Couples. Have you noticed different stages in your relationship? Like the 7yr stage?

Question

And maybe 4yrs? Is this when one of you can't stand the routine any longer? One's bored with the other?
I've heard of the 2nd yr stage where you're out of passionate love and into love love. And then they say that people often get divorced after 7yrs.
What are your experiences?

I'm not the bored btw, my partner is and there is no way of talking to him, he flees as soon as I open my mouth. I was hoping things would get better but it's been like since last winter.

Answer 1

Ive been in a couple of long term relations and yes there are phases. Usually the female partner loses interest in the bedroom and is more content with the whole home scene . I found major changes like moving home was good for re-newing interest. I've never married and had kids and when it was time I moved on.

Answer 2

I don't think there are stages in a marriage but w/in ones self. My husband and I have been together for 10 years and never got bored. The only reason we can't stand each other sometimes is because the other is acting stupid. We still flirt with each other today like we did 10 years ago. The 7 yr thing is called the 7 year itch and it's supposedly the year in which one cheats. Well we never cheated on each other so again it would be the individual not the marriage. I know for us we are still passionate with each other, we still cuddle up on the couch all day when we can, we still run around chasing each other and playing, we still have our hands all over the other, and we aren't bored by any means. If your marriage goes through some of that then fix it. It's easy to fail at a marriage, you just have to make it work and work hard doing it.

Answer 3

I love my wife more than I ever did. Relationship goes up and down but you have to look at the bigger picture - what else is going on around you - work, kids, etc. You develop other feelings towards your partner too that weren't there at the beginning. After being with my wife twice when she's given birth, I must say I respect her more than anybody and I often think I'm very lucky to have her. Other times I can't stand being with her and we get on each other's nerves. Surely that would happen with anyone you live under the same roof with. Together 15 years by the way.

Answer 4

I have been married for 10 years and my husband is a really good father but not that as a husband. He's a very faithful man but somehow, he's too preoccupied in his work and is getting boring because he never want to do anything out of the routine. I on the other hand, is 4 years younger than him and am still exploring new things. Yes, I strayed to a younger man's arms and he made me very happy but it didn't work out because of obvious circumstances. He's married too and at a very young age. He found that he couldnt live with his wife anymore and is more like me in nature. Similarly goes with my husband and myself. So, i hope this answers your questions about being married for too long. It can go two ways. Forever loving or kick *&% boring.

Answer 5

Yes. I've personally passed the 7 yr stage and had a close shave with infidelity. 7yrs down the line, marriage takes the full brunt of other pressures of kids, their education, finances, job, etc. Time becomes a precious commodity and romance looks like a distant word.

I was seriously tempted to venture outside of my marital relationship and got opportunities too. I got wiser and consulted an Internet Chat Marriage Advisor, who helped me see the positive aspects of our relationship and what I would loose by straying away from my wife.

Interestingly, the very next week I was invited by a lady for some no-strings-attached fun. But my wiser sense prevailed and I chose to ignore this offer.

Later when I hit a personal crisis I realised the true value of my relationship with my wife who stood by me all throughout and egged me on. I got through the rough patch safely.

Today I am truly and deeply in love with her, and shudder to think what I was about to do to our relationship and the trust she has on me.

The Moral: Keep your mind in control from Yr 7 to Yr 9 and then you are all set for the long haul

Answer 6

Marriage is something that you have to work at. You can't just quit because you get bored with it. I have only been married for five years (the best years of my life) but I got a good guy some women aren't that fortunate. So I can't tell you about the seven year mark yet but we have been through some tough times. I you really love eachother you'll make it if you don't you won't.

Answer 7

That is part of life!! Stages> Just like everything we r born babies,turn into toddlers,teenagers,etc...I have been with my husband 4 13 years and just like every normal relationship there are ups and downs. You both need 2 discuss the issuesthat u think r in the relationship and work on them, work does pay off!! Especially if u have kids. 2gether u will get through lots of obstacles. Good Luck

Answer 8

well me and my wife are coming to 7 yrs right now and sure we have had are rights and make ups but we still love each other very much and look forward to growing old together i told her i will wipe your drool if you wipe if mine and we are fine with that if you are looking for MORE FUN AND adventure try picking some new hobbies that are new and fun.

not a new man that is new and fun b/c won't last long !

hope this helps :)

Answer 9

I think the longer you stay together the better you get to know each other and the more securer you feel. It's not exciting like the beginning but at least when you decide to do a surprise for him you know that he'll like it.

Answer 10

I did 27 years, 2 kids grown up and finally leaving the nest. One morning I looked at my wife and realised that I did not want to grow old with her. To share half of your lifetime together is something, the prospect of spending the rest of it together was something else.