how do you forget about not having love in your life and come to accept you may as well remain single?

Question

please learn to distinguish between the joys of career, hobbies, friendship & romance.

for me, nothing compares to the last one.

i'd like to hear original replies from people who feel the same or who can understand someone else's perspective.

thank you

Answer 1

I may not have love in my life physically in that that person is with me but I always think of smeone I know or saw in public that I felt an attraction for and fall asleep with that person in mind. That might sound weird but thats how I deal with not having someone when in reality I wish I did have someone to love and loved me back.

Answer 2

Hey there. Just because you are not involved in a romantic relationship doesn't necessarily mean you do not have love in your life. I know you said nothing compares -- but that goes for everything you listed. Nothing compares to the joy you feel when doing a favorite hobby -- or talking and laughing with friends -- or being with your family. They are all so different.

You should learn to be happy with what you have. I know it seems like a lot to ask, but really it will help you so much. Take life as it comes. If you happen to fall into a romantic relationship, that's great! If not, that's great too. Realize that when it all comes down to it, you are your best and most reliable companion. Try spending some time alone, doing something that makes you happy.

Change is an integral part of these lives we lead. Embrace that fact.

I wish you all the best.

Answer 3

It's hard and I'm not saying it's working. I believe you'll always be single. Even when you're born(including twins since they are still born at different times) you live this life individually. It's like under your clothes you're still naked.

The way I accept being single is that I'm happier not being with someone who could and would make me unhappy, just so that I could fool myself into thinking I'm not alone. Plus I've found the romance lacking in the situations I've been in so I'm not compelled to need it.

I can see how other people need to be with someone. There is the idea of strength in numbers and having a safety net. But I would rather be the one taking all the flak for my choices and not burden someone with my battles.

PS. I just wanted to add that I don't agree with the idea of "finding someone". It's like picking from free pizza. What you get may be acceptable but not exactly what you wanted. So while I was on the toilet Wednesday I asked God, "why did you screw up the population. If you made me, I would assume you would know that one day I would like to have a companion. But at this point with the amount of males and the issue of sexual preference, it looks like I'm left out." I haven't gotten an answer but I put a two week time limit on things, so I guess I'll have to report later.

Answer 4

I was once told that i was a loner, I had a wall built so high I wouldnt let anyone in. It bothered me so much for weeks thats all i could think about. I didnt want to be a loner so i put on my fav pair of jeans nice shirt, some make up, but most importantly i tooked down the wall and went out dancing all night. I had the time of my life n still am, Why dont you give it a try. w/ no exceptions...

Answer 5

In order to accept that you may as well remain single you cannot forget about not having love in your life.
There are lots of different forms of love. You can be single and have a life full of love.

Answer 6

Just wait,make yourself available...The right one will show up when you least expect it... DON`T compare your next one to your last relationship... Remember " when one door closes another will open for you "... Good Luck...

Answer 7

we all feel this way at one time or another.
but don't give up hope for your self maybe it's just not the right time for you right now.
time will bring you things to lift up your spirits and make you see it was worth the wait.

Answer 8

take comfort that you will probably find someone when you stop looking for them. It's like waiting for water to boil. Learn to enjoy activities that include your friends.

Answer 9

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