my libido which wasn't that great anyway has gone! i have been ill for a few years but now I'm better the sex isn't. I'm scared it'll hurt because it used to. plus I come resonably quickly and hubby doesn't and once i do it hurts but as we don't make love very often he want to 'finnish'.
Help/advice needed we love each other so much but it is hurting us
plus we would really love to have children but obviously no sex means we can't get pregnant.
2006-10-27 01:38:20 · 10 answers · asked by sal 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
to those of you who suggested lube yes we have tried lube and if anyone is interested we think TLC is about the best just getting to the point were i want to use it would be nice! I did see a psycho-sexual therapist and various other docs and as far as they could tell i don't have any physical probs and as I had chronic fatigue they just put my other probs down to that but now i am better i am getting really fed up with not feeling horny! i don't seem to have any buttons to press beleive me we have tried - though not too much lately.
2006-10-27 02:43:06 · update #1
Have you tried lube?
2006-10-27 02:20:12 · answer #1 · answered by Anarchy99 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have a couple of options. One, go see your obgyn and explain the problem. I am guessing that it hurts because you are not well lubed naturally? There are a variety of over the counter products that will work as a great lubricant and help desensitize you some so that you will not orgasm quite as quickly. If you do not want to see your Dr. then perhaps you can try some of these products that will help you last longer and both of you can get satisfaction. Also, let your husband know what is going on, have him be part of the solution and he will not feel so much like he is just being cut off and will know you are concerned about it and wanting to find a solution...Good luck...
2006-10-27 02:37:28 · answer #2 · answered by Suthern R 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well infrequent sex would make you ultra sensitive and finish quickly. The more often you do it the longer it will take. The muscles will develop and you will gain more control. After you orgasm ; change your position with your husband. For instance if you are on top and you "finish" then switch to doggy or whatever you like. Sometimes that's all it takes to continue. If you have a problem with drying out afterward then keep a product like astroglide close by which can help with that.
Also, speak with your gynocologist or internal meds doctor and they may be able to help with it.
2006-10-27 02:09:38 · answer #3 · answered by GrnApl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oral sex...for him....Relaxation techniques for you.
Take your time. Don't put too much pressure on yourself or him..it will just make things more difficult.
If it hurts after you orgasm....find different ways to have an orgasm. Start investigating different techniques positions and Check with your doctor about pain after orgasm for any underlying reasons you may not be aware of. Lubrication is a must!...try out a few different types.
There are so many out there...find one that works for you.
Just be patient and relax relax relax....go slow....it will all work out!
As far as the libido situation...you are going to have to figure that one out too..Speak to your Doctor about that as well. Start reading and researching. Find out what turns you on. start to explore the possibilities. talk about sex more often with your partner. Not about the things that bother you...but what each of you like, dislike or might want to try out. Doing this together might help your libido as well.
2006-10-27 01:52:26 · answer #4 · answered by Steph 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
3 issues are needed for a guy to get an erection. The male erection procedure is amazingly complicated and gentle. The libido is the psychological situation had to get an erection. He has problem getting an erection or protecting an erection and emotional pressure in basic terms makes it worse.
2016-12-05 07:00:24 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not unusual to experience some pain during sex on very rare occasions, but what you are describing sounds like a medical issue. Please address the pain with your doctor, because that is not normal.
2006-10-27 02:03:58 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
have you ever heard of foreplay? bring back the romance already! go to a good adult novelty store and buy some lotions and toys and for goodness sake, get a good lubricant!
2006-10-27 01:42:15 · answer #7 · answered by ooh baby 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi, you can still get pregnant. Artificial insemination is an option.
feel free to e-mail me ok
six7@hotmail.com
2006-10-27 01:43:47 · answer #8 · answered by six7foru 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Give him lots of BJs.
2006-10-27 06:49:01 · answer #9 · answered by onlineseeker 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try and see the doctor
2006-10-27 01:40:55 · answer #10 · answered by ntu 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋