my looks haven't changed since we started dating. we'll be together a year on thanksgiving. If i wear liengarie he acts like he doesn't see it.. Please, help. he is the love of my life and i don't want to lose him. life without him wouldn't be the same.
2006-10-27 02:02:01 · 9 answers · asked by mrs. wright 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
dont over try
i know you dont want to lose this guy,
but the more effort you make, the less he needs to,
in order to get what he wants out of the relationship.
you're going to have to do some acting "as-if"
- act as-if your sex life is just fine
- act as-if you're no longer concerned about whether you guys are going to make it
- act as-if you've suddenly become more independent
- and at the same time act as-if everything is better than ever in your whole relationship (so dont over do the independent thing)
if you play it right, he'll start making more effort
and sacrifice in the absence of you worrying
(and he probably wont even realize it) --
he'll again see that you're strong, independent,
but still loving; making you a dangerously attractive
partner to eligible bachelors, should he "lose interest"
- he will start to cherish you
right now he's indulging in your insecurity,
not to hurt you, but just because he's become
accustomed to your sacrifice in the relationship
being great enough to account for the both of you
or you could take the "other" advice offered and get a haircut
2006-10-27 02:03:13 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he is not into to much of those romantic stuff. But that does not mean he doesn't find you attractive anymore. May be try doing things with him, that he likes. Does he like sports? Take him to a game, where their colors, or their jersey. Then when you get home, cook him a good meal. Massage his back, get rid of the days worries. And maybe later wear the jersey to bed only. I don't know, but spice the relationship up the way he would like it. But don't over do it. He probably just needs a little nudge. Talk to him about what is he feeling these days. Does he still want to marry you? If you really want to look different for him, get a simple make over. Sometimes wives or future wives, just need to make their men feel alive. How about having him go out with some of his friends for the afternoon. Then surprise him with a fun night. Dinner, a good conversation, a message, then for desert chocolate dipped strawberries, and you!
2006-10-27 02:18:50 · answer #2 · answered by woman of steel 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's time to have a heart to heart talk with your fiance. If you feel like you're being ignored that's not a good thing. Maybe he's just not into lingerie, but I think you should ask him about it. You are engaged to be married, you'd better learn to communicate openly now.
2006-10-27 02:32:05 · answer #3 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He may just have gotten very comfortable in the relationship, sometimes known as being taken for granted...Don't over extend yourself, but when you are wearing something you think he will find attractive, ask him what he thinks or if he likes it, his tone of voice and attitude should tell you something.
2006-10-27 02:06:04 · answer #4 · answered by angeleyes 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try to change your hair cut, or find his weakness about girls & try it to your self. Just always make sure that youre always fresh looking & wear the dress you think he likes the most so he can always find you attractive & presentable... & pray always for your relationship to make more stronger, smooth & sweeter... Good luck, & best wishes.
2006-10-27 02:10:33 · answer #5 · answered by housewife 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if you're looks haven't changed you should have nothing to worry about.Just talk to him about it.Tell him you feel he's a bit distant with you lately and it's upsetting you.The truth always has to come out,
2006-10-27 02:07:18 · answer #6 · answered by D8411 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him and see what's wrong with him and if he tells you see what you can do to help. i should know because i've been through alot of hard and good times with a girl and i just let her know that i was their for her U should do the same.
2006-10-27 02:26:42 · answer #7 · answered by antonio b 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask him straight,thats the best you can do....cos assuming n imagining will only lead you to confusion n misunderstandings...maybe hes normal n u feel ignored.so just talk to him let him know your feelings n get to know his too,good luck!!
2006-10-27 02:06:15 · answer #8 · answered by country_girl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to him about it. Is he working to much and have alot else to do also keping him to tired?
2006-10-27 02:06:20 · answer #9 · answered by ronnny 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋