I think abt dumping my husband but i'm afraid that people are going to talk behind my back and who are these people, these are people from my origin. I'm a muslim and originally from india. My religion permits us to divorce your spouse when you think that the relationship is not working out. Islam is an open religion. It gives one a lot of rights but its the followers who dont practice it right. So i guess its the culture. If i divorce my husband, people are going to think i'm not blessed. Some of them might even stop talking to me and accuse me of bad things. Al though my parents wont have a problem with me divorcing my husband but my relatives and perhaps some of my friends will think of me bad and will look down on me. I'm a USA citizen and it makes me different but i wonder if people from my society are still going to attack me. And there is also one another major problem with my culture, a girl who is divorced is going to have a hard time finding another guy to marry.
2006-10-27 02:55:48 · 6 answers · asked by mind 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I understand that the cultural pull is very strong for you, but most people realize at some point that if we live our lives worrying about what other people think about what we do, then we are not living for ourselves.
Personally, I think everyone deserves to be happy as long as they are not hurting anyone else. You said your parents would be okay with it. You need to ask yourself: who am I living to please? Do I have a right to be happy? Who makes my decisions?
I know that that is a very American analysis, but you are an american citizen and it's your culture now. You can accept or reject the parts you like or don't. My boyfriend is Muslim and I understand what its like for him to try to mix two cultures. Good luck.
2006-10-27 03:00:27 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's your life, forget about people, it's you who have to live life, and ofcorse Islam gives the permisson to divorce the husband, first there should be a sound reason. If u really follow Islam i don't think you would think of that word divorce... and it's you who can change your husband... when a hard rock can get melt by the drops of water, and u r his wife you should know how to get him on track.by the way what's the surity that the guy with whom u would marry again would be better then your present husband. anyway i wish u goodluck in ur future.
2006-10-27 03:17:39 · answer #2 · answered by Sameer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For starters, you are in the perfect place. The USA is where you can start over and be a resounding success. If you must divorce your husband, then divorce your husband - I assume you have tried to work it out?
Your friends will not look down on you. That would disqualify them as a friend. As for relatives, they do not know what is going on in your heart so you just have to hope they will at least eventually understand.
If you have to, move to another city and just start over. You are in the right place to do that! Good luck!
2006-10-27 03:05:30 · answer #3 · answered by Nuk.Nuk.Nuk 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you really want to continue associating with a faith that condems? Who gave them the right to judge. Never judge someone until you have walked a mile in their shoes. Would it make a difference if you moved? Would other Muslims treat you bad even if they didn't know you? You may have a hard time remarrying in your culture but, this is America and you are free to marry whomever you want. Marry the man that will treat you right, not the religion.
2006-10-27 03:00:23 · answer #4 · answered by roxy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course you care what other people think. Peer pressure is what keeps us honest. Others that say "do what you want" are the same people who are in a financial mess, have no morals, disobey rules and cause all kinds of problems in society.
Sounds like you are bored, make a better life for yourself within your marriage.
2006-10-27 03:12:11 · answer #5 · answered by lily 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you cant live your life by what other people thinks regardless of your culture or religion. At the end of the day, it's you that have to live with the choices you made. No matter what you do, people will talk about you, that's just life, but you cant allow them to dictate how you live either. When they stop talking then worry.....til then do what's best for you...you only have one life....
2006-10-27 02:59:33 · answer #6 · answered by teaspoon520 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋