how could I get from him what I want without marry him? How could i pay or convince him?
2006-10-27 02:42:11 · 29 answers · asked by Jerome 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You can't be serious, you want to pay him? Dump this guy and find someone who shares common interests with you.
A relationship is built on sharing, not paying or convincing.
2006-10-27 02:44:36 · answer #1 · answered by OleMarbleEyes 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Tough one. Sounds like its time for a new boyfriend, don't you think? I wonder what it is that you want...Hopefully not a child from him...
Don't even think about marrying him that's for sure. Sounds like you are pretty secure on that point.
I don't know how you can get what you want. It sounds like you may have to concede that you cannot or change course. Many times there is not just the option A or B--many times, with some distance or outside perspective other ways to get what you need are available.
So...best of luck to you. Hope you work it out.
2006-10-27 09:47:37 · answer #2 · answered by whereRyou? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should run/walk away from this. It could be the trap to get you into a controlled relationship.
Whay do you want this type of person? Can you not make decisions or think on your own?
Relationships based on what you both are doing ends up in disaster and problems.
Turn around and go the opposite direction & save both your lives for something greater.
2006-10-27 09:57:19 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl ..... Never buy the pig because your hungry for a little sausage !!
Marrage is a long term commitment....if he isn't a two way street now .... a marraige won't change him.... The relationship has to go both ways ... compromise on both sides to work.
The whole dating ... room mate thing is like trying on shoes ...if they pinch & ride up ...they won't get better next week !
Select a different pair of shoes.
Use your head, trust your feelings ... but don't ever think that a marrige will fix something.....it aint a repair certificate !
2006-10-27 09:47:02 · answer #4 · answered by John 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't. If you don't want too marry this guy, then Don't! BUT...It sounds like your guy is ready too get married but you are the one holding out. Don't lead this guy on if you have no intentions of marrying him,that is just wrong. You need too end this relationship and quit asking for things that he must be considering he shoul only do If you two are married.
2006-10-27 11:07:59 · answer #5 · answered by Rose T 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You should only get married for love nothing else.
What in the world could you want that he has to force you in to marring him?
What ever it is, it is not worth it just drop him and move on.
If you are wanting kids then he is right you should be married.
I don't know why you are using him but girls like you give everyone else a bad rep, and that's why guys don't want to get involved in relationships.
2006-10-27 10:40:34 · answer #6 · answered by Emptiness 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You pay an escort lady, not a boyfriend :) Does he know that you don’t want to marry him? Why don’t you give the guy a break and find someone out there who will be a better match for you and will render services for free? You will save a guy (who sounds like a marriage material) for a girl that deserves him and you will get your cake and eat it (for free).
2006-10-27 09:58:37 · answer #7 · answered by bigblue 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This doesn't make science, you want something from him, but your not interested in marrying him? Is there any interest at all, but right now the answer is no, if you have no desire to marry him at all, why are you with him? all your doing to him is using him, let him go so he can met the one he is supposed to met, If you want to marry him, but not right now, you need to let him know, tell him to back off right now, that your not ready.
God Bless
2006-10-27 09:48:58 · answer #8 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it sounds like both of you have a problem. He is holding things over your head for marriage and you want to manipulate him but do not care enough for him for marriage. It sounds to me that the both of you need to find new partners. You need to work on your controlling attitude "...will only do what I want..." because that will only cause you problems in the future. Also you ending statement just shows that you are manipulative as well and you need to get out of that habit as well...
2006-10-27 10:10:21 · answer #9 · answered by Suthern R 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your life will be hell if you marry this guy , hes already trying to control the way you think ! a relationship is based on compromise not giving in
2006-10-27 10:09:46 · answer #10 · answered by LISA C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋