my wife i love her but?

Question

goes balistic at the slightest thing and i'm always the one that gets it ,no matter what the problem it always comes back to me,

Answer 1

She's going to take things out on you because your the closest 1 to her. Maybe she is having a go so much though because she may be under pressure that you don't know about or maybe she doesn't feel appreciated by you. Try giving her a romantic night and try and get to the bottom of the problem. Sometimes people in relationships stop communicating with each other.

Answer 2

Sounds like your wife wants to wear the pants in the house! Can't work pal. The best thing you can do is sit her down for a nice romantic dinner and ask her what is bothering her. Maybe she is just a very jealous girl, or maybe you really are always stuffing up. Talk about it. If she doesn't change, your marriage can't last because you are eventually gonna get fed up! She sounds VERY domineering (take this from a lady who is VERY independant and strong), you need to stand firm with her. Most women "think" they want to be the boss, when actually, we want to be protected and loved. Sort it out now before you loose all respect for her.

Answer 3

You have to stand up for yourself!! No one should treat anyone that way! I think spouses assume because they are married they can treat their significant others anyway they want. Ask her what she would do if the tables were turned, how would she like it if you treated her that way. She might have some underlying harmone or thyroid condition to that should be checked, both call for major mood swings. I wish you all the best and I hope she wakes up before it is too late. I don't think you would ask for advice if you didn't care about her. But no one should treat anyone that way you are too good for that.

Sounds like my parents, my mom is very unhappy with herself (overweight, bored with her life) but she won't make any changes and always takes it out on my dad or whomever is around at the time.

Answer 4

sit her down and talk to her, she probably has so many things on her mind, offer to carry some for her, take her out go for a meal, go on a weekend break etc.
then kinda just slip in that it hurts you when she puts most of the stuff on you, dont go over the top though otherwise it will cause arguments.
maybe she is depressed or stressed it could be a number of things, give her kisses and cuddles off guard suprise her with a big kiss!!! :o)

Answer 5

sounds like she has some underlying issues and some anger problems. I would talk to her, unless of course you don't mind getting yelled at all the time. She won't change if you don't speak up. She may not even realize she is doing it. Talk to her, counseling maybe. You have to ask yourself what you are willing to deal with the rest of your life. It is up to you. Good luck

Answer 6

Talk her into smoking weed. No really, how can you love someone who treats you badly? It's an age old question that still hasn't been answered. You might want to take her for a psych evaluation. I had a friend like that and it turned out that she was bi-polar.

Answer 7

she might have some sort of metal prob or something.im sure you will love her the rest of ur life but doesnt mean u have to be with her.talk to her and tell her how you feel and if you done that already maybe you should tell her you want counseling.i couldnt understand why someone would put up with that.but i understand cause my partner says im always yelling at him.but its just my voice,not that i get mad at him thats just how i em

Answer 8

In general, I usually like to strongly encourage couples to work things out, despite the current discomfort. However, when abuse is involved (physical or mental), my immediate response is to encourage the abused spouse to get out. Then once you have distanced yourself from the daily abuse and humiliation, you can then "safely" get together and talk about what changes must occur; without fearing that your "self" will be overwhelmed and/or discounted in the process.

Any sort of humiliation and/or disrespect that one party willingly endures in a relationship is likely to impact negatively on his or her self-esteem, and lead to further criticism and disrespect from the abusing party.

In other words, if you behave like a doormat, it is quite likely that you will be treated like one as well! Your use of phrases like: "changed every aspect of my life for her," "left in the dust" or "once again begging to be let back in" suggest to me that you feel worthless and discounted in her eyes. This is not the way to win your wife's love and respect. In marriage and relationships in general, we must strive for win/win. Nothing else works.

Answer 9

I have a ? for ya.
What did you do to make her that way?
It just don't happen for no reason.
Maybe something you did a long time ago that isn't settled yet. Maybe she hasn't forgiven you or don't know how.
Ask her why she goes ballistic, then help her to stop doing it. Don't ignore it cause it will get worse if you do.

Answer 10

Have you tried talking to her and asked her if she has a problem. She sounds as though she may be depressed and is behaving irrationally. There is usually a reason for this type of behaviour.