I have a good friend of the opposite sex and he has told me more than once that I can come and stay at his house anytime I want or need to ( this includes my daughter staying there too) well now I was at lunch yesterday where we both work and this other friend ( male also) came over and sat down across from me, well he seen that, which yesterday was his day off but he came to get his check and he said that he came to see me too, and then when my lunch was over he walked me back to my clinic and ask me if I bought the other friend lunch? I told him NO but that if he had came earlier I would have bought lunch for him to make him feel better. well my question is was he jealous or am I making more out of it than is there. I really like this friend and maybe someday would like for it to be more but right now I am not ready for a relationship and the other friend that sat at lunch with me is married and we are just friends nothing more, so was he a little jealous or an innocent comment?
2006-10-27 02:56:48 · 9 answers · asked by stormy 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
the first freind is single that is the one who acted jealous, the other friend is married and just a friend to me
2006-10-27 03:01:35 · update #1
It could be both. if I were him, I will be just a little jealous ( but that's because of my personality). Hey, he invited you and your daughter to stay at his place, right? So that means he feels something for you. If you care about him, than use other occasions and show him that there is nothing to worry, that he is important to you ( for example, invite him to a cup of tea / coffee / hot chocolate, anything which gives you the opportunity to discuss about something- it doesn't really matter what). I don't know, I believe is good for two close friends that sometimes to be a little bit jealous when you see the other one talking with somebody else ( is the best way knowing that he still cares about you, but also, is necessary that this jealousy not to degenerate into extreme hate and absolute misstrust).
See if he understands your needs and still want to remain your friend.
2006-10-27 03:20:27 · answer #1 · answered by sergiu m 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From a truly male point of view he was probably just jealous of the attention the other friend might be getting and he just might feel the same way you do - someday (maybe soon) but not right this minute. He is obviously attracted to you but doesn't know where he stands because you are obviously not ready right now.
2006-10-27 10:03:41 · answer #2 · answered by mfutrell58 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Believe me...he was jealous. I have a best guy friend and he was so jealous I was friends with this other guy he was seeing green. It went so far that he wanted to beat the other guy up. When my best guy friend found out that the other guy was my best friend's boyfriend he was okay. If it happens again I think you need to talk with him and tell him that although you like him that you are not ready for a relationship right now. Good Luck!
2006-10-27 10:05:28 · answer #3 · answered by Michelle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like your friend is a little shy in the asking girls out department. It sounds like he likes he has a crush on you and doesn't want any other guy to talk to you. I had the same thing happen to me at work. I used to talk with this one guy every day at work. We were best friends (but he was older). When he found out I had a boy friend...I thought he was going to go thourgh the roof. He didn't want to eat with me any more. I had a talk with him and I told him that I value his friendship more than anything in the world, but that is all I want it to be. Maybe you should talk to him.
2006-10-27 10:07:13 · answer #4 · answered by hard rock girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, he is jealous, he wants more than your willing to offer at the present time, i would just take it slow and i definitely would not move in with him, if he is questioning you know what will he do once you move in, he could even be abusive!
2006-10-27 10:09:27 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi!
yes he was jealous but don,t worry be happy he loves u a lot and you too.
2006-10-27 10:01:51 · answer #6 · answered by priya 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you've gotten back with your ex............. see how much interest he shows then!
he's a little jealous IMO
2006-10-27 10:01:23 · answer #7 · answered by Damian 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's jealous.
2006-10-27 10:02:14 · answer #8 · answered by flutterby 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he is married leave it alone
2006-10-27 10:00:17 · answer #9 · answered by nicole 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋