i love kids more than my wife. we have 2 and she doesnt want anymore. i would love to have more kids may be at least 5. the kids are more close to me than my wife. i spend more time with them than her. i was always the provider in the family since we started. i think i am a very good father.
2006-10-27 02:18:24 · 20 answers · asked by sivle 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
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2006-10-27 02:19:32 · update #1
Find another woman/
2006-10-29 23:17:34 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you really want more kids, start out by helping your wife around the house and buttering her up. It's really stressfful on a woman to have a houseful of kids. You need to let her know that if you all do have more kids that she will get time to herself. I know where she's coming from because I have two kids and right now that is enough but if my husband really wanted more kids I'd probably think seriously about having more but just remember this your not the one going through the pain and taking care of them everyday. Kids are wonderful but they are a lot of work. Don't drive your poor wife crazy!
2006-10-27 02:36:40 · answer #2 · answered by tina 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your wife doesn't want any more kids you should respect her decision. You should of dicussed this before you got married. It does sound like your a good father but maybe she knows that she couldn't cope with any more. If you are the provider of the family then you must be out working which means she is in all day looking after the kids which means she spends the most time with them.
2006-10-27 02:25:44 · answer #3 · answered by Jo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
2 is enough. You will do them more good by being able to give them quality & quantity time. When they go to college, you'll appreciate the "discount" in costs -- 2 versus 5 tuition fees. Your wife is reasonable. You should love your wife the same as your kids, if not more. It's the foundation of the marriage that will keep your kids in a complete and whole home ( not a broken family).
2006-10-27 02:23:25 · answer #4 · answered by Wondering myself 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't know how long you have been together.
Don't know how old the kids are.
Don't know how the money is.
Don't know how her stress level is.
Your wife may need time to heal from giving birth. Maybe it is taking all her energy.
Maybe she knows you would be drained of money if you have more kids.
Considering she is the one laying on the table and caring the child for 9 months, I do believe it should be her choice.
You get the fun part of making them and helping taking care of them after words.
Maybe you are a good father now but when they grow up will you be or will you hide your head in the sand when their is trouble?
Kids are great when they are little but some parents can't handle them when they get older. They do grow up & have a mind of their own.
2006-10-27 03:33:37 · answer #5 · answered by Emptiness 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may be a good father but both of you have to want the kids so it needs to be what your wife wants too.
Maybe you need to sit down and have good talk with her and find out why she doesn't want any more and why she doesn't spend more time with the ones she already has - maybe there is stuff going on that you dont know
2006-10-27 02:22:29 · answer #6 · answered by Julie S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
um....this is really something you should talk to your wife about. I can't tell you if it's ok to have more kids or not. Personally I think it's great that you want so many kids. I'm sure your a wonderful father. If your wife will let you go through adoptions of surgate mothers then by all means I support it.
goodluck bein a daddy =)
2006-10-27 02:26:28 · answer #7 · answered by grace 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Becoming parents is not easy. It is, as you know now, time consuming, demanding and emotionally and psychologically very rewarding but often also very tiring and confusing. Becoming parents changes everything. By "everything" we mean to say that you take up new roles, which change the way you related to one another.
There are different kinds of mother and father roles that you can take upon yourself.
The Big Giver is in a perpetually losing position. You just can't satisfy all the people all the time.
2006-10-29 21:31:50 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, in all honesty it is very selfish of you to want more kids if your wife doesn't, after all, she is the one that has to go thru all the morning sickness, bloated, labour etc. If you love your wife, respect her wishes. If you are meant to have more kids - you will. Rather give the 2 you have all your love and attention. Besides, what kinda world can we offer our kids in the future!
2006-10-27 02:25:52 · answer #9 · answered by dragonfly 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would assume that you would love your children more than your wife in a different way of course. However, you have to respect the wishes of your wife. You did not specify whether you were unhappy with her or not.....I would bring up the subject again, maybe even consider adoption....but make sure, she is the ONE that you are wanting to be with. There should be love on both sides of the spectrum
2006-10-27 02:22:55 · answer #10 · answered by kimberlylroderick 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if your kids mean that much to you and you do love your wife then do the best thing by everybody and stay with your life giving the children you've got the best possible chance in life in a stable loving relationship, some people are never blessed with children so be greatful for you have got
2006-10-27 02:22:28 · answer #11 · answered by angiebluebird2003 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋