2006-10-27 01:41:33 · 19 answers · asked by sivle 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You have a choice of sticking with your partner and two kids or meeting someone else and having more. Harsh answer I know but those are the only 2 options. R.
2006-10-28 13:33:09 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Do you know why he doesn't want any more kids? Is it because he knows you can't afford anymore? Most women want to continue to have children even if they know deep down that they really can't afford anymore. Women tend to think with their hearts while men think more about the money. If you have more children, will you or your husband have to work more to cover the expenses? Will you have to move into a more expensive, bigger house to accommodate the larger clan? You need to talk to him and find out why he feels the way he does. He may have some good points you're not thinking about. And who's to say that you can't have children at a later date if things (that are bothering him) improve? You two need to come to some sort of agreement and stick with it (aka no "surprise" pregnancies). Then reexamine your situation and views in a year. So this way, no one has to "have their way" completely and there's no resentment towards the other. Just remember, people's minds change constantly. He may surprise you in time.
2006-10-27 08:56:22 · answer #2 · answered by T.G. 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is sort of a trick question, because why would you want to bring a child into this world if both parents did not love him/her? If you decide to oops get pregnant what is your spouse going to do? Walk out, want a divorce? The real question here should be do you want to risk losing everything? Maybe now is just not the right time to want more children!
2006-10-27 09:19:52 · answer #3 · answered by Goddess 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry. Both need to agree on having more children before you do it or it will wreck your marriage, leaving your other two children to suffer. If you try to be sneaky and surprise him with a pregnancy, it will ruin the trust in your marriage. Other women have done that with bad, bad results. Please do not force him to do something he knows he does not want to do. It would be disastrous.
Talk to him about his objections. Why doesn't he want any more? Does he have legitimate reasons? How many is enough for you? You two need to keep talking. Don't threaten, don't lie, don't trick him, whatever you do. In your marriage, always think about how you would want to be treated in the same situation. It helps. If after all that, he still stands by his decision, then two children is all you get. You can't force someone to be a parent. It just wouldn't be right. I feel for you and wish you the best.
Best of luck. Tough one.
2006-10-27 08:52:19 · answer #4 · answered by whereRyou? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As a bloke, I can more or less gurantee that if you follow the witless advice of those who advise you to just 'fall' pregnant and tell your spouse about it later, you will end up being a single parent. I would also say that if he has been forthright enough to tell you about his feelings in this respect (most men do not and skirt the issue), then you would be ill advised to try and force it in any way. Besides, two children is enough. the world has more than enough people already.
2006-10-27 08:54:19 · answer #5 · answered by eriverpipe 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I should make do with the 2 you've got - i certainly wouldn't get pregnant accidently - crazy suggestion, she could end up with 3 kids and a divorce! Why do you want more children?
2006-10-27 08:51:58 · answer #6 · answered by Dr Watson (UK) 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Does he have a reason for saying no? Will it be him and him alone footing the bill for all these children?. maybe you will all have a better quality of life if you stop at two. Children aren't cheap, especially if you want the best for them ( private school, uni, driving lessons, gap year travelling etc....)!
2006-10-30 22:30:15 · answer #7 · answered by Chey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
But surely, it has to be a joint decision. Do not consider getting pregnant without his consent. A child needs 2 parents and both have to be totally dedicated to bringing up a child. You can't force him to do what you want.
2006-10-30 08:54:16 · answer #8 · answered by chelsea19622000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
er......... ur spouse has a say to, children should be done jointly... they are for life, not for something to do...
nice that u want a big family to surround u, but it helps if it is a joint decision, because then they surround u, while u are together, and not sharing xmas, and birthdays alternate years...
2006-10-30 18:55:02 · answer #9 · answered by storm.minx 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if you are a woman you could remind him that you are the one who will be carrying,delivering and caring for the child, while all he has to do is provide for it. if you are a man it is over. your wife has to do all the work.like i said before.you only participate in the fun part. if she doesn't want any more then that is it. i hope i was able to help, good luck.
2006-10-27 08:59:52 · answer #10 · answered by Thumbs down me now 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋