't found happiness in love maybe you should focus on friendship more. If you have friends all around you that's love, just a different kind of love. Choose your friends wisely though, because who you hang around determines your character and what other people think of you. Maybe you'll find romance through friendship. It's possible.
2006-10-27 03:49:02 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I doubt that anything can compare to the quiet screaming joy I feel when I'm reading the most heart-breakingly beautiful/sad/glorious passage of a well-written book. Sometimes the effect is cumulative and sometimes nothing matters but the book.
I therefore become romantically attached to many of my books. Who needs people, when there's V., Borges, Prince Myshkin and Johnny Truant?
2006-10-27 03:46:23 · answer #9 · answered by Theo D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, I think ANY love is important, not just the romantic one. So, it's possible not to be involved romantically, yet enjoy having love in your life.
But I understand what you're asking. I recently have decided to remain single. This isn't to say I don't long for a loving partner. I don't think I would ever be able not to think about that. This is not to be mistaken for loneliness. Staying single is a conscious decision of mine, because I am sick and tired of putting up with men's BS.
If there ever will be a man worthy of my love, I have faith that I will recognize it in him, but I refuse to "search" for him. He will come into my life when the time is right. :)
2006-10-27 09:24:35 · answer #10 · answered by smiling_nonstop 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was happily single for over twenty adult years. I was so busy with other activities (work, church, being a single mom and all that includes) that having romance did not matter to me.
Besides I knew the love of my life would show up when the time was right.
And he did. So now I have romance and spousal love in my life. I always had love in my life but it was not a romantic love until now.
Thanks
2006-10-27 03:50:33 · answer #11 · answered by pj_gal 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋