Me and my girl been together for 7yrs we have both hit each other before but since we have been to cousling and niether one of us have hit each other for 2yrs now this morning we woke up and she slapped me and we are two weeks from getting married and i'm thinking to my self how can i put up with this ?
2006-10-27 02:50:32 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
wow abuse is never a good thing and you both have did it befor well this shows its not going to get better so way don't you 2 just move on
2006-10-27 02:59:13 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would really think this one out. Personally, I would not marry her, I would run and run fast. No one should be in a relationship where there is the feelings of need to place your hands on the other. Sure we all get angry, however, on one has the right to slap or hit anyone (male to female or female to male) Never acceptable. And I would take this as a big red flag. And move on, she has already had counseling and should have learned to control herself. I am afraid she has just given you a taste of what is to come, it will only get worse with the years to follow. Good luck and God bless
2006-10-27 09:56:10 · answer #2 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She just slapped you? For no reason?
There is just no excuse for hitting someone and it sounds like the two of you need some additional counseling. And I wonder if she is showing this aggressive behavior BECAUSE the wedding is 2 weeks away. I would find out if she really wants to get married. As for "putting up" with this, honey, no one should have to put with abuse.
Good Luck!
2006-10-27 09:55:53 · answer #3 · answered by queen7bee77 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hitting is not part of a normal healthy adult relationship. Hitting is unacceptable on anyone's part. You should not put up with it.
Keep in mind that if you marry her the hitting will continue and may get worse, no matter how many times she apologizes.
When you have children they will see the hitting and will think this normal and will continue the cycle into their relationships. There are excellent domestic violence crisis workers out there, look in the phone book and give them a call.
2006-10-27 09:57:28 · answer #4 · answered by joeanonymous 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Married or not, you have no right to put your hands on her and she has no right to put her hands on you. If you've done the counseling thing and she's back to her old ways then you need to ask yourself if you want to spend the rest of your life wondering if the person you love more than anything else is going to one day fly off the handle and attack you or something. Little hits now can turn into bigger hits later.
2006-10-27 09:57:49 · answer #5 · answered by QueenE 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Boy you better run, because the only way you should be hitting her is by your penis hitting (more like punching) her in her vagina. The only way she should be hitting you is by her boobs hitting your face in the midst of hot steamy sex. Try going to a counselor, it might help, or try turning an extra room in the house into a sex dungeon, that worked for my mom and dad. They never hit each other now, unless there slapping each other around all kinky-like before sex.
2006-10-28 08:00:31 · answer #6 · answered by DustInCarroll 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If both of you are prone to hitting and have done it in the past it most likely will continue so it's probably time to call it quits. Hitting one another is not acceptable behavior and lord forbid you bring children into the world and they have to witness this. You might even take your anger out on the kids.
2006-10-27 09:55:56 · answer #7 · answered by Darcee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you should certainly put the marriage plans on hold because she needs more counciling.. no one. i mean no one should ever lay a hand on there partner..
Get rid of her and find someone that don't have the issues that she has.. Happiness is to important to have to deal with this after marriage..
so don't walk into something that you don't want to live with for the rest of your life.
consider the 7 years a very long learning period and move on and do better..
2006-10-27 09:57:53 · answer #8 · answered by Sandy F 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have no respect for each other if you violate one another like that. That is totally a disrespect for both persons involve.
My only conclusion to why you stay is because you like it. That behavior is not good if you plan to have kids someday. When they see these performances, they will grow up to do the same.
If you are to stay with her (grow some b****) and demand she respect you as a man and a human being.
2006-10-27 09:58:18 · answer #9 · answered by Mimi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This sounds like a classic case of ENVY...She is wanting to take the role Of the Male gender.
Plus a Classic sign of Bipolar disorder....
Seek counseling....
Do some research on SIGMUND FREUD , And Envy
Good Luck hope she gets some help soon.
2006-10-27 09:57:27 · answer #10 · answered by AD 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋