Should the state pay for single parent families?

Question

Why should the state take the part of the husband for single parent families & pay money for single family children?

why aren't the real fathers made to pay/provide for their offspring?

Manicbrit: in cases like your yes i agree the money should available.

but in so many other cases the male walks out or the female sees it as a way to a free house and everyone else has to pay for their decision. if they practised contraception it wouldn't be a problem.

\\The ones who don't are the ones who don't know how the father is or have been in very short term relationships.//

they could have taken some form of contraception (this applies to men or women)

Answer 1

We the tax payer fund them, not the government as such.

Answer 2

The state has moral responsibility to take care of persons who cannot afford the basic necessities to survive. This will include the rearing of the offspring so that there would be a good chance that the newborn will follow the right track and become a good citizen.
However, the state cannot leave the issue just there! It must inquire into the circumstances why the mother became a single parent and take appropriate steps to ensure that she and the public become aware that it is only in certain situations the state will intervene to assist. If the male parent can be found, he should be made to reimburse the state. If it is found that the mother was equally culpable, she or some family member must be held accountable.
We cannot have a situation where males and females enjoy themselves and then place the burden on the state - because we as taxpayers are being used to fund the indiscretions of others.

Answer 3

I am a single parent on benefit. I was told 10 years ago I could not have children. I never started my periods. The absent father of my child had a vasectomy 12 years ago. he had 3 tests done a different times after having the op and it was a success. He is 1 of the 1 in 10,000 who tubes have re-knitted.

When I found out I was pregnant, he did not believe it to be his child. Even though he has had a re-test since and knows it is his son, he will not acknowledge him at all. The damage done by the previous situation was exacerbated when he moved in with another woman whilst I was pregnant.

I do not choose to be where I am, however I am British, I have paid into the state all my working life and I think I am entitled to help when I need it. I do not intend to be on benefits for a long time. The CSA - for all they are worth - have my son's fathers details and at some point they may catch up to him and he will have to take responsibility for his child. In the mean time, what am I supposed to do? I cannot work and I have no savings.

I think fathers should be financially responsible for their offspring - and I mean more than £5 a week, which for some reason the CSA has thought OK for some women - but the sad fact is, is that there are children who's fathers abandon them.

Answer 4

Children of living in a 'single parent' family should most certainly continue to be paid welfare by the state. That should continue until they are 16 years of age and classified as an adult and ready to go out to work. During their own lifetime[s] they will pay back many times more than was handed out.

There is also the issue of proving fatherhood. In many cases this might difficult, especially if the girl/woman/mother either does not know for sure who the father is or else is unwilling to say because a private source of income will simply dry up. Or, the liason between them is not over.

People have very complex love lives and no social services is ever going to be able fully to deal with this.

First we have to understand the Anglo Saxon lifestyle is not necessarily shared by all of the people of Britain. Most people have one partner and stick with that partner. There will always be a minority who have several partners.

The Anglo Saxon race are probably the most fertile on the planet and have a massive birth rate, far greater than any other race group living in Britain today. If the government seriously thinks it will stop girls having babies then it should think again. The backlash against any such government would be massive - we're talking ancient culture here of the native born British.

What other races chose to do is entirely their business - they too are entitled to benefits where they are needed - so no problem.

Answer 5

Not all parents of single families are that way by choice, in many families, fathers have low paid work, and do contribute, the CSA is there to see they do just that, although they are not doing it very well. The state picks up the tab to keep families off the bread line, after 15 years paying tax, 11 of those married, I found myself suddenly a single parent, my eldest child was 6, I had to have help. For this help I am made to feel lower than low and a parasite. I paid tax, I pay it now, but I also get help, when my children are older I will go full time and pay more tax, this helps everyone. It is called the Welfare state. I admit that some people seem to have babies for the sake of the welfare, but come on give the rest of us a break. Yearly checks into finance and all your personal things are carried out by civil servants, they guard the money with more care than their own. Contrary to news reports it is not easy to get help.

Answer 6

The problem is that the mothers you are criticising are barely more than children themselves, and see being a mother as something exciting, and yes, a way to a council house etc. The way to prevent this happening is through education, and not financially, as it is the child who is likely to go without food, new clothes, etc.

It is also wrong to penalise a single-mother if the father of her child (ren) has walked out; in most cases that is beyond her control.

There are also ways of obtaining non-State financial support through mutual agreement with the father.

Also there is the Child Support Agency (or its proposed successor body) which takes money from the father, either through his wages or benefits, and pays it to the mother.

For those who argue that single-mothers should go out to work I ask this: who looks after pre-school children? Part of the problem with society today is that children are starved of parental love, and putting the child in the care of a child-minder or nursery would further excerbate this, and would probably be financially unviable in most cases (the mother's salary would not cover the cost of the childcare).

Above all else, we should remember that when a family is short of money it is often the innocent child who suffers the most.

Answer 7

I agree that the kids are innocent and should not be made to suffer for their lousy parents mistakes. So yes state should look after them.

What concerns me more is the amount of families who are committing benefit fraud by lying to the social security agency that they are a single parent family when in fact the other spouse is living in the household as a partner and probably working to support the family. That is pure greed and an abuse of the system.

Genuine lone parent families have my sympathy but I agree more needs to be done to curb the epidemic especially among teenagers.

Young people in deprived areas feel like they have nothing in their lives. It is empty and they have no future. They feel having a kid will fill this void. Plus they'll get a council house, get it paid for the rest of their lives and get many other benefits.

I dont know what should be done. Punish those who are abusing the system for starters and make it less rewarding to have a kid in the first place. But we gotta balance this with keeping the kid's best interests preserved.

Answer 8

As a single parent, made so because of Domestic Violence and no fault of my own, I would say yes. I was on Income support until my kids went to school, then I went out to work. My 16 and 13 yr olds dad never supported then from the day he left. I have had a 13 yr battle with the CSA to get money out of him, he was finally made to pay this year. Without the state I would not have survived. I didn't enjoy taking the money and I have tried my best to put something back into society for the time I was claiming. The trouble is with some people they automatically think that most people become single parents to get money from the state and sit back and do nothing for the rest of their lives. It is not easy coping on state benefits and cetainly not fun and some of us didn't do it on purpose!

Answer 9

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Answer 10

real fathers are made to pay,via child support,and if that parent fails to pay their share,(which happens often)then yes,i think the state should pay,no child should have to suffer,single mothers or fathers deserve assistance when one of their parents becomes a deadbeat.

in a perfect world,contraception is practiced,but we all know this is not a perfect world,perhaps if better parenting came into play,then this would not be an issue(women raising women to do better things than get pregnant so young,stopping the cycle)

Answer 11

You tend to find that most single mothers work and have already sorted out financial arrangements with the fathers.

The ones who don't are the ones who don't know how the father is or have been in very short term relationships.

Also there are single parent fathers as well, they claim also.