2006-10-27 02:17:16 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
All children need the love of their parents. But since you are the only one around now, spend a little more time with them. Talk to your kids about your plans for marriage, and get their opinions. But even if they don't agree, it is all up to you. Everyone needs companionship. But don't rush into the relationship. Let your children get to know this person. Especially you. Does this person love kids? Are they willing to be their for them? And not get jealous of your time with the kids? When married. Make sure that you be the one to discipline the children. They may feel upset if the step parent does it. But even though, they must respect your potential mate. Make time for your mate as well as the kids, and all should be well. Wives need to feel love as well as the kids. It takes alot of patience, and effort to make this work. Step parents may have alot of problems with their step kids, if there is a lack of communication in the home. Make sure to listen to both sides, before making any decisions, your new wife's, and the kids. This is just some advice I thought I would give, since I was brought up in a home with a step parent.
2006-10-27 02:36:27 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong in marrying again. You are human and you have needs to be met. The kids also can have a mother, but it takes a different stand. You have kids from the the first marriage and at no stage they should be neglected. The kids will have a hard time accepting another member as a mother, if the person you are going to marry is immature it can make life miserable. She should be a person who can love your kids just as she loves you, loving your kids is the extension of love she has for you. Kids are kids after all.
You need company in life, once kids are grown they are gone, why would you not have a life? You deserve the best!
2006-10-27 03:07:47 · answer #2 · answered by thachu5 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, go ahead. It seems that you belong to a reputed Family and a man of "Social Status". See this, you too have life and sexual urges. Just to satisfy them, at a point of time you will move to use some illegal means, which if found will not be acceptable to your society and to your children as well. So the Best way out is to get married. At least this will help you attain your social status and your life back.
Take Care!! and Best of Luck!!!
2006-10-30 22:17:46 · answer #3 · answered by cuttielittleboy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That would depend on your kids. They need to be the most important thing in your life right now. The have already lost so much and don't really need to be subjected to a step mom and maybe step kids competing for your time and attention. Raise your kids and after they are gone then date.
2006-10-27 02:25:47 · answer #4 · answered by cbenyon35 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you find the woman you want to spend the rest of your life with yes, If the problemwith the first divorce was your job.. makesure that you tell her about it and what all that you do.. it may make a difference. but if she truely loves you it shouldn't.. the kids would probably like a mother figure in the family.
Who know you may be enjoying your single parent hood.
do what is in your heart. Everyone deserves to be happy..
2006-10-27 02:25:22 · answer #5 · answered by Sandy F 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know its difficult to lead a lonely life, but consider one thing please...You have 2 children. now you have to live as a mother as well as a fahter for them. Now you have 'duties' towards them. You may overcome 'lonliness' by re-marrying, but on the other hand children may retreat to their own shell. Better you discuss this issue with your children, try to understand their feelings...you have to decide once you come to conclusion after discussing the matter with them. Its the life of growing children that needs consideration and setting of prorities. No third person can give you reply. better listen to your conscience.
2006-10-27 03:16:19 · answer #6 · answered by manjira 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Decide for yourself, having regard to your own feelings and the condition of your children and other circumstances. Personally, I would rather advise you to get married, if that will not affect your children.
2006-10-27 02:23:32 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would like you to recall that WIFE accronym stands for WORRIES INVITED FOR EVER. I think once you are out of woods, but still can't understand why are you so anxious to invite the worries.
2006-10-27 02:36:02 · answer #8 · answered by kingsekh 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don´t know. If you find someone that is really important for you I think that´s no problem.
2006-10-27 02:22:36 · answer #9 · answered by leckka 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if anybody is ready why not?
u have just stepped into elderly youth age.
2006-10-27 02:19:13 · answer #10 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋