Heres my situation, I love my boyfriend and Im a very friendly person I dont like to hurt people and I hug everyone well a couple comments to my best friend who happenes to be a guy saying that I love him and such made my bf mad but I love all of my friends the same and I say I love you to all f them well after a long night of tears and yells I was crying and my bf was feeling horrible he told me I did nothing wrong and I shouldnt feel bad but I do his last gf cheated on him and he said that this was kinda like what happened then too but Id never hurt him and now he feels bad for bringing up the whole thing and I feel bad for making him feel like this please what do I do I love him so much
2006-10-27 03:13:30 · 11 answers · asked by Rachael 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
it is good you talked about it...don't change......he knows it....and will become more confident in your relationship as time goes by. My best friend is male....I am female and we have faced this many times...and the people we had relationships got over it and even our spouses of 25+ years know it is the way we are!!! but the fact you talked about is a good thing...communicate about everything that is good...and everything that is bad...and you can't go wrong!!!!
2006-10-27 03:18:58 · answer #1 · answered by Searching for answers 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
You need to be midful and respectful of your boyfriend. If these things bother him, you need to have a sitdown with the male friends, and explain it. They should understand, because most men would feel this way.Tell them, one last time, You know I love you, but he has these past issues, and because I love him so much, I can not say it to you, or at least in front of him.
If this friend has been in your life for a long time, he really should understand.
But, you should not pay for a past womans mistakes. I am remarried, and at times, my husband pays for my ex's mistakes, and it hurts me when I put that on him.
I do not want him to pay for what he did, when he is blameless.
But as for the friends, just tell him you can not do that anymore, or at least till the relationship is more grounded.
Both men should understand and have security in that!!
Good Luck :)
2006-10-27 03:23:08 · answer #2 · answered by Oorah Wife 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you are going through is technically called Borderline Personality Syndrome. Your BF is a drama queen in plain English. He jumped off the hook and feels bad about it, so don't mention it again. Talking only helps if it's a problem that isn't resolved, otherwise dredging the past up again and again only refreshes the wounds.
2006-10-27 03:30:00 · answer #3 · answered by bobsmith2089 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time to move on and get past this. Just be mindful of your boyfriends feelings when you are talking to your male friends. As you get older you realize that those male friends are truly either waiting in line to be your boyfriend, or they are like a brother. When you are young though it's usually the first of the two. Your boyfriend, being a man himself, knows this to be true so when he sees you telling your friends you love them, he knows that your friends are taking it as "yes, I've got a chance w/ her!" Don't be so naive to think that boys really want to just be your friend, unless you've got the new X-box or a brother who's friendly with his stash of dope, these guys most often aren't really wanting to keep it platonic. Good luck with this, and with life!
2006-10-27 03:51:36 · answer #4 · answered by mamatoshreksboys 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
perfect now, particular. final week, it became astonishing. issues replace so on the instant.... love merely complicates all thoughts. once you get injury, the wear and tear is a hundred circumstances worse. whilst it extremely is nice, its a hundred circumstances greater useful than the rest. Love is an exaggeration
2016-11-25 23:13:29 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
now you have a bf try to be more respectable about his feelings.....not saying to change but try to do things differently...your friends know they will always have a place in your life....so there's no need to say you love u to your best friend he already knows.....your bf already have insecurity issues dont feed it.
2006-10-27 03:17:54 · answer #6 · answered by teaspoon520 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Is it really appropriate to tell your male friends you love them?
I care deeply for my male friends but the word love is only used for my partner. I would stop telling your male friends you love them especially when your bf is around. Apoligise to your bf.
2006-10-27 03:18:05 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
sounds like both of you have already done enough apologising.
time to move on and enjoy being together again.
2006-10-27 03:16:29 · answer #8 · answered by You'll Never Take Me Alive!! 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Pray about it
2006-10-27 03:15:28 · answer #9 · answered by Fruitful1 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
that's a big run on sentence
2006-10-27 03:17:01 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋