you have a friend that has lo self esteem she tells you she ugly and i try to tell her to look in the mirror to tell her self shes beautiful
but she doesnt listen to me what am i to do?
2006-10-27 01:44:15 · 10 answers · asked by princess_09 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
nothing... many people does like that.. or u can say "ok.. Think what u want..." & start to talk about other stuff
2006-10-27 02:13:34 · answer #1 · answered by Justina 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her that she has self esteem issues but that you can help by recommending books to read.Take her to any bookstore and show her the shelves of self help books and she will know she's not alone.Tell her that you will be there if she needs to talk about anything.Maybe ask her where she got such an idea from about being ugly and why she feels she needs to hold on to such a self depreciating belief.Tell her if she keeps repeating such a negative phrase that eventually she will believe it and then it becomes a real problem
2006-10-27 09:00:36 · answer #2 · answered by D8411 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes you just have to be blunt and tell her to shut up that you are tired of hearing her complain. I am a very positive person and always look at the bright side of things. But I to have low self-esteem. My b-friend told me that aslong as I feel ugly I will be ugly. She said that As long as I complained she would ignore every comment I made. It worked. I quit complaining and started looking at myself as a whole person and not just an image that people perceived of me. It took a while, I still have my moments but you know what who cares, I am happy!!!
2006-10-27 08:50:55 · answer #3 · answered by fcrain_us 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep telling her and try to take her around others that will do the same. Just someone else mentioning it will help her feel better slowly. If you know of a boy that would be good to her and tell her things like this it would help too.
2006-10-27 08:49:51 · answer #4 · answered by ronnny 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just support her through it and maybe say "hey im realy bored you wunna start going to the gym scince theres nothin to do?"
and maybe when you start goin she will feel more confidant about herself i have a freind like this but i know she is not trying to get compliments but i really do support her and always remind hedr that she is b-e-a-utiful and even if she dosen tlisten i try to remind her it is not whats on the outside that counts it is whats on the inside
i hope i have helped you
yo udo not have to take my advice it is your choice
it was worth my time and effort to try and help
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2006-10-27 08:51:55 · answer #5 · answered by wheneva_u_need_me 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find a guy that thinks she beautiful and let him tell her she will only believe you if he tells her she is every time she has a thought that she is not.
2006-10-27 08:48:15 · answer #6 · answered by britt 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ah well, I feel like her too. have a spa make over day with her and walk around, take photos go clubbing (in that order). I think that would help
2006-10-27 08:50:37 · answer #7 · answered by Eurale 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get other people that she dont know to say something nice to her that will give her a boost because she wont think you are the only one
2006-10-27 08:48:02 · answer #8 · answered by Avis S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know it is hard but just try harder and also show her that beauty is not the only thing that matters in this world
2006-10-27 08:47:05 · answer #9 · answered by ntu 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if it's getting annoying... you should probably just ignore her becuase chances are... she's probably doing it just to get compliments..
2006-10-27 08:47:16 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋