I have been with my bf for 2 years and we are very happy but he despriately wants to get married and i'm not so sure - is it just a piece of paper or is it more than that?
2006-10-27 02:04:09 · 27 answers · asked by Romseygirl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
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2006-10-29 23:16:45 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't be pressured into marriage. I still don't think 2 years is really a very long time to truly know a person...if he loves you, he will wait for you. I would wonder what the rush was. If you marry him with reservations, you'll more than likely be divorced within 6 months to a year. Be sure that this is what YOU want.
2006-10-27 09:11:48 · answer #2 · answered by angeleyes 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A marriage is alot more than a piece of paper. It is commiting your life to share with someone else for better or worse. Don't get married until you have no doubt in your mind that this is the person you want to spend your life with. Why start out heading for failure?Divorce is a very difficult thing to go through, believe me, so you don't want to go there. If he truly loves you that much. he'll be willing to wait until you are sure you're ready.
2006-10-27 09:12:18 · answer #3 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have already answered your own question. By merely asking this question proves that you should not be married. Marraige is too hard to start out with so much doubt. The love you have for him is probably pretty strong but you still refer to him as your "Best Friend" and that too is not healthy. Marraige is great when you are friends but it has to be built on more passion than your letting on, to be there. Take your time with marraige...It's like virginity, You Think you're missing something til you get mixed up in it. Then your left standing there wondering what all the fuss is about.
2006-10-27 09:14:29 · answer #4 · answered by bamakrawler1 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What are you not sure about? Marriage is just the legal way of saying that you both love each other and want to be together. If he does want to get married so badly, has he proposed yet?? If not, then why is he making such a big deal about getting married, but hasn't asked you yet??
2006-10-27 09:07:14 · answer #5 · answered by VAWeddingSpecialist 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should never be pressured into marriage. Couples are together for years before they get married now a days. If he loved you he should respect your decision not to get married yet. Maybe decide to have a long engagement as a compromise??
2006-10-27 09:11:12 · answer #6 · answered by Jo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you shouldn't be pressured into marriage unitl you are ready but being married is more then a piece of paper it is being commited to someone for the rest of your life until death do you two apart
2006-10-27 09:08:07 · answer #7 · answered by jhene h 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Gurl marriage is a big responsibility and if you are not ready don't rush into it, if he don't understand you feelings maybe he don't deserve to be your husband.
Marriage is more than a peice of paper, that is the person you will be with the rest of your life, if it takes 5 years to make your mine it will be alright take as much time as you need.Their is no need to rush.
2006-10-27 09:19:22 · answer #8 · answered by babycakes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is more than a piece of paper, it is a commitment to each other for as long as u both shall live... that means something, u need to ask urself, if this is truely want u want, and then talk about it... just because he has asked u, doesn't mean that u have to do it next week... take time, and learn from each other..
2006-10-30 18:57:33 · answer #9 · answered by storm.minx 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage is a legal commitment not just a moral one. I would seriously question why your boyfriend is pressuring you to marry him as it sounds as if there are other issues involved. If you are not certain, then you are not ready for this responsibility. If he truly loves you, he will be patient.
2006-10-27 09:07:38 · answer #10 · answered by ? 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you dont feel comfortable about marriage right now, dont force yourself. Talk to him and tell him you dont want it right now. You need more time. But plz, dont just marry him only for the sake of his happiness. You have to care about your happiness too .
2006-10-27 09:07:38 · answer #11 · answered by mind 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋