I've been with my boyfriend for 4 months. I've never felt so strongly about anyone ever. We're in love, and everytime i look at him i want to marry him & have his babies. is it too soon to start thinking about it? i'm 22, he's 33
2006-10-27 02:11:22 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
you can think hun but i wouldnt mention it unless he does first, some men get a bit freaked out by that sort of thing. you need to get past the "honeymoon period" and live together first, if he's the one then it doesnt matter if you marry him tomorrow or in 50yrs time. Marriage is just a bit of paper really and kids can put a massive strain on a relationship so just enjoy being together now, make some happy memories for yourselves and when its right it'll happen. good luck x
2006-10-27 22:59:25 · answer #1 · answered by lou-roll 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone is going to say this- but seriously give it time. I'm 24, and have had two serious relationships...the first year and 1/2 are always bliss....it REALLY takes time to discover all the really important things about each other. Quirks of his you think are cute will eventually irriate you, and the excitement will fade (at least a little bit) He may have ideas about raising kids that you just can't know about so soon. Don't give up dreaming of marrying him and having his babies---that is what can make the relationship so great...but dont be in too big of a hurry :) If he's the perfect one for you now, he will be in a few years too.
2006-10-27 09:22:06 · answer #2 · answered by love this site! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
4 months....is that it. Thats not long at all. I have wanted to marry my partner alex ever since I met him, hes great, but I also didn't want to rush into anything and end up getting hurt. We have been together 3 years in November and really its only just started coming up in conversation now, we both admited after 3 months we knew we would be together forever and this was the real thing - but both of us had been hurt, neither of us wanted to be hurt again and have taken things slowly.
My motto is.....if you know its going to last forever - whats the rush? why not just enjoy it. If you know your going to be with him forever - then marriage and kids will come along when they are meant to.
Also a firm believer that the man should pop the question! So - personally I would leave it and see if he mentions it at all.
2006-10-27 09:44:25 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, My oddly enough I told my husband on the very first day I met him that I was going to marry him, (jokingly of course) 4 months later we got married and we are now about to celebrate our 3rd anniversary. Its been a wonderful relationship. If you are in a traditional guy=boss type relationship then I would say you should wait for him. Age is no problem but you should think long and hard if you want to commit so early in your life. I was 18 when I was married, and although I love my husband very much. I still wish I would have waited a bit more and done more free spirited things in life.
2006-10-27 09:17:54 · answer #4 · answered by Rae 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take it easy, I was with a guy for 3 years and was totally smitten and wanted to marry him,but as the years went by I found out much bit more about him and it turns out he was a compulsive liar.
I think you know in your heart if they are the one, but for your own sake, give it time and see how the relationship progress's, if it only gets better he will bring up the subject, then you know he's for real!
Make your goal for now a good relationship, a best friend and store up memories together before you settle and have kids.
Good Luck
2006-10-27 09:17:21 · answer #5 · answered by jessieket04 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Live with him for a least 6 months before you make any rash decisions!! If you can still put up with all his bad habits (and trust me he will have them) after that, then go for it. During that time its a good idea to rate the annoying little things he does on a scale from 1 to 10 with 10 being bad, if you look back and you can count the 10's on one hand only, you've got a good one. If its more than that then it is only going to get worse!!
2006-10-27 09:17:40 · answer #6 · answered by BigBird65 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is way too early, if you can make it past 2yrs (if you are going to break up it will be at 2yrs). You don't even know someone after years together never Mind 4 months. If you bring up marriage now I guaranty he's gone.
2006-10-27 09:47:21 · answer #7 · answered by Bassetlover 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
according to your age it's ok but i think that is too soon to talk about marriage 'cause you do not know eachother well enough. you cannot say that you know him well so as to create a family with him within 4 months. just enjoy it and time will show if it meant to be....
2006-10-27 09:17:02 · answer #8 · answered by rovina g 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that 4 months is a little soon. Live a little-you are still so young.
2006-10-27 09:14:21 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
4 months i would say ur prob still in the honeymoon period of your relationship a say a year is the make or break point of a relationship u know then how its going!! but only u know truly how u feel
2006-10-27 09:24:43 · answer #10 · answered by lotti 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋