if you were abused as a child,how did you overcome the fear or?

Question

embarassment of telling someone.who did you tell.a parent,friend,doctor,etc.

Answer 1

I am not sure what kind of abuse you are talking about Sexual/physical?
I was physically abused as a child by my mother she used to beat me and starve me, i was a child model and she wanted me to be thin, but i was never thin enough or pretty enough or tall enough!!
She made me perform a sexual favour for a man three times my age when I was 14,
I never told anyone she told me no one would believe me. I never got therapy I never had any help what so ever.
I tried to forget it and once my Mum and i split ways when I was 18.
And just recently I have told a couple of close friends who have helped me with it. And now I know it wasn't my fault she was the one who wronged me, but for so long I was so down on myself.
But my advice is don't keep it to yourself tell someone, anyone, anyone you feel comfortable with don't let it consume you....don't feel embarrassed or ashamed its not your fault!

Answer 2

You have done nothing wrong at all and you should never feel scared or embarrassed. You are an amazing individual who deserves only the best in her life and you have every right to expect this and more.

You do need to find someone you can talk to. I confided in my closest friend and I also approached my Nan and Aunty.

I'm 31 now and after years of physical and mental abuse from my mum I finally acknowledged how she had made me feel and I approached her. I wrote her a few home truths and got nothing but abuse back in the form of text messages. This was in March 2006 and I haven;t had anyhting to do with her since. My brother has also asked me lots of question this last 18mths and he no longer has anything to do with her either. I will not spend the rest of my life living in fear that i will treat my daughter in the same way because I am a better woman than she'll ever be.

You do the same, make a stand for yourself, dont live in the shadows for the rest of your life. Life is an amazing thing, there's some fantastic positive experiences to be had and you deserve to share these too and you will if you just allow yourself to. Find that inner strength, it's in there, it always has been, its just hiding!!

Good luck and just remember you are an amazing person, believe in yourself, I believe you can do this xxxx

Answer 3

I have adopted a little pit bull who was abused and had acid poured on his back. We believe it was probably a hispanic male with a baseball cap and had probably done it in a garage or house or other enclosed space. At first, he wasn't very open around my dad and he still shows more affection around my mother and I, but the best thing is to go slow and always treat the dog, let her know that you love her even if it means treating her more than another dog not in her position. Gradually she'll start to realize that you don't mean her harm. For example, since my dog is fearful of the inside of the house he stays outside, but as we cook we sometimes open the back door. We let him go at his own pace as he gradually steps into the house and smells. He has become ore used to being around us and he is learning that his past is over with.

Answer 4

See abuse is only a development of civilization. For example even passing urine on roads is an abuse as on date whereas in olden days it was nothing but common. Similarly sex & is usage by elders on youngsters is also age old and today it has been declared as an abuse. Yes it is correct that children should not be dealt this way. But when it happens as a child you should not take this onto your heart and ruin your life. It happened to many and it has happened to you and it will happen to many in future also. So therefore eventhough it is difficult please take it easy and try to forget the whole event as if it has not happened. If the person is still trying to abuse you then it that case try avoid him/her by yourself and tell him that you will tell your parents if he continue to do it and he will run away from you. If this does not happen then there is no alternative except telling your parents about it and they will take necessary steps but the stigma of exporture will be there for you and this you have to bear it. In my case it was simple I was abused when I was 12 but I avoided meeting him and when he tried to come close to me I shouted at him and he ran away and though the thought keeps on haunting me now and then I just keep it aside and feel happy & lucky that it was not forced to disclose this to anybody else.

Answer 5

I don't know which type of abuse you suffered from, but you should tell someone you know will do something about it. Someone you know that WILL CARE! I know it's hard but you shouldn't feel embarrassed your abuser is the one that should feel everything not yourself.

Answer 6

i am not able to overcome it,im still burning day by day from inside i try to do meditation,yoga,psycologist nothing seemes to work..i cant overcome this..yeah but you sure can empty your chest weight a lil bit by telling it to a friend or a psycologist..