last nignt ne tol me that he wants another girl joing us in the bedroom! he said it was only a fantasy.. he said he just want her to do stuff to me so he can watch me having plesure! and he also only doing things with me not with her? but obviously thats not all? or what do you think? but the thing is we've been together for to years and has a very healthy sex life and now im hearing this? is this normal? i dont know what to think or how to react!
2006-10-27 01:16:31 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
This is a common fantasy
tell him your fantasies!
2006-10-27 01:29:21 · answer #1 · answered by Anarchy99 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hello, i've got your answer plain and simple. being a male myself i can tell you that a guys sexual fantasies run wild. from before the first time we have intercourse till our sex drive runs out, and i'm not sure, but probably far beyond being an old man. i have been with the same girl for 4 yrs, now and every once in a while i'll mention something dirty and she'll tell me i'm a sicko. but, i can tell you, going through highschool, being sexually active did make me fantasize about other girls when i was dating someone. this is normal behavior, but, you have to know your boyfriend well enough to tell if he'll take the next step in fantasy without your consent. if you aren't into this then tell him so, and if he cares enough for you he will let it go. but if he acts strange about it he's probably just curious about having relations about another girl. but if your curious to and you want to give this a shot it's your game. if you let it happen, make sure you call the shots.
2006-10-29 19:26:57 · answer #2 · answered by fabio26 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's very normal. But you have to be secure in your relationship and also have to be bi-curious to do this. If this something that you are not interested in, then tell him. It's much better now to find out about each others fantasies and desires, then have them come up after your married. Do not feel pressured into doing something you do not want to do. Good luck.
2006-10-27 01:22:26 · answer #3 · answered by loser 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him in no uncertain terms that the fantasy can't cross over into realty. That you don't mind if he fantasizes about it but it must stay that a fantasy. I'm sure alot of guys fantasize about the same thing. Honesty it would probably scare us if we knew what was going on in there heads. :) Good Luck
2006-10-27 01:25:17 · answer #4 · answered by smile4u 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I couldn't be with a guy who would ask for things like that because I find it disrespectful. Before marrying my husband, I asked him about situations like threesomes and he had no interest whatsoever, which pleased me greatly. I think it comes down to love and respect - and when someone asks you to bring another person into the bedroom, I don't think it's possible that they truly love or respect you. You can do it and it will probably be fun, but it will guaranteed change your relationship with him. Think about it.
2006-10-27 02:02:06 · answer #5 · answered by Rachel 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is it a fantasy or does he really want to do it? It is great that he trust you enough to tell you his fantasies! Now, if he really wants to do it, it is your decision rather or not to! Sometimes talking about your fantasies is a real turn on, everybody has them, try sharing yours with him! It might be fun!
2006-10-27 01:23:22 · answer #6 · answered by kelley1031 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes its normal but most guys want it for themselves- they just tell you its for your pleasure and him not doing something is BS- he do you and then her because he tell you it would be great for our relationship== but remember this IF you do this for him he has to return the favor and do it for you two guys and you-- I bet he will tell you NO way--- guys ( and me being one ) love the ideal but it will hurt the relationship unless ya'll have a open relationship there will always be you cheated on me ( with someone else with me in the room )in the back of your mind--
2006-10-27 01:24:18 · answer #7 · answered by Ladder Captain-29 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him that no longer basically are you bored to death, yet you're down-perfect uncomfortable with the assumption and which you will no longer do it. era. If he can not handle it which you may inform him which you think of it may be clever for the two considered one of you to take a wreck till he can finally comprehend the way you sense. If he can not deliver himself to comprehend you, then you definately could end the courting. ~God bless
2016-10-16 11:18:00 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's very nice of him sharing with you.Imagine that he already asked a question (like u r now) and we advised him to be honest with you and share his fantasies.If only my husband told me everything.I really like to know his fantasies, so that way I can give him more pleasure.(only not asking another people in our bed,we leave in a modest country, there,s not much sex freedom).Tell him how you feel and what you like,it's your choice.If can't do that with another girl, then talk to him nasty while you have sex,for example: imagine that I'm with another girl and she does me thi and that , describe to him, that'll will satisfy him:)
2006-10-27 01:42:37 · answer #9 · answered by bilezlatko 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's every guys fantasy. Don't sweat it. If you do decide to go through with it, lay down very specific ground rules before hand. Bottom line, if you aren't comfortable with it. Don't go through with it.
2006-10-27 01:19:50 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋